Attractive chicks with no boyfriend?

Question

Have you guys ever noticed that some of the most attractive girls don't have a boyfriend and other girls that are not so attractive do... Why is that?

jdcpa · Accepted Answer

A lot of reasons..

But I think it just boils down to assumptions..

Since guys are the ones who usually approach.. they have to dissect a person emotionally first.. before they even talk to them..

That means.. based on very limited information.. he has to use major assumptions to draw even more major conclusions about a person's inner psychology.. to determine if it's someone he wants to approach.. doesn't want to approach.. or wants to approach.. but will most likely waste his time doing so because it won't lead to anything..

Intimidation is definitely a factor.. but there's a fine line between intimidation and flat-out rejection..

Guys reject girls all the time.. It's very easy when your job is to approach.. all you have to do is not approach.. A girl can only wait for a guy to first approach her.. before she has anything to reject.. So even though guys complain about rejection.. they should really take a moment to think about exactly how many girls they reject throughout their life! they've probably rejected more girls today alone, than they themselves have been rejected their whole life!

Intimidation implies you want to approach.. but you don't.. because you don't feel it would lead anywhere.. but BECAUSE.. YOU FEEL that what you have to offer her.. is less than what she has to offer you.. BECAUSE YOU FEEL you are less valuable (or she is more valuable) than you.. you feel intimidated.. and so.. you don't approach.. out of fear of rejection.. even if it would or wouldn't really be the case..

but..

If you want to approach.. but you don't.. because you don't feel it would lead anywhere.. but BECAUSE SHE feels that either you have less to offer her than she has to offer you, or that she has more to offer you than you have to offer her.. and you know this to not be the case.. then you not approaching her isn't due to "intimidation".. but simply because you're not just looking to get laid.. and you've already determined that you wouldn't be happy, appreciated and respected in this relationship..

Both are simply more likely to happen to anyone that's more attractive.. and it's not just with girls.. it's with guys too! I hear girls all the time.. thinking that a guy is a jerk, a-hole, or otherwise bad person, for no other reason, other than the simple fact that he looks good..

Then.. I guess there's also a valuation issue.. There's such a thing as "too beautiful"..

For example:

If a girl is an 8.. and you'd be perfectly happy with that girl.. then a girl that's a 10 stands NO CHANCE of you ever approaching her!

Why? because in order for the girl that's a 10.. to feel better than a girl that's an 8.. she has to somehow one-up the 8.. and it's usually in what she expects from the guy.. but if the guy's beauty requirement has already more than been satisfied.. and he's faced with additional beauty he could care less for.. at an additional cost.. he'll pass.. which ends up leaving very attractive women single..

superdudeman · Accepted Answer

There are many reasons.

1. People tend to dismiss things they believe they can never have.

2. Hot women are intimidating, most guys that approach them are one of three things.

A: drunk.

B: shy and socially inept.

C: not shy, not socially inept, but he's nervous, or sexually excited, and thus it comes off awkward.

3. Because the women feel that they don't need to improve anything else. After all they are hot and they have everything. They assume that since looks is all men care about, then they have it all.*they are wrong btw. its the most important, not the only thing we care about.* 20 years later they have nothing and no one wants them.

4. They have more initial walls than an ugly woman. Ugly women have walls during the whole time you know them. Hot women only have initial walls, and a whole lot of them, because most men never get past the first few. That's why the uglier a woman is, the more baggage they tend to have.

5. People project their own insecurities on other people. Women who are attractive tend to take care of their looks more, and better. They tend to place a lot more money on superficial things, such as brand names. Prada, gucci, etc. Which in turn makes men think they are gold diggers. When really they just like looking nice. Ugly women realize its simply putting lipstick on a pig. Lets face it, your not going to look any better sporting a pair of prada pumps if you are 900 lbs.

Ughn.. I can keep going, but I did this per a request of someone.

Aleyna · Accepted Answer

I've had a lot of men ask why I'm single, and its a difficult question to answer because its sort of private. Long story short, I have lots of other things taking up my time and energy and just don't have anything left over to be a good mate. So I'll go out and grab drinks sometimes with friends and suff, but I turn down one-on-one dates with men. Sometimes I'll accept an offer, but I don't want to lead him on so I'll limit the dates. So its nothing personal. I try to tell guys that but they don't believe me and instead choose to be butthurt. I just have a busy life and know my limits. Would you want to be with me (because I'm attractive, etc), only to find out I don't have the time/energy to pay you the attention you deserve? So no not all good looking women, or shy women, or stand-offish women are arrogant bitches. Maybe its something else you didn't consider. Maybe she has kids who are the center of her world. Maybe she is a rape victim and has trust issues. Maybe she has severe medical problems she's embarrassed about. Maybe she works three jobs, and goes to school, so has no time to date. Maybe you remind her of an ex boyfriend she doesn't like. Maybe she doesn't even know she's attractive and so thinks you're just yanking her chain. You don't know. People (at least women) don't generally put their true selves on display when they're out mingling, and its rare that someone is going to come right out and tell you exactly what they're thinking/feeling on a first encounter. Just because you perceive someone as physically attractive does not mean that is the sole essence of their existence.

This is exactly why confident men are sexier. Insecure men look at women as objects to be obtained. Confident men are more ready to embrace her as a whole person with her own life and goals and history. When you call someone arrogant an bitch that is a reflection of your own judgmental, hurtful, and narrow-minded character.

frazzle · Accepted Answer

this is something that I heard once and stuck with me.

Think of it like a fruit tree. All the girls that are trashy and cheap are the over ripe fruit that has fallen on the ground and can be picked up by any guy that comes along, the mediocre girls are on the apples on lower branches that are still easy to reach and are the most common. But the really beautiful girls who are found at the top of the tree are simply stared at because men they believe that they will never be able to reach those top branches, and settle for the lower and rotten fruit. as a result the amazing girls are led to believe that their must be something wrong with them because no-one attempts to pick them, and are left waiting at the top of the tree for a man who is brave enough to try.

Soxie1 · Accepted Answer

I honestly think most guys are intimidated, as most attractive girls appear standoff-ish and like I wouldn't want to approach them and have a conversation. Also, a lot of good looking girls are friends with only other girls, and many relationships start off as friends, which doesn't work because they don't have any guy friends to choose from.. haha

papillion · Answer

:::I think that sometimes pretty women get self absorb in their future, since they don't have worry about their attention department, but as someone mentioned before once they fall they fall deep and forget their wants...their future is no longer their center of attention, now they have Mr. Right, once Mr. Right discover that pretty girls is focus on him...He know he has won the trophy to a higher level of beauty...Pretty girl's boyfriend now has a bigger ego and wants more, no matter if they are ugly or handsome they have upgraded their ego...They start looking for higher beauty...'some other pretty girl, because their own pretty girl is too boring and no longer interesting, because they become caring and sometimes demanding'... Because their pretty girl now wants Mr. Right and future together in a family(attention divided in 2, less self concentration)...And so this so call 'pretty girl 1' gets tell the self blame of "I new that was going to happen..He didn't love me the way I was...Poor me", so they now are the also so called "bi.ch.es"...just a vicious circle...until the nature of our time comes to take our youth of beauty...we realize we are also human...upps I'm a pretty girl but I got a procreational charge too... for f***ing...times up!...

magiiic_mike · Answer

The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they're afraid of getting hurt. So instead, they just take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy to get...

someone else said it better but I thought it could help

enigma2win · Answer

Simply because hot girls when they are young, want to LIVE LIFE and experience the world of SEX and NO STRINGS attached.

Its perfectly normal, since many of those girls have hopes and dreams for their future, and boyfriends can ruin them. Relationships for girls, are a huge thing, because sooner or later they fall in love and get very attached to their partner. When that happens, their future plans get blury and they lose focus on what they really want in life.

So, they just have fun and experience the world for what it is, since they are hot and guys want them, they just go along for the ride.

abusauce · Answer

haha because attractice women love that men chase them, its a game for them, they are young and good looking why settle down now right? where not so good looking women may as well take what they can get and settle down because no ones chasing them. ( I sincerely apologize for the way I'm saying it but its true)

Ivansanzana · Answer

Attractive women usually get their self worth from their looks, they are self centered, selfish, arrogant and have so many other wonderful qualities and men can see that, they are good to play with but nobody wants to be the poor bastard that pays the bill these beauties will run up with their shopping, and outrageous lifestyles.

I was married to such beauty once, I heard her say so many times "I have always been the pretty one...that's why I get away with it" she conducted her life in that manner.

Give me a good woman any day, beauty is so secondary to me!

forget about it!

jmvcool · Answer

girls always expect the guy to do the asking out, but guys are usually just as nervous as us. now if you were a guy, would you take your chances with the drop dead gorgeous girl who could turn you down and completely embarress you (the one you think you aren't good enough for), or would you ask out the one that's 'ok' looking that will most likely say yes. I know I would pick the ok one

DJKlaasJan · Answer

its not that we are intimidated. Its the b*tch shield personality that they put on and make men feel repulsed. Its like going to a party angry, no girls/guys are going to want to approach you because its absolutely unattractive. If a girl thinks she's too pretty and starts putting on this "don't chat to me, I'm in a sh*t mood" then she's going to end up alone...that is unless she starts gold digging and puts down her shield so tht any man left with the courage to chat to her, she'll just give in.

BobNugget · Answer

usally becase when a guy sees a beautiful girl, they think "Wow,shes perty. but ill never be with her. I must be out of my mind." But when they see less attractive (I hate the male race for this) they think,"well I have a chance with her. everybody else has a gf, why not me? shell probly take me." just to prove it, I'm not the most amazing guy in school. but I started talking to this extramly beautiful girl. we got togeather and we love it. when the word spread, no one could belive it. no one had never been with her. its rediculous

hunnie-bunches · Answer

could be a number of things like the attractive single girl likes all the different attention so she stays single, or it could be that men think the attractive ones will be flirtatious with other men or even cheat, or it could be that the attractive girls have been in relationships where her ''outta her league'' boyfriends were possesive or overjealous, or it could be that men are afraid the attractive girl will reject them or it could be tha attractive girls think theyre too good for every man that tries to get at them ...on and on and on...

brunohusker · Answer

because guys are afraid to approach then. They think they aren't good enough and get scared. I mean I have that feeling all the time. I mean I ain't the best looking and I mean having no date or girlfriend at 21 must mean I'm ugly or something LOL

Brando · Answer

Not really. I mean, yeah I've seen some pretty attractive girls who are single, but around here they generally fall into one of 2 categories. 1) They are the party girl type and enjoy being single and playing the field, whether it be flings or short relationships. Or 2) They do have boyfriends and so she's off limits.

I didn't give the single and looking girls a category just because I don't see many of them. Or I at least don't know because you can't really tell if a girl is single or not.

Treet33 · Answer

Just because a girl is attractive, doesn't mean that she needs to have a boyfriend. It depends on the person, some people like their space and are not looking for a relationship all the time. I find it kind of offensive when a guy asks me "why are you single? you're too pretty to be single? WTF? Like a pretty girl is suppose to ALWAYS be with somebody? Give me a break! I like my space, it's fun to date and have guy friends, but not all women are looking to have a boyfriend all the time or tie the knot...that's a myth!

Cluelesswithmen · Answer

Just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they know and understand how to appreciate someone and be a good spouse. This is true for male and females.

I know so many attractive men and women who can probably get who ever they want. But have not been successful in keeping someone. Learning how to understand that one person your with and how you two settle your differences is one of the biggest challenge to having a solid relationship.

Elcristoph · Answer

becouse there's more to a relationship that looks, trust me, chances are those women don't get aprotched by most guys who are scared to go up to them and ask for there number. In my experiance women like that tend to be very high maintaince and unflexable, just not good relationship material..

Lex48 · Answer

Any of these are very likely scenarios but not the only ones possible. These are the most common I have seen.

A) They feel that none of the guys available/around are worthy of them because they know how attractive they are.

B) They have very little self-confidence and don't think that any guy they think is attractive is being sincere when they ask them out or say they are pretty.

C) They don't want to have a relationship just because someone shows interest.

D) They have their sights set on someone unattainable.

Anonymous · Answer

I know many "hot girls" and usually when they know their hot they get cocky and concited and that makes them UNATTRACTIVE to a lot of guys... plus, I don't think I'm hot but I have been told I'm really pretty and beautiful.. guys have also told me I intimidate them because of my confedance.. and that they can hang out with me and just be themselves... they don't have to try to impress me all the time where as a "hot girl" a guy usually feels like he's constantly trying to impress her even when he already has her.

link33333333333 · Answer

they're usually the lonliest girls, because guys think "shes out of my league" and no one tries to even approach them.

tigerguy · Answer

the reason why is some of these good looking girls are very shallow on both ends like they will think they are hot and too good for some guys and they think they can do better. also they do this thing where they play hard to get which is pathetic.

but as always the guy they hold out for will probably is already taken,

the less attractive girls as you put it have boyfriends because they arnt so shallow and give the guys chances to go out with them

Anonymous · Answer

becuz the attractive woman get enogh attention that they wanna be left alone but the ugly one's want to feel love's and get in a relationship and the pretty one's are picky and looking for the right guy but right guy is sometime's affraid to approach becuz chick is very pretty

Anonymous · Answer

Well it depends on what kind of signs an attractive chick give out to a guy. Some attractive chicks act like they're too good for anybody. There's definitely nothing wrong with having an attractive female. I love attractive females to the fullest. I thought all attractive females should have guys all over them. What's your problem?

sammy93 · Answer

Because pretty girls think that they are too pretty for any guy,in other words, they're looking for a perfect guy that looks very handsome. These type of guys are rare, plus they have a bad attitude, most of them. That's why the guys rather talk to girls that don't have that type of bad attitude. Why? Because they don't wanna deal with the problems that the pretty girls are gonna give the guy.

Delahatesyou · Answer

Its just an intimidation factor.  Guys generally assume the hot girl will turn them down, so no guy goes up to them.  That's why its ALWAYS a good idea to go for the hottest girls, who knows you might be the first guy to ask em out.

rocksongwriter · Answer

"Have you guys ever noticed that some of the most attractive girls don't have a boyfriend and other girls that are not so attractive do."

I have never noticed that. What city do you live in? I'm moving there.

tommyvercetti · Answer

thats because I don't want to get rejected... and if very very beautiful gal says "NO" in my face, I would probably say to myself "how dare "I" go and ask her" ... and trust me when you are looked down in ur own eyes, nothing worse than that...

CakeGirl02 · Answer

I believe that the guys are insecure and know that really attractive girls will always have options as to who date and can never feel fully secure in a relationship with them.  It's a comfort thing, not to mention intimidation.

tex151 · Answer

Three reasons  1. Guys are to afraid to talk to her 2.she is very picky 3. She is a bitch and no man no matter how hot she is wants to date her  normally it is the third  reason.

inthememetime · Answer

Yes. Being pretty will get you laid but it's not enough to get a guy to commit if you're not girlfriend material. This is the main point of the book, "How Did She Get Him - Become Girlfriend Material and Ditch the One Night Stand & Friend Zone Label" (https://www. amazon. com/How-Did-She-Get-Him-ebook/dp/B074P2VGQ8/ref=asap_bc? ie=UTF8)

Essentially, there are certain things men are looking for in the women they commit to and invest in. If you don’t have these traits and qualities, say goodbye to the girlfriend label.

TheCat · Answer

People find me attractive, and always ask why I am single. My answer - I simply haven't found the right guy for the job. Guys that want to date me, end up only doing so because they want to get intimate. Plus, I have way more fun with fooling around! I'm not trying to sound sleazy or cocky. This is just the plain ol' truth.

pezzonovante88 · Answer

Assuming you are referring to 'attractive" in a physical sense.  Its probably guys being intimidated or the hot girl being an egotistical, narcissistic slut and not having the personality or inclination to have a meaningful relationship.

emzy-89 · Answer

maybe the attractive girls are really stuck up because they're beautiful and think they can get anyone they choose and the not so attractive girls have a more down-to-earth persnality and are fun to be around.

not everyone thinks that only good looking people should have someone interested in them, some of us have grown up...

katrenshaw · Answer

cus they get all the player guys who don't want girlfriends and all the good guys doubt themsleves that they would have a chase with a hot girl

Anonymous · Answer

I have notice the "best girls" are the worst girls... Basically the best girls tend to be insecure about guys lying  and the best girls are usally "my way or no way", they too picky... must I say more?

firebomb · Answer

Because REALLY pretty girls may be stuck up, and not wanting to settle down because they like the freedom and attention.  Also, they may be intimidating.  Whereas, the average looking girls are taken, because they are the total opposite,  lol.   they may not be stuck up, and they are ready to settle down.

Anonymous · Answer

because hot girls has standards and they don't just go out with anyone.

SueOdberg · Answer

It's sad but true, that most guys don't feel worthy of us. They don't have enough confidence in themselves to feel worthy of a really attractive girl. Sigh! If it wasn't for my brother I'd probably be dateless.

chorboys · Answer

if a hot girl doesn't have a boyfriend, she's either a skank, hasn't found the right guy, or just isn't interested in a relationship. hot girls get hit on 24/7

esahc88 · Answer

I don't know  have noteiced a lot of "hot girls" that are dating men taht are not so attractive. Some people just aren't made for commitments.

x0loovex33 · Answer

maybe they don't want a boyfriend. they are comfortable with how there life is and whatnot. and then the girls that aren't so attractive are insecure bout themselves, so they NEED a man to make themselves feel better. so the first guy that comes along they jump on as opposed to the attractive girl who doesn't need someone else to make her feel good about herself.

Anonymous · Answer

because the attractive girls get plenty of attention and are out there getting f***ed. they settle down in committed relationships once they feel like they are getting old

doliia · Answer

i don't know! I'm not being all self obsorbed when I say, I'm the hottest girl in my grade and I'm smart, funny, popular etc. but I don't have a boyfriend :( I've like barely ever been asked out and I don't get it haha!

psshhh guys are weird!

Bruce · Answer

One of the few, really interesing questions on this site...Thank you for posing...thought provoking.   Bruce

AcEMasTeR · Answer

idk lol maybe most guys think they don't deserve the hot chick so they settle for the ugly ones lol!

DrPepperBeach · Answer

ive noticed thatt

but I don't know I always thought it might be because they don't really "have the time" for a boyfriend theyd rather have just guy friends which most of the pretty girls do and other girls maybe, they're just looking for love because they don't have many of the guy friends that prettier girls have

Anonymous · Answer

because the hotter the girl is, the more of a bitch they can be...in general of course.

darkknight1x · Answer

Its because they are going around being whores, duh!

harpchica · Answer

Because some guys are intimidated by attractive girls. They're too scared to get to know them. Especially when they're younger.

Anonymous · Answer

The prettier the girl the more money is required or the  more attractive or popular the guy has to be.

GIntrovert · Answer

I usual think there is something wrong with her personality when I see that... *avoid*

Cyhhgg · Answer

I haven't noticed this too much.  In fact, I usually see and/or meet attractive women who already have boyfriends. Not sure what other people are seeing, but hey, not every perception is the same.

Sgt-Shaquiri · Answer

Because they don't feel the need to be tied down in a relationship just yet and are fully independent.

BellendBob · Answer

they probably sloots, but you'll get the odd one who isn't

Anonymous · Answer

Really attractive girls = intimidation

maorikuz · Answer

most guys think that the more attractive ones won't accept them. or because the guy has gone for personality not looks

Nyimeh · Answer

I think it is because boys know that she must have a boyfriend, ans not any type of boy in that matter

The_Box · Answer

Probably because they don't want one.

zagor · Answer

There is a little thing called personality...

askanythingxo · Answer

i know what you mean, I have no ideaaa.

Anonymous · Answer

it could be that she is so beautiful that guys are too intimidated to talk to her and she only gets assholes or it could be that the slightly less pretty girls have amazing personalities

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls who aren't as pretty go farther

Anonymous · Answer

thats because they probably have a penis and are transexuals

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