How to respond to a 'lol' in text from a girl?

[ccp16]

I know normally that this is a clear sign from a girl that she is bored with the text, I know people will bring that up, but I get it. Also, I did ask her out, but she said she would like to just text for a week or two because she barely knows me and had a super bad experiance with a guy she hardly knew- which I get, but it's hard to keep it going with someone I barely know...

Anyway, the difference here from most similar situations, is that we have been texting non-stop for over a week now, at least every 30 min if not constantly at night. We also both send huge long texts, like paragraphs long. So nothing had changed, we had both been texting long and quick as normal, but the last text I got was just 'lol'. Granted I did not really ask a question and could have just kept going with what we were saying, but I didn't want to force it or seem clingy- so I just let it go and now we are in an awkward silence...

A female friend said sometimes girls do something like that to see how interested the guy is (if he keeps trying)?

I have never enjoyed texting a girl so much and would really like to keep this going until we can meet up, at least to give it a chance in person. I will likely text her tomorrow anyway, but what do you all think?

[Anonymous]

Don't fuckin text her. You're too emotionally involved. What I've found is that when I got a girls number for my friend and texted her for him... she was proper interested because I never acted needy since it wasn't me who liked the girl but my friend.
In other words you want to bond with her which is good but she'll notice you're thirsty. I'm not suggesting games but u need to know when to take a break.
The more you talk to her in a short amount of time the less value u have. U made a mistake you created a lull in the convo and it ended. You of left when the Convo was exciting still. Never leave on a flat note

[ccp16]

Well its been 24 hours by this point. i was going to just wait and text tomorrow or Sunday if she does no respond. If she never texts back, are you suggesting I just leave it?

[Opinion Owner]

If she doesn't text back in 3days then text her. But I suggest u know what you are dealing with. If she doesn't text back in that time text her but if a situation occurs where you leave the last message and she doesn't respond and doesn't text back after several days you have a hard to get type of girl on your hands.
Just tell her you are busy that way when you talk to her she will value your time more and also know that when she doesn't text the world doesn't stop for you

[ccp16]

Well technically she was the last to text, but I absolutely get what you are saying. I am thinking I might text Sunday night some because I'm free anyway and I do actually ha a a busy Saturday haha

[Tdieseler]

You've burned yourselves out... now there's nothing to talk about. the "lol" should be taken as a sign that the convo needs a break. even tomorrow might be too short. just let her text you, whenever that might be.

[ccp16]

Its tough man! I have never texted a girl like this before, not even exes. 5 days, all text and basically only having said hi in person is hard. I am just afraid she won't text back, given it is my turn now. But I think you are right, I will likely give tomorrow off. It's just tough given how modern dating seems like if you snooze, you will indeed loose to someone else...

[Tdieseler]

not if you know what you are doing. breaks are always good. gives you something to talk about next time.

[ccp16]

Thanks, we can only hope so. At the very least I can start the conversation fresh with a great new topic.

[Tdieseler]

i recommend letting her start.

[ccp16]

Even though it is technically my turn to start? What if a few days go by and nothing happens?

[Tdieseler]

i thought the conversation ended with her saying "lol"...

[ccp16]

She did. So she was the last person to text meaning it is my turn?

[Tdieseler]

she used a conversation ender. if you end a conversation via text, the least you could do is bring up another. At least, thats my rule.
if you want to start again, by all means, go ahead but when she ends it with another "lol" or "ok" or "sure" or emoji, then the cycle will repeat itself again until eventually you will run out of topics to bring up, the conversation will die down to "what you up to", "how are you", "whats up", "wyd"... all of these which only have conversation enders as answers. Over time your amazing texting time will dwindle down and die.
so your choice.

[ccp16]

Oh no, if she pulls this even one MAYBE two more times, I am out. I refuse to be the only doing the talking.

I get what you are saying though! If I don't hear back by Sunday, I'll try something one more time and see how she responds, but that probs it.

[Tdieseler]

well. if you respond first, you just increase the chances of it happening again.

[ccp16]

I guess I had not thought of it that way...

[Tdieseler]

what is your relationship with this girl... and what do you want it to be...

[ccp16]

Barely acquainted. Based off of texting though, I'd like to at least get one date with her... I'm not like head over heels or anything though, if this does not work out, I'll be upset for maybe 2 days... But from what I do know, I like this far.

[Tdieseler]

no wonder you are too eager, taking shit up on urself. she doesn't run you, learn to let go.

[ccp16]

I have been single a long time and not that I have not had girls interest in me, but this is the closest I have been to interested in a girl. So that's why I'm a little eager lol

[Tdieseler]

So you don't have much of a trend to go with... well let me help you... its usually the ones you like that don't like you back, and its usually the ones that you like that are wrong for you.

[ccp16]

Well I do know that much... but I am also not going to date a girl just because she likes me if I don't feel the same for her. It is all about finding the one from every thousand.

[heavenonearth]

I would just leave it at that until tomorrow, unless she texts you before that. I think she just didn't have much to say to your last comment, or she has something going on and can't keep up a back and forth text conversation right now.

[ccp16]

Yea, I really did not leave her much unfortunately... But I had hoped to move on after she replied lol how soon is too soon to text back? should I just give it all of tomorrow off you think?

[heavenonearth]

Yeah, you have to give her something to work with haha. Text her something she can easily reply to, and you can do that whenever, it won't seem too soon if you've been texting almost constantly this past week. Or the other option is to just give it a rest and start fresh tomorrow morning/afternoon.

[ccp16]

I get that, really! I guess I just thought there barely was enough and then I could move to something new next. I will already be writing more than 12 hours by time I wake up tomorrow lol, maybe tomorrow afternoon. I hope you are right and that is not too soon.

[heavenonearth]

Tomorrow sounds good. Don't worry about it, it's not too soon, especially if she's been keeping up with texting you almost constantly. Any more and she'll wonder where you disappeared off to lol, or if she offended you with her short reply, or some other over-analyzing type thought haha.

[ccp16]

Ya, she has been very prompt and equally involved in asking and answering, like I said, we text paragraphs to each other and this was true for her right up to the 'lol'.

I am over analyzing it! I sort of hope she is too, it shows mutual interest... hopefully she will jsut text first and it will all be cool, if not I'll text tomorrow afternoon.

[heavenonearth]

I'm sure you both are haha. Well either way, sounds like there's mutual interest and it'll work out. Good luck!

[ccp16]

Thanks, one can only hope lol

[Fusionpredz]

Ur reading too much into this shit lol.

[ccp16]

I have never really texted much... not even with exes hahaha I am sure I am lol