"To be honest, I truly believe guys are easier than girls are."
No. That's just a stereotype. This is not a male problem; it's a problem with human nature. A lot of psychological research indicates that the more time you spend with someone, the more likely one of them (male or female) will eventually develop feelings for the other. In fact, this effect is so strong that just merely being in the presenscence of another person and not interacting with them (for instance, seating close to him or her in a couple different college classes) will make you like them more. In addition, It's also true that the more someone seems to like you, the more likely you are to start liking the other person and eventually develop feelings for that person.
These psychological principles suggest that it's extremely difficult for males and females to be friends without at least one of them eventually developing feelings for the other (and I'll add especially if either of them initially finds the other attractive).
Flirting with another guy in front of him is more likely than not just going to hurt his feelings and possibly cause him to hate you. The only thing that you really can do is give him some reason for which that you only want to be friends and hope for the best.
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I think you probably need to be a little more honest about your role in all of this. If you go onto dating sites, you'll see that there are plenty of women who are married/in relationships who post their cute selfies and state that they're only looking for friends. What they're really looking for is an ego stroke as they count up all their profile views and lap up the compliments from all these complete strangers. On the flip side, there is no male profile equivalent on these dating sites.
There are plenty of women out there who are able to have platonic, friendly relationships with guys (even really close relationships). But then again, maybe they just are not as irresistible as you! ;-)
Women have much more power than men. Please believe me when I tell you that. It takes the women to act and the men to respond. Men are more hesitant to respond in fear of how we women will act. You have to be honest from the beginning as to what you are looking for. By talking to men, they don't always take it sexual, but you have to just let them know that you want to hang out for the companionship and that is all, if that is what you want. Men are simple, it is women who make it complicated, trust me! Been there, done that...
You should probably just start hang out with girls. That's what I learned to do, after one guy who I thought was my friend went absolutely crazy and started cussing me out because I wasn't attracted to him. Then another thought it was okay to assault me. I was done with that shit.
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You need to be pretty blunt about it up front. No hints. No subtlety. Straight up tell him that you aren't looking for a relationship. No sex. Just a friendship.
Of course, most guys are going to exit the whole situation at this point. Generally if a guy finds you attractive, he's going to want more. This is just reality.The funny thing is I have the problem of girls thinking I'm hitting on them when I actually want to be friends because I say lets hang out 😂
Befriend a confident, attractive guy who has better options than you. I promise he won't look at you twice.
i hate women that run on feelings so much its annoying
girls and guys can't be "just friends". just doesn't work that way
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