How come guys don't like shy girls? (Page 2)
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i think it's the other way around. Girls don't like shy guys unless they are just perfect 10 guys who look like god damned edward cullen. Otherwise we are just considered creeps or weird or just not talkative at the best. Shy girls on the other hand are seen as innocent and sweet, even if not very attractive. I do think though that it's hard to talk to shy girls, but girls naturally have it easier.
Lol, poor guys. Edward Cullen set the bar WAY too high. I'm surprised you know who that is actually. It's usually just girls who are into that sort of thing.
Well you know who I mean, robert whatever the hell his name is. Anyway, that doesn't matter. what does is that unless a shy guy is gorgeous, girls think he is a creep. Shy girls are seen as sweet and innocent
I would rather date a shy woman then a loud slutty woman. However the problem for me with shy women is that I'm quite, and reserved. And I would rather be with a cute woman that's hyper and spontaneous. I think being with a woman that's shy would be too boring.
The shyness is only at first get to know her she won't be shy liitle time with her also 2 shy people will bond a very tight bond there eep and trust worthy so you will have a huge spark love trust me I know :) its worth waiting on
As a guy, I can tell you that it has nothing to do with intimidation. I dont know a single man that finds shyness intimidating. The problem is that shy girls do not realize how uninterested and uninteresting they make themselves come off to be. Contrary to romance novels, a lot of men do not like the thrill of a chase. Most men like to know that they stand a chance from the beginning to the end. This is an area where more brave and outgoing women win. Brave and outgoing women are the ones who say "Hey you, I think you are hot/cute/fun/etc. I know you want this, so come and get it before you lose it". That exhilarates a man to go after her because he doesn't feel like he's going to get flaked on. With shy girls, its different; its a big guessing game that gets old fast. You dont have to be an extrovert, but you do need to realize that shyness is a fear, not a condition. If you want to get what you want, you have to take a risk and be bold.
And by "be bold" I mean, flirt and ask him to do something together. Stop waiting for him do every little thing in the dating process. A girl who know how to flirt can usually get the guy that they want because men want to feel like they are wanted. When you just sit back and wait all day, he never gets to see your interest level.
I'm a shy girl too. But, if a guy comes up and shows interest in me and asks me a question or something, I will answer him. I just don't like to make the first move and talk to him first. Sometimes if I am attracted to a guy, I will smile at him from across the room or glance at him every so often. They may be subtle hints, but at least they are hints. I say just wait it out and see how it goes. A guy will come up to you and if he talks to you, you should talk back :)
I know what you mean! I can't stand those types of girls. I say the best thing for you to do is just be yourself and if going out more would make you happy, then go for it.
But, the reason guys might seem to not like "shy girls" might be because they don't know whether the girls is interested in them, so they probably don't want to take the risk of being rejected.
Also, the reason some guys like the loud-mouthed easy pray, is because they are, well, easy and guys are just dumb about commitment so they always go with the easy girls who go from one guy to the next.
If you really like a guy, just take a chance and say hey and strike up a conversation.
If you're flat-lining, you can always say you forgot to pick up your dry-cleaning, or something.
In this era, you are seeing more girls asking guys out. Its starting to be more common for guys to expect girls to take the lead. Guys want girls that are able to step up to the plate and make his friends laugh and not be afraid to have conflict on every day decisions.
the loud/outgoing types are most likley complete sluts BUT they have one thing that youdon't...CONFIDENCE. A shy girl can have confidence and attract many guys...but when you're just shy and no confident...it comes off as a weird situation for a guy to come and approach you.
well guys tend to go for the more confident girls because they think they are gonna get more out of them sexually. Also I think shy guys tend to go for more confident girls because they will find it easier for a conversation to happen because they leave the girl to do the talking and confident guys tend to go for the more shy girls so they can take care of them. This is because opposites attract. I don't think you should change the way you are but maybe be more flirtatious and then you can get boys attention and when you get to know them then you will find out if that guy is confident and he will find out if your shy and you can see if you like the connection between you and they will know what they like and so will you. hope this helps :D
Personally...I find shy girls EASIER to approach. They're just there, waiting to be talked to. I'm a sociable guy, so I just walk up to her & start chatt'n about random things.
A more outgoing girl...she may be into being close-knit with her friends circle, & therefore the rejection odds are higher. A shy girl seems to be waiting for a guy like me to break her out of her shell.
To the guys; shy girls are NOT AT ALL intimidating. :)
I think everybody has said it, shy girls are too damn difficult to figure out because they are always so defensive to guys, even guys that they like. Your chances get better when you are good looking, but if you are shy must of the time we assume you are a bitch. I love shy girls because I am pretty sure I would never have to worry about her cheating on me.
Truth be told, a lot of guys do like shy girls. Its not that were intimidated by you but just like the other guys here have mentioned, shy girls can be really quiet and we don't notice you girls at all. Its like the diamond in the ruff... Unless we really look we won't notice and see your girls at all.
So guys tend to drift to loud outgoing type of girls because to them they are the most fun to hang around, talkative, interesting and are not afraid to show their affection
One word: confidence. If you are quiet and shy, it's because you are afraid of something, or because you are insecure. Girls who are shy usually don't have very good self esteem (usually. I'm not saying this is how you r) which can mean she has baggage and will be drama, or a lot of work.
being a shy guy myself I was once attracted to a girl who was shy, she gave me the hints but when it came to iniating, I was doing all the work, sometimes its like talking to a wall no response or anything. then I would wonder if she liked me, I finally asked she said yes, but never even wanted to hung out with me, she never even rejected me until I had to end it
The thing about shy people is that they're usually practically invisible. You don't notice them because you have to look hard to find them amongst the crowd. They're like ninjas. It's part of what being shy means.
actually for any relationship...it's a guy who has to take initiative (Almost Always!)...and if they get some interaction from the other side they take it as positive response!
most of shy girl fail to form a good interaction when we first talk to them...so we think that girl is not interested in us and just move on...and many times in life that we move on and then realize that some xyz shy girl used like us and then we scream in mind "Hell that stupid girl...why the fuk she never told me"...
Same reason women don't like shy guys. Not so much because you're shy, but you never know where you stand with them often. Are they interested and like you? Often they are too shy to say it or show it, where the outgoing ones will make it obvious. There's no doubts.
I personally prefer a girl that will chat non-stop about nonsense that a girl who I can't get a word out of. Why you ask? because it gives me less opportunity to say something stupid and p*ss her off...
Ahahaaha your so right! guys suck at communicating :P I once put my hand over his moulth and just told him to "shut up & dance with me" lol
We like them, but they ignore us, thus making us feel like creeps for chatting to a girl who seems to want nothing to do with us..
I'm the shy type too and I agree with what you're saying, highschool is so stupid, and it does seem like what you're saying... about the slutty loud ones getting it all... difficult thing it is!
Cos your less noticable if there's another girl in the same room making lots of noise and such. Being louder would help get you noticed. But guys like shy girls once they get to know them.