For girls, what makes a guy too forward?

Question

If you're attracted to him, what makes a guy too aggressive to the point where you get scared off?

TheGoodGirl · Accepted Answer

well, I'm 30 and quite confident. I still like it if a guy lets me know he's attracted to me, physically and mentally. and maybe being western european (were definitely less sexually inhibited than most other nationalities) I don't mind him letting me know he is sexually attracted to me. so I really think this depends on the nationality of the girl. if she is french, german, belgian, spanish etc. you can be a lot more forward.

i don't like it on the other hand if this is all he can talk about. if at the same time though he is also trying to forge an emotional connection by trying to get to know me, my likes, dislikes, character its allgood.

i like if they show an interest, texting as long as the girl seems interested (u can tell if she isn't, her answers take longer and are shorter and contain nothing that he could possibly reply to) is good. beyond that point, its a big turnoff.

meeting once/twice a week at the start is plenty. maybe I'm oldfashioned but I definitely like a guy to make the first step. I agree, aggressive is not always bad as it shows that he is really determined to get YOU. so if he doesn't give up straight away for me, its not a bad thing. if I tell him, I REALLY don't want u, then its time to give up but if a girl is playful about it she might just be checking if he is serious enough to get invested in. like if she brushes you off rather than tells you off, be persistent.

the reason we don't like guys that get too close too quickly (like the girl saying he sent her roses the next day) is because it seems that they don't want us for us (because how much can that guy know about her after one date) but they are just happy they found ANYBODY they can flirt with. we want to know that we are special. that at that particular moment in time they are courting us they don't want any other girl.

i don't need a guy to play hard to get in order to be attracted to him. I don't do mindgames.

some much more to say, so comment on my answer and I will clarify things for u.

luciaa · Accepted Answer

aggressive is hot and sexy. Be specific, and be real. Do it with a smile and a raised eyebrow. YUM. Too much, don't touch- be complimentary, not crass. Ask, and ask again. Leave us alone if we ask you to. If we talk, we are considering you. Go for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I once dated a guy that was very forward.

At the end of the first date, he immediately kissed me, catching me off guard. He didn't quite give me enough time to think or to even lean away if I didn't want the kiss. That to me was ridiculous. I don't think any guy should force himself upon a girl. Then he sent me flowers the next day, which at the time I thought was very cute and romantic, but thinking back, it was just a bit too much, too soon.

He was also the touchy feely type...as in some part of him always had to be touching me. I just thought that it was too soon for us to touch, I wasn't at that point yet and when he kept doing it, it just pushed me further away.

Anonymous · Answer

If I like the guy, then nothing except if he pays TOO MUCH ATTENTION.

Or tries to get physical too rough or too abrupt.

Bt o do not get scared off , I just feel suffocated.

I would not necessarily take off, if I LIKED him, I would give him a chance.

I can be an absolute dork, when in crush land, so I expect & tolerate it from others.. It would be at the point he was unresponsive to the me telling him it bothered me.

I really like to get to know people before getting involved.. I am not a fan of the friend zone scare.. I have always done better when given time to feel comfortable, cause being attracted to someone kind of throws me off balance.

I'm all about trying again^. So...

:-)

Cool-Relax · Answer

If we didn't know each other that well and weren't in a relationship, planning out our future together and telling me that he loves me would do it for me. Not on the same page...

I'm a pretty upfront person, so I like when people are upfront with me too. A guy being honest about what he's thinking and feeling doesn't bother me unless I don't feel the same way at all.

lovelyd · Answer

heres a few things I find really forward and aggressive:

txting and calling all the time, or right after we hung out.

like cute little txt msgs are nice, or a phone call before bed.. but that's it.

too quick too fast

i hate it when guys want to jump into a relationship, make sure your both ready.

slow and steady always wins the race.. it also makes it easier to get to know each the best.

giving away the chase

us girls like the whole hard to get/chase thing too.. to a point. After we got you.. we got you. No more hard to get.

clingyyyy

we need space too.. its nice to have a guy that's around.. but its not so nice whens he's ALWAYS around.

i don't know if this answered your question :p

ahah I was kindaa ranting :)

hope it helped

aloner · Answer

deffinatly when they border line stalk.

when they text you twice or more before you can answer once.

when you have more than 3 missed calls from them in 10 minutes(if its not about something impportant)

when they CONSTANTLY grabbing your arm or other body parts.

when the first thing they think about is you naked, or having sex with you

when they are TOO CLINGY.

if what the guy is saying is appropriate to the conversation then its okay.

Anonymous · Answer

hes always asking me out like more than usual, asking to go over to his house, too clingy, asking too many personal questions if he's relatively new in my life...

the right way to do it is to start from friendship, take your time to get to know the girl at least, don't just jump into flirting so much, and then progress from there, when you're both comfortable with each other, you can then flirt some more eyecontact light touching and consider a first date...

Brittastic · Answer

Stalking

calling way to much

making it way to obvious in a short amount of time (like 2 or 3 days

Always trying to make me hug you or him trying to kiss me to soon

Physically touching me to much or at all in some cases

KatTheGreat · Answer

Compliment her but not too much. I'm with a guy right now who compliments me every five seconds and it's starting to feel fake. Keep it real. and don't just compliment on her body compliment on her thoughts and actions. We like know that what were doing is sexy as well as how we look doing it.

footloose3232 · Answer

if he constantly is grabbing me or feeling the need to be around me.

If he calls me baby or something like that too quickly.

If he always asks what I'm doing and where I'm at.

if he hints at sex too early.

if he only notices me physically, and won't stop talking about my physical attributes.

alll of those are so annnoyingggggg.(:

cocteaugirl75 · Answer

If he calls me or text me all day.

If he watches and replies on every FB comment.

If he keeps pushing for more when I want it slower.

Lots of things!

Then there is the opposite.

You gain interest and he just doesn't do anything to take it to the next level.

CONFIDENCE IS KEY!

BethanyKay12 · Answer

when all a guy thinks about and talks about is sex and everything he wants to do to you that pushes girls away because guys think it turns a girl on but in reality it really doesnt. Girls will think your easy and girls like a chase and hard to get its a total turn on. :)

well for me at least and a lot of other girls. :) hope I helped.

taboo012 · Answer

I tend to want to create as much distance between a guy and myself when he doesn't accept my no right away and keeps asking for a date or won't accept the first explanation for refusing him.

I also don't like it when a guy knows nothing about me, but wants a date anyways. I'd say give us a chance to assess your personality before pushing forward.

Deajevou · Answer

When you meet someone you like your just meeting them, getting to know them. So your at a stage where your wondering, what type of person are they), what do they like, just everything about them. Anything beyond this is just plain wrong, (e.g. sex, kissing, stalking)! Basically acting out of character or scaring the girl. There's a way to approach each type of girl, especially if your intentions are to get with her as BF/GF..! If your intentions aren't to get with her then don't approach a girl with it, we hate it! Another way you can be to forward, trying to make the girl want you, you can't make anyone want anything. Coming on to strong, especially if she doesn't like you..lol! Just leave it alone..find another!

SuckerPunch · Answer

Here's just a list of things:

Too Clingy, obviously

If he can't talk about anything but being with me then there's nothing to talk about and it makes me uninterested

Don't be forward tooo fast because girls need to wonder if the guy likes them and too soon makes you seem desperate

Start sending signs that you're interested before and if she responds to those signs in a good way keep sending more before you really go for it

If she's shutting you down just leave it but try to be a friend at least for a little or you just seem like an ass

GaahGaah · Answer

Hmmmm , What Makes a guy to forward would be when he has to every single little thing about you . and wants to spent every single minute with you , EVEN IF YOURE NOT TOGETHER . that's preetty forward . OH &&  if we ask you to stop doing somthing and you disregaurd what we say and continue it, that would come off as sorta forward

cutie4541 · Answer

well for me if I like him I like when he makes all the moves but girls usually like it when guys are gentle so when you make a move she feels safe and usually if your going to far she'll tell you but if you were gentle it won't scare her away.

if you have any questions add me and ask away

Anonymous · Answer

lol I asked the girl version of this question...I did a double-take on this one!

For me, a guy would cross the line into being too aggressive if he's pushy toward the girl, when the girl's obviously not interested. As in...the girl expresses her disinterest and he continues to pursue. A bit of an extreme case, I guess, but definitely a turn-off nonetheless.

But like blackbird said, if the attraction is mutual, though, aggress away!

Angeljeo · Answer

Well, for me it is when a guy is a little to aggressive when we are on a date or when a man is to much of a bully trying to get what he wants and I don't just mean when it comes to sex but when he is trying to show off and making people uncomfortable. I also don't like when a man asks all sorts of personal questions on a first date.

blazinbabygirl · Answer

i can't stand guys that call all the time.. give us time to breathe.. or text every min of the day.. its cute at first but can get really old.. && I hate guys that ask for sex or anything sexual that's way to forward and such a turnoff!

cariemehome · Answer

You know I read a majority of these answers, but it all comes down to if she's attracted to you then she's going to accept you regardless of if you are a bit to forward. If she doesn't then her loss. BUT all girls are different so you just kinda have to be observant, because most girls give out symptoms haha you'll notice some of these though.

blackbird · Answer

This question looks awfully familiar... lol. Well I think the biggest part of it is whether or not you feel attraction for him in the first place.

anon8 · Answer

"can we have sex? please? I really want to have sex with you?"  no next day: "So want to have sex?" Answer hasn't changed!

coccacammabamma · Answer

Being angry all the time, and being far too honest little white lies work sometimes ;)

ScorpioChiick · Answer

don't like it when guys try to get really serious too fast what's wrong with takings slow lol I'm in noo rush

XxFuneral4aFriendxX · Answer

it's Sexy but jerkyness is not at alll sexy at least for me..just no aggression toward the girl..unless its playfull kinda like my boyfriend :3

Anonymous · Answer

no girl likes a guy whos too clingy and gets jealous when the girl talks to other guys . Also seeming desperate towards the girl . eg texting 24/7 and constantly flirting might scare her off! just make her have an idea that you like her and you never know , she might make the the first move (:

samsochocolate · Answer

aggressively pushing me (psysically) to hv sex with me.. and I get reli scared and find it so annoying when guys push too hard. in any way. be it asking me out or making do things. scary

bobbysmith · Answer

if the guy always texts you and always does everything

volleyballgrl422 · Answer

when a guy maybe gets in bed, of goes too far on a date like touchin.

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