Does "Treat him mean, keep him keen" really work? What is your opinion on it?

[Anonymous]

Title is pretty self explanatory. But do you think it's a good or bad thing to do because I hear that "technique" I guess you could say is apparently helpful. I want opinions on this because I'm not sure whether it is a good thing to do or not.

Sorry if I put this in the wrong category I wasn't really sure.

[1Analyst]

That tactic does in fact work with some weak minded beta-males. But most Men start to dislike a women who turns on the B*tch switch. The correct method to keep a guy is a controlled mix of submission and independence. Submit and he will like you, submit too much and he'll think your a doormat and either just use you or throw you away. Be totally independent and he'll not feel that this is a "relationship" but a little yielding goes a LONG way. Unless of course he's one of those guys who LOVES a submissive doll or a tough b*tch !

[redeyemindtricks]

Oh, when will people learn that "submit" is something you EARN.

Holler uncle! Tap out!
Dudes, you understand this concept. You get it. You've understood it since you were probably 6 years old.
Who taps out at random?
No one, that's who.

You're writing about "submit" as though it's some cavalier, arbitrary decision of arbitrary arbitrariness. "Oh, hey, today I think I'll go to the post office, hit up the gym, and submit." LOL

Maybe you should stop calling it "submit" and start calling it "tap out". Seriously, that may be the only thing you need to do, to understand how this shit works.

[AndrewTroy]

The short answer is it doesn't really work.

The long answer is that it does work but it's not worth perfecting. It's most effective on the insecure, and it's tricky to pull off, and it leads to many shitty relationships. Don't bother.

[MaskedSanity]

Humans are not Command Prompt. You don't get to input your silly "technique" and expect to get the same reaction.

If you continue to use dumbass advice from Cosmo instead of treating every person as an individual, you will only end up flat on your face.

I personally don't know a single man that enjoys these types of immature mind games.

[redeyemindtricks]

For any given man, there is at most 2 or 3 ways to get this right, and at least 2,874,623,216 ways to get this wrong. If you have to ask questions about it, you are the latter.

You guys do understand that proverbs are not meant to be taken literally, right? Right? Y'all? I mean, I don't hang out with diamonds on girls' night out, either?

[Natattack21]

I have never really heard of this. But, I usually go about it as... Well, this is my significant other. And, until he gives me a reason to treat him badly, i treat him well. Point blank. once he starts treating me badly, then that is when shit hits the fan... if thats what you're referring to.

[Asker]

It's pretty much where you don't act like you are interested in a guy you are actually interested in, such as ignoring him, etc.

[Natattack21]

OH, then no. that has never worked for me...

[kaylaS91]

I've never thought it makes much sense to go into dating with the mind-set of treating someone poorly, then expecting that to result in them wanting you more?

If that did work on a guy who's 18+, it would clearly show he's just got incredibly low self-esteem, not much dignity.

[thatkaruguy]

treat me mean and ill drop you off on the curb and never look back.

[Asker]

Well what if it was simply ignoring you for a bit after a huge argument?

[thatkaruguy]

ignoring me on purpose because you're made can get you sent to the curb even quicker. communication is important

[Asker]

Very true, thank you for your opinion on this, I've never gotten a guy's perspective on this, many girl's insist on doing so but knowing this opinion I know not to do it :)

[thatkaruguy]

no problem glad i could help!

[Minxxie]

No if you have to play games just to keep him the relationship is not worth keeping anyway. And treating people badly will always come back to bite you in the ass.

[AleDeEurope]

Treat me mean and never hear of me again. Pretty simple.

[dudegrt09]

Well it does work on some guys... seems to be working on me, but every guy has his limits, after a while he'll be tired of your bullshit and be done with you... but yes initially this could very well work, but why resort to manipulation anyway?

[Anonymous]

I would go too hard on the whole mean thing. Let him know you are interested without being too easy. Just know that being honest with guys is always easier because sometimes they get the wrong idea. In short, do this at your own risk.

[RationalMale]

works good on women.

pretty sure trying it on a man will just make him delete your number.

[idkwtftoputhere]

it works for some dudes. Everyone is different

[RationalMale]

ehh for wimps, maybe. but girls despise them anyways. @idkwtftoputhere

[RationalMale]

lol i misread thought you mean *on* some dudes

[Anonymous]

No! Being mean is not a good thing. Just be nice and if he likes you, he'll be keen on his own.

[DodgersGM]

Treat me poorly and you'll soon miss me sorely.

[kendraceci]

no girl he will walk out

[Polocrew]

Treat me mean and get ready for RKO