Monday, girl 1: "hey you ready to go out tonight for something to eat?"
*2 hours later*
"oh im sorry I can't my grandma needs me"
Tuesday girl 2: "hey ready to hang out, maybe grab lunch?"
*1 hour later*
"oh sorry I can't I have to study for school"
Thursday girl 3
"hey you wanna go out for drinks tonight? I have this great bar in mind"
*3 hours later, its now midnight*
"oh im sorry emergency happened, dog died."
"didnt that happen last week?"
"my... other dog died too.
Saturday girl 4: "hey you ready to hang out at the carnival happening this weekend?"
"hell yea dude!"
"cool ill meet you there!"
well at least one came through this week.
Because too many women today are attention whores and flakes and if a guy puts his eggs in one basket he could very well waste a good bit of time if a girl just ups and decides to ghost on him.
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And let's not get it twisted the reason a lot of women are flaky these days is because you guys be messaging multiple men and if another nigga gives you a better offer no matter what promises you made to the guy beforehand. You will drop him.
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To put it simply, he doesn't actually like you if he's flirting with multiple women. If he was interested in dating , he would flirt with you and only you. Sounds like the classic case of a fuckboy. Don't trip though chica, I'm sure you're lovely and you'll find a better guy who's not a player.
It's his personality. Some people would flirt with a baboon.
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That's the fisherman mentality, it's like spreading the net wide in the sea and hoping to catch as many fish as possible.
In short it gets you nowhere, it's like starting many projects at once and not getting anywhere, because no one actually has your attention.
Because he is taking matters into his own hands and playing the field. He is taking the initiative and establishing value in a dating market that is stacked against the majority of guys. Good for him.
You can't tell if he really likes you. You are powerless in this exchsnge. That's the point. All you can do is prove yourself by putting in extra effort and appealing to his likes and desires.
Welcome to the position most guys your age will be in for the next 5-10 years.
Because you need to look at it from a male perspective.
Women have a higher success rate than men. A decent woman could ask out 10 guys, and at least half would give her a shot.
A decent guy could ask out 10 girls and maybe one would agree on a date.
Men need to play the numbers game or they will get nowhere.
Because you aren't particularly interested in anybody but everybody seems "date-able".
So you flirt with everybody and whoever is the most interested will eventually make their own move out of jealousy or to ensure the "catch" for themselves and the dude doesn't have to waste time chasing somebody who might not even give crap about them.
It is low-effort high-success "strategy" that I was basically doing all the time.
Because believe it or not you're not the prettiest girl in this world. Men are always going to see other women who are even more gorgeous. Plus we're keeping our options open, not only that when we're younger we're usually trying to nail as many females as we can.
Guys that flirt with multiple girls at once are just playing the panty lottery. If he keeps playing at some point he is going to win. Odds work for him. That some girl won't mind that he is interested in everyone. And give him some action. Most guys like this aren't serious about looking for a relationship. Just sex.
When you waste time on one girl for a few weeks or months and they flake on you and get wishy-washy it's a big letdown and after enough times you just learn that focusing entirely on one woman is just asking to get hurt and have your time wasted. The best strategy for men, whether looking to get laid or looking for a date, is to talk to multiple women.
I can only give you my perspective on this. If I like a girl I only flirt (or rather, I try to) with her. However, recently most of the girls that have shown any interest in me tell me they're not ready for a relationship, so I keep trying to find one who is.
I have noticed over the years that women have a really bad habit of just disappearing/ghosting a guy after a while. I have learned that if you are a single man, to prevent you from getting attached to one, and to avoid heartbreak after she starts ghosting you... it is better to talk to many different women at once. So this way, when one woman stops talking to you, you have a few more to talk to.
because you women are irrational and will probably reject me so I up my chances by hitting 30 girls at a time. Even then none of them accept me.
You can hit 30 guys and will probably get 20/30 of them.
It's like with job applications: if you have only one pending at a time you'll either be unemployed for a very long time or have to settle for a sh*tty job...
Because it's a numbers game and the confident men you like gained there confidence by talking to many different women
Well I do flirt with not many girls but I flirt.. and the reason is that this girl I used to like flirted with many others too.. so I was trying to keep my options open because I saw that I was not the only one she would flirt with..
I'm a one girl at a time kinda guy myself. I don't think he's worth your time if he isn't giving you all of his attention.
Either he doesn't want to date anyone in particular or he just wants to maximize his success by expanding his options.
If you throw a wide net your bound to ketch a lot of fishes in the sea, the smelly ones that is
Because finding women is a fucking chore. We can't invest in just one woman because of how easily they flake on us.
You can't tell if he likes you if he does that with everyone.
For the same reason that when you need a job, you send out a few dozen applications.
Then he doesn't like you.
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