Why are guys so shy around girls?

Question

Why are guys so shy around girls? Like, I've been texting this guy for about 2 months now, and he goes to my school. Whenever I say hey to him he smiles and says hey back in a shy way. But he never comes over to talk to me. I feel like I know him through texting, but it's a different story in school. Maybe it's because I'm a freshman and he's a junior. But I don't think that should effect him talking to me. He said he want to give me a hug on Monday. I guess we'll see what happens...

DANNYBASSMAN93 · Accepted Answer

Well most guys dont like dating younger girls during high school or want they just want to date older or the same age girls.

Now if thats not the case maybe its the first time he's approached by a good looking girl and he just doesn't know how to properly react to it, you're basically his kryptonite when present.

I know im like this i even get shy around girls who even just smile or say hi to me when im in uniform its completely normsl just give it some time and built up from that more commhnication preferably face to face and you'll see the change quickly and who knows you might be walking down the hall hand in hand. Good luck Mrs hope it helps

KingDeAce · Accepted Answer

Well mostly shy guys don't know what to talk about with girls because they usually think about what we should about and if we do than would the girl be offended so u should try talking to him while giving him his space this will make him feel at ease and he'll eventually open up to you

AstroGirl1325 · Accepted Answer

Most guys are shy around girls that are really, REALLY attractive so they have an inferiority complex and fear of being rejected. I honestly think they fear being rejected by someone really good looking will give them the illusion that people will think less of them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

maybe he is just a nice guy. its tough at school because of drama and trouble. sounds like a nice sane guy though maybe make things easier and say hey back and start a conversation

DpecheMode · Answer

Bad reactions previously.

Its daunting walking up to a female because how she reacts to you is directly related to how attractive she finds you. If a group of girls is sitting there and a guy walks up to strike up conversation with one of them... if she is into him, the response is positive. If she isn't into him a lot of the time he is treated as 'just another jerk who can't leave a girl alone when she is having fun with friends'. I've seen and had some nasty responses in this area...

enough to make me hesitant to make any first moves until I receive some sign from the girl that making the first move is ok.

Its frustrating... girls want a guy to be confident and make the first move yet they get fed up when hounded by a string of guys hitting on them and end up treating them poorly when its attention from one of the 'unwanted' ones.

ChebMami · Answer

Texting =/= Talking in person

He doesn't feel like he "knows" you enough to approach you in school and just talk.

Approach him in person and try to initiate conversation frequently, take the initiative. Once he realizes that you're pretty much down to just talk to him about anything, he'll be more comfortable about just talking to you whenever.

Also guys tend to not approach girls unless they're extremely comfortable with them. Meaning, unless I know I can approach you, talk to you and know/not care about whether you think I'm being a bother, then I won't really come talk to you.

Splithead · Answer

He can't articulate well on the spot, he has to have like 5 to 10 minutes to really articulate something witty and meaningful. There's a good chance he's an introvert which isn't bad, try skipping the small talk and asking his opinion about something interesting that your both into. If you can get him to talk about stuff you both know about he'll get more comfortable with you and it'll flow better plus its always weird to try to continue text conversations face to face

Rashad · Answer

They fear rejections! Every other guy will give you a excuse as to why he is shy around girls. can't find anything to talk about, it was the wrong timing, wasn't in the mood, or just some other excuse. But the real truth is, they are afraid of rejection! I'm a shy guy myself, and that is main reason why I'm shy. Fear of rejection, fear of embarrassment.

Misterjay02 · Answer

Because you're probably and attractive girl, and for a lot of guys That's intimidating. You girls have no idea how shy we can really be sometimes.

dragonshine · Answer

some guys are very shy because they are very much in love, some guys are not shy. it just depends on the person. maybe at school he feels more pressure to show to other people that he loves you and he feels more pressure. hope this answer helps you :)

mayankisawesome · Answer

The type of guy u r talking about is me.
I also shy around girls when they talk to me because i really don't know what to talk about with you. I also fear of losing you if i said something u don't like.
What i want is girl should walk with me n spends time with me though i may not talk much but i will feel open some moments later!!
-from forever alone guy

no_one_special · Answer

Some guys are just shy, and it takes some time getting to know them before they're able to peek outta their shells, so to speak. Just give him time. If you like him, don't give up on him. Chances are good he's shy because he fancies you as well!

gamer_guy16 · Answer

yeah admitably im like that but only with girls i like other girls I'm not shy around at all and have no problem talking to them but when im near a girl i like its like i can't speak or something and my heart races

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

because women are very judgmental... or rather openly judgmental  maybe he is nervous cause he likes you lol you should call him, texting sucks! i love calling the ladies

jacquesvol · Answer

-Fear of rejection -Fear of being commented on and teased in school.

CootiesInfection · Answer

because you people judge us for wanting your tits and ass and we dont feel like being judged right now so we dont bother talking to you

DeltaDanner · Answer

Fear of rejection is a huge fear for a lot of guys. It terrifies a lot of us. We just dont want to screw something up.

jamesadvice · Answer

He might have confindence problems and finds it easier to text rather than talk to you petsonally.

Guys tend to be more shy around girls because we don't know how to react specially teens.

Next time try saying more than hi try talking to him get him use to you and as time goes on talk to him more and more.

He probably feels nervous and confuse if you only say hi when he walks by but don't talk as much like when you text.

mukheef · Answer

-Low self esteem and confidence. -Fear of rejection / humiliation He sounds like a spineless wimp, sorry for being brash.

Anonymous · Answer

"why are guys so shy" asks the anonymous girl. Do you see where I'm getting at here.

Anonymous · Answer

It largely has to do with the age group, his general anxiety level, and how much he likes her. When I was that age it took me a while to get comfortable in situations like that.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Because you are dangerous and have girl cooties. More seriously, what jacquesvol said.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe he is shy and h feels more confortable texting because is not face to face interaction talk to him about a random topic and that will make him easier to approach to you.

MasterOfHearts · Answer

Because some guys don't want to be offensive like if I'm talking to a superior at work I may not check her out because that could go bad. Also it's a good chance that guys might pretend to be "Shy" as a way of getting girls to like them.

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