I'm six months pregnant, and my husband hits me.

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i know I should leave, but I'm scared to. he threatens to hunt me down and kill me and my baby if I leave and I know I won't be able to make it financially if I leave but like I said before I know I should. The other day he beat me so badly I had to go to the hospital because I thought I lost the baby, when the doctor asked me what happened, I lied, I could tell he didn't believe me and I know I shouldn't have lied  but I just don't know what to do anymore I'm so scared and I'm so hurt what do I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Coming from a battered home and watching my mother do what she thought was best by taking us away from "dad" was the best thing she could have done.

If you don't leave for yourself, please leave for your child. If you don't. You run the risk of putting the both of you in danger and please listen to me when I say I can still picture my mother on the ground screaming/crying and me feeling helpless to her. What this does to your child could hurt you more in the long run...(mentally, your child may have to go through conselling and let me tell you it is not fun when you are young to tell adults that you don't know what you are suppose to feel because this is all you know) You end up passing your fears to your child (afraid of the unknown, and believing that being treated like sh*t is how love is suppose to be). To avoid all that please go to a woman shelter... I stayed there for about a year. It wasn't so bad and my mother is now my role model for turning her back on everything she knows to make a better future for me. If only she would have left sooner so I don't have those visions in my head that still haunt me... She is the strongest woman I know. I could never repay her for walking away from everything!

When it comes to my nephew... I don't care who I have to hurt, you, me, I will hurt anyone to protect him, because that is all I know how to do... I can only imagine how a mother feels for her children and how she has to protect them every second...

Please think about you and your child. You can get restraining orders and get the law involved, but its the gamble you take to keep yourself and your family out of harms way... Don't be scared to walk away!

Be strong and think if the situation happened to your little sister you would tell her to leave too. Give yourself that same love. You and your baby deserve better. Fresh starts are always hard. But the benefits your child will get is a happy home and that is what you both derserve. If you wait to long it will only get harder for you (I asked my mother this when I got older, and she thought that it would get better, it didn't). So protect yourself and your child. Good luck to you.

phantasia27 · Accepted Answer

You NEED to leave him for your sake, but more importably, the baby's. I understand it is difficult and you are scared because he threatens you. Men like that KNOW you are scared and prey on that. They know if they say that, it will make you stay with them. Even if he EVER says sorry or is sweet, it is not real.

You have to be really strong and take the first step. That one is the most difficult thing to do. Do NOT EVER contact him or fall for anything he says if you leave.

You have options. You will not be rolling in money, but you will be safer. You can get help from the government (money, shelter and food).

If you can't leave him, I think the right thing to do is to give the baby up for a closed adoption. You have a moral obligation to give a child the best life. Living with that man is NOT the best life. You can not mess yourself up or the baby's mentality up by having him/her witness Daddy hitting Mommy and Mommy not doing anything about it. The baby can have SERIOUS issues.

Not to mention, your guy could very well start abusing this child.

Could you live with that?

Please get help. You NEED to take pictures of the bruises.

If you leave, DO NOT COMMUNICATE WITH HIM! He will try everything in the book to get you back. It is not because he loves (I'm sorry), it is only a control thing. If you go back, you will be in for it, sadly.

You are God's child and bringing a child into this world. I hope you make a decision that is positive for you and your baby. Best of luck!

babygurl10 · Accepted Answer

your husbands a punk . he threatens you because he know that's the only reason you'll stay with him . like the people said below . LEAVE you deserve better than him and for the sake of the baby do what's right . ask family members to help you . get as far away from him as possible call some type of organization . and make sure you don't leave any signs that you are leaving around because then he may take away your belongings or something . he doesn't love you . and doesn't mean anything he says . he is a liar selfish careless and cruel . karma's a b**** he'll get his

Panopticus · Accepted Answer

When you lied to that doctor the lie was not just between you and the physician, it was between you and the baby.

I am assuming the monster you are with has not just started this ghastly way of behaving but as you are obviously a submissive person he has made sure you know you are way down in the pecking order in his caveman world from the get-go.

You have a decision to make and that visit to the hospital should make you realise you need to get the system on your side because he never will be. Your total concern needs to be for your baby's future, any involvement in the father's life will result in another person like your aggressor.

The potential baby is too far advanced for abortion but adoption may well be the way forward, you need urgently to find out what help and agencies are there for you where you live where you need to be totally honest about the dangers to the baby and you in that order and what possibility there may be of getting out of your life and into a place where you can look at wider options.

While you refuse to tell the truth to those who may be able to refer you to help there can be no resolution, I have no idea which country you live in and so my advice must be too general for what you need. You should not have to be in fear of your life from this evil monster and I feel for you deeply. If you are in the U.S. a can of Mace may be handy but getting the authorities working is much the best way, I am guarded in saying this because when I was in danger I had to move heaven and earth to get noticed - but that was nearly five decades ago when children were told they must be seen and not heard. May you find the way and may you have the best that can be for you.

Denver · Accepted Answer

Back in the 1980's my wife's sister was getting beaten by her husband. She had two kids, no job, no money and no place to go. Out of desperation, we moved her and her two kids into our small one bedroom apartment. It was a terrible living arrangement but, at the time her needs were more important than ours were. To this day my wife's sister thanks me for helping her get out of the worst time of her life.

Anyway, if we could help out my wife's sister and live under such crowded conditions for two months than I'd guess that someone in your family could do the same for you.

yellow1997 · Answer

You already know you HAVE to LEAVE! Just think if you bring a child into this world YOU are teaching that child that its OK to beat a woman! You want your son to beat his wife? You want your daughter to think "he loves me because he hits me?" Get it together ! You stay you die ! You have a responsibility to yourself and that child. He has to go to sleep/ work sometime ? Right ? LEAVE! There are too many programs out there that make it there business to help young ladies in this situation for you to choose not to do anything ! Email me if you are serious I'll help you find something

Anonymous · Answer

Please please PLEASE contact your local women's shelter as wanacot suggests. I was in an abusive relationship (only psychologically, not physically abusive) and I know how scared you feel about getting help. But trust me, you do not deserve to be in that environment and you don't want your baby to be around that either! It's tough to get out of an abusive situation but there are many supportive places to get help. One is the following website:     called the family place. They have a hotline where you can talk to someone about how to get out of your situation SAFELY and get the help you need :(214) 941-1991. Good luck, I'll be praying for yours and your baby's safety!

ArizonaRX · Answer

Listen, this guy is going to kill you and the baby. GET THE F*** OUT OF DODGE NOW! Fuck money and f*** him. There are plenty of organizations that will help you get back on your feet.

Don't be another news story with the 6 month search for your bodies. GET THE F*** OUT NOW!

angel-gt · Answer

just leave!I am not a US citizen so I know not what number you should call , but people who abuse other people or animals should be put in prison . Have him arrested . (I would say that thsi kind of people just deserves to be killed in the worst of ways but violence incites more violence when the receptor can return the favor . )

hunnie-bunches · Answer

The financial thing is an excuse.Evryone knows a woman with kids or pregnant can get all kinds of government assistance.If he kills your baby it's just as much your fault.Take an epo out on him and don't stop till he is arrested.I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years no one is making you stay but you.

Anonymous · Answer

if you don't leave him he will end up killing you.

call the police, press charges and have him locked up. stop lying and covering sh*t up. how is he ever going to get punished and you get safety if you lie for him? I know this guy got your mind all f***ed up but you have the power to break out of this situation. go to the hospital again and tell them your husband beats you.

a man who hits his woman is a bitch. 10 dollars he wouldn't pop that sh*t with a man of equal or greater size

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 5 months pregnant and I'm being abused too. My husband is never at home and when he is , he always hits me. He's so angry , and I'm conveniently the one he takes it out on. I know what you're feeling and most of what you're going through. I usually get a beating for no good reason. Once after a really bad fight I left and went to my sisters house seeking refuge... he came to get me, pretending to change and when we got home, I got a beating again. Sometimes he forces sexual activity on me. But still I'm here. Nowhere to go

wanacot · Answer

Contact your local women's shelter. You can find this info either online, in your phone book or by calling the general police number to get it. They can take you in and protect you.

truetildeath69 · Answer

For the sake of the baby, plain and simple you should leave him ASAP.  In the short run and long run you are better off without him.  As far as financial goes you don't have any family members to help you out?  Let your family know about your situation and I am sure they will step in.  I hope you do the right thing for your unborn baby.  I believed he or she deserve better then that.  best of luck!

Dandeus · Answer

I'd rather be poor than dead or in fear for my life.  There are shelters you can go to that will help you get back on your feet and hide you from abusive partners.

Prilee1992 · Answer

Low esteem woman with an abusive husband. Here we're. Same kind of people attracts each other

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

get red handed proof and call the cops, or just call the cops.

evan123 · Answer

you leave him go to the police getr him arrested this is not acceptable no man should ever treat his baby mother like that get a way now

Supermosh1990 · Answer

I would get a restraining order on him get the police involved, or try to trick him into an intervention.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

you need to leave, if you feel unsafe call the cops. and if that doctor was any kind of doctor he would have done the same, they have to do that if they believe it was abuse, at least with kids

asianstp · Answer

if your in the US call this number 211 its a womans help hotline they will help you with everythign food, housing and all that things that you need. call asap.

jacquesvol · Answer

File charges and leave him. You owe it to your child.

Anonymous · Answer

damn girl, couldnt you see his tru colours earlier?

Anonymous · Answer

You should leave. There is no price worth paying for being beaten by your husband. You're an idiot if you don't.

kiler1000 · Answer

and he'll kill you if you stay.

MisterDude007 · Answer

File police report..

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