How do you know an introvert guy likes you more than a friend?

[atoma9317]

I known this guy since middle school and now he and i are going to be seniors. I'm complete opposite of him. I'm very loud and energetic like a dog (like he said). He listens to everything i said and when i get jealous he would avoid the females i get jealous of. He would let me wear his shoes and basically annoy him. He always wait for me in my locker and classroom. When i talk dirty to him, he would say i feel uncomfortable or he will become awkward. When i tell him that i like a guy, he would be really distant until i told him im over that guy. His friends always make fun of him for hanging out with me while my friends claim he's my boy toy.

He likes you

He likes you as a friend

He doesn't like you that way

[Raghav33]

He doesn't like u, he loves u.
People who just like aren't so tolerant.
If ur expecting a relationship, u should make the first move, Coz he is never going to do so. At first he might not agree with u. But guaranteed within a week u guys will be together as a couple.
I was an introvert in highschool, i loved a girl, she wanted me to make the first move but i didn't nd i lost her.
Hope same happen to you.
Opposites attract, maybe he is the perfect one for u.

[Raghav33]

Hope same doesn't happen to you*

[atoma9317]

lol dude everytime i like a guy, i always make the first move, first confession, first everything but like always i would always go back to him and cry.
i want a guy who makes the first move at least once.

[Raghav33]

Okay if ur expecting him to make a move i dnt think that's gonna happen
And u want guys to make the first move, go to a bar or some place like that u'll get tons of guys hittin on you.😁👍

[atoma9317]

oh well

[Phantomium]

"He would let me wear his shoes and basically annoy him. He always wait for me in my locker and classroom." And you need more proof he has a crush on you? Come on! Get the poor dude out of the friendzone.

[atoma9317]

yes, and i don't want to ruined our friendship.. also he told me he doesn't want to date in college.. obviously he's the one who's putting himself there

[Phantomium]

He doesn't want to date OTHER WOMEN! Damnit woman, he was trying to act loyal!

[atoma9317]

sorry im stupid when it comes to romance.. im just scared also he compared me to his mom a lot and that doesn't sound good

[Phantomium]

Compared you to his mom? Well, you're not the only one clueless about romance then! :D

[atoma9317]

yes, he said he reminds me of his mom and its weird.

[Anonymous]

He changes his behaviour around you.
He makes an effort to be around you.
He flirts with you via text or social media.

[harvest]

Haha, of course he likes you! If you would propose him something like kiss in public place (because you're crazy ;P ) then his head would probably explode...

[atoma9317]

lol.. he gets very awkward when i told him i like it hard or hurt me in a sexual way

[harvest]

lol, I'm pretty bold guy and i woud get a bit awkward too if a hot girl would said something like that to me!
You can't judge a guy by reaction to something like this... We are not used to girls being so open :D

[atoma9317]

tragic

[harvest]

tragic?

[atoma9317]

why is it awkward? if i were a guy i would be laughing my ass

[harvest]

you got me the wrong way... I would love it! I would be just super surprised by something like this, but I would still go crazy about it

[atoma9317]

lol you cool

[harvest]

you too, is that some kind of test for guys? If he react to that text of yours properly then you will date him?

[atoma9317]

i told him that before and he said "i know i am cool"

[harvest]

He tried to act cool ;) Trust me, he likes you a lot. He is probably just shy and not really experianced with girls so doesn't have the curage to act on his feelings

[atoma9317]

he had two girlfriends before and i never had a boyfriend

[harvest]

and how do you know that? Did he told you that?

[atoma9317]

yes he told me that.. he said his first girlfriend moved away while his second girlfriend broke up with him because she likes someone else

[harvest]

Well, there ae 2 options here :
1) He is lying to you so you won't think that he is some looser who never got a girlfriend (some guys think that about themselves if they never dated noone)
2) He did have those girls and now he has hard time "getting back into the water". In that case you'll need to start a bit for yourself

[atoma9317]

I know the girl he dated and she's a hoe. I think he got really hurt and thats why he is depressing af.

[harvest]

That is possible. In that case you need to start the convo with him. He might be too awkward around women in general right now...

[atoma9317]

he's friends with my squad and i got in an argument with him last night so opps

[harvest]

oh boy... xD priv?

[atoma9317]

nope, its just i accidently deleted all the convos he and i had and i feel really guilty and he said it doesn't matter but to me it matters because those are memories.. and i wonder if our friendship is worth it

[harvest]

so wait... You want to date him or be friends with him?

[atoma9317]

i dont know. if he wants us to date then cool but i dont want to ruin our friendship and thats why im lowkey rn

[harvest]

Well, you'll need to decide if you want this go anywhere... How did you expect this to go further? With you deciding along the way? lol

[atoma9317]

i never had a boyfriend before and i always have those almost but its just dating tho not marriage.. also there's a difference between like and love

[harvest]

honey, you dont have to love someone to date them...

[atoma9317]

well i dont know how to start relationship so i will just let him do whatever he wants

[harvest]

you dont "start relatioship"... It starts for itself.
Tell me, do you like spending time with him?

[atoma9317]

every minute of it

[atoma9317]

but he is just not what i want in a guy.. he has a beard and doesn't wear glasses..

[harvest]

lol... You know that he can change those right? That is the least important stuff for you to worry about.
Do you like him as a person? or does he annoy you in some way?

[atoma9317]

yes, i like him as a person and he annoys me for being not assertive

[atoma9317]

he let me do whatever i want and i dont like it

[harvest]

Trust me, many couples are like that... One of them is nice to everyone and agreeing to everything and the other one is clear thinking one.
Do you see yourself by his side? With him supporting you and you supporting him?

[atoma9317]

i see myself going to college with him, going to his hockey games, and hiking with his family. But i dont see him supporting me

[harvest]

You can see yourself by his side, and that's important.
Look, bottom line is - you don't marry him. So if it doesn't work out, you can always leave, no harm no faul... The only question is - would you be willing to do it?

[atoma9317]

no, because i dont deserve him. He has a kind heart and I dont

[harvest]

The fact that you can see and say something like that about yourself proves that you have kind heart too sweety :)

[atoma9317]

🤔😇

[harvest]

I have a feeling you think of yourself too little and you're too harsh on yourself.
Think about it this way - if you were such a devil-woman, then how could such a sweet guy fell for you? :P

[atoma9317]

He saw my weak side, my broken side. also i think think way because its a 50/50 chance he like me that way

[harvest]

no, it's not 50/50... Trust me.

[atoma9317]

what happened if i confessed to him and our friendship is ruin

[harvest]

Well, that's the risk you'll have to take...

[atoma9317]

see.. there's a risk..

[harvest]

There is always a risk! :D You can't stop doing something because there is a risk of failure...

[atoma9317]

i dont want to repeat history

[harvest]

So you had that situation before?

[atoma9317]

yes thrice, the most recent was last year i liked this guy whos two years older than me. i met him when i was a freshman whiles he's a junior and lets say he was much more hardcore (he gets jealous *hot* he ask his friends to stalk me, and he watches me from afar). Anyway he said he and i would date in the future but i know its bs and all my friends hate

[harvest]

Ok, I see now why would you have such restraints for telling this guy how you feel... If you are not ready to do it, I get it. The best thing to do in this scenario is to basically be with him. Spend time with him, try to get close to him, connect with him. Maybe one day you'll trust him enough to tell him :)
What do you think?

[atoma9317]

yeah im still keeping it lowkey lol

[harvest]

by the way, is he the same age as you, or older?

[atoma9317]

same age

[harvest]

Then you'll have easier way this time honey. Don't worry, he won't bite (unless you ask him to ;) )

[atoma9317]

lol true

[lightning32]

I think if everyone around you sees it and you are thinking it's there, then yes it most definitely is, do him a favor and initiate something

[atoma9317]

what happens if he's the complete opposite of what you want in a person

[lightning32]

oh well if you don't like him then don't go out with him. stay his friend. if you feel like it bothers him to stay just friends have a conversation about it, not a flirting joking thing that makes him uncomfortable but actually ask him if it bothers him if you're just friends. but if you don't want to have that talk just be careful not to pull at his heart too much.

[atoma9317]

I ask him if i bother him too much and he said no, not at all... but there's this part of me that want to beat him but there's also this part of me wanting to hug him

[lightning32]

beat him? why would you do that? he sounds like he has a crush on you but is too scared to say anything, or he realizes you don't like him back

[atoma9317]

i locked him in a locker before and he let me push him around. I don't know he just let me and I hate it when guys don't take control. Also im scared of losing him

[lightning32]

so stop being a jerk, you bullied him, for what? just to see if he'd take charge. some kids are shy if you can't respect that he's not an assertive person then maybe you should let him go, because you're hurting him whether he shows it or not. you can't make him the person you want him to be. either you accept him or you let things go but don't ever do that to him, that's so wrong

[atoma9317]

dude im not bullying him till he bleeds.. i would just playfully push him and then he will make fun of my height and how Asian i am by using stereotypes.. Also i know i can't mold him to be my perfect guy but I know he can be more dominant because he used to be one

[lightning32]

ok but he used to be, what changed him, another person or himself? but putting him in a locker isn't playfully pushing

[atoma9317]

he just said he's depressed but when he's around his friends he's like "the man".. when i see him, i run towards him and he's usually at my locker and i would jump him like dogs do to their owners when they get home

[lightning32]

but it's different being with his friends and with a girl, I don't know I think it is. I'm sure people think that way of me too but if he is depressed then maybe you just see him at the wrong times or he gets so nervous that he can't act naturally around you.

[atoma9317]

how is it different? im not girly, i know more about cars than him. i spend every freakin day with him even at 4am. why can't he just act like im one of the guys?

[lightning32]

because you're not one of the guys. I don't know there sounds like there's a lot there but I can't pick out why exactly he seems so different with you. his friends would be the best people to ask

[atoma9317]

his friends hate me because i take him away from them

[lightning32]

well that might be it. make friends with his friends. I'm not saying best friends or good friends, but say hi, sit with them. to get treated like the boys you have to really act like the boys, and hang with the boys

[atoma9317]

i do, they make fun of me by saying im his girlfriend and how i should be the one submissive

[lightning32]

maybe that's why he acts so strangely, because they tease him so much about it. How does he react to all of that?

[atoma9317]

He just smiles and giggle..

[lightning32]

okay but he never acts like that, like you're his girlfriend or like he's in control?

[atoma9317]

i dont understand your question dude?

[lightning32]

I'm saying when they tease you and he smiles and giggles, does he act like you're his girlfriend or act any more dominant than usual?

[atoma9317]

he acts likes he's the man

[lightning32]

that's so strange and I have no explanation for it, I wish I could help you understand it but if any thing I'd say it's a confidence thing, like without his friends as support he isn't confident you be dominant

[atoma9317]

i guess

[the3ghzpc]

ohhhhh I've been here, but i was the extovert. it didn't end very well, we broke up. i perosnally dont think u shud try

[atoma9317]

True, i have more social needs and he can't even help me with that

[the3ghzpc]

yeah. maybe just be good friends

[nbbn5]

Do you think he feels jealous when you talk about other guys you like?

[atoma9317]

Usually no, because he's the only guy i hang out with and when I talked about liking another guy he would just give me short answer and be distant

[nbbn5]

It is tough to say that he likes you or not from these things you wrote in your description so in this case there will be an assumption and has he tried to flirt with you?

[atoma9317]

whats your definition on flirt? My past love interest considered me pushing this guy at the stairs flirting.

[nbbn5]

Like playfull teasing, be touchy, the way he talks and pushing at the stairs is not much of a flirting but yeah its a way of getting attention or just being playfull with them so it can be considered a little

[atoma9317]

So i flirt with him... shiz

[nbbn5]

If you push him at stairs 😂😂that can be considered but not fully flirting

[atoma9317]

i pushed him into lockers and fake moan around him.. but he would just shift his legs

[nbbn5]

Yeah he gets nervous and i am also shy and will act the same way
Wow you are trying your best 👏👏😂😂

[atoma9317]

lol i am trying

[nbbn5]

Just don't scare him lol and good luck 👍👍😊😊😊