The guy I'm talking to always flirts with my best friend?

[imsoclueless]

So this guy I brought to a party one day and I started liking each other but one weird thing is he would always flirt with my best friend! Like he one time commented a picture of her on facebook with really short shorts on saying "i see your pockets ;P and he's always commenting her statuses and other pictures. its like you had to click view all pictures and go through all them. last night they were posting videos on each others walls talking about each others phones and which was better? and now he invited her to a place without telling me first? one time he was taking forever to text me back and she was like don't worry ILL text him. uhm what's that suppose to mean? my friend is not suppose to be higher. she says he talks about me a lot (shes naive), and I'm like he's just using that to keep texting you because he texts you more than me. I certainly don't go around stalking the guy I likes friends I keep my eyes on the guy and could care less about his friends to a certain point. I told my friend to stop talking to him and she's like oh but I don't want anymore enemies. I think that's an excuse and i think she likes the attention she receives from him! what do you think is going on.

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i don't think she'd ever do anything though, she's a good friend and she's waiting for her boyfriend to come out of jail but does he like her or something? feels like if I dropped him he would go to her

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i don't have feelings for him anymore, he's a man whore and I don't want aids ;) I'm aware if he flirts with my BEST FRIEND he's trouble, and I do ignore him but do you think my best friend likes the attention he gives? is she trying to back stab me?

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he did have a reaction tho VV he asked if I was mad because I barely text o are hang w him but I'm done w him at this point

[themastaplan]

ok here is my advice...they are obviously flirting...but you two AREN'T dating, so there's really no reason to be upset with him, he's free to do what he wants, its your friend that you should have an issue with - as long as she knows how you feel...

ok now that that's clear this is what you should do...STOP CONTACTING HIM! he doesn't respond as quickly as you'd like, or flirt with you as you may like because he knows you like him...its almost as if he's the puppet master and you're the puppet..."weot8pnwuthn0we9h8twe" AKA you need to do a 360 turn...stop texting him, when he texts you, wait 15-20 min, keep your text's short and forward...he'll say "hey what's up" you'll say "nothing" -- you don't want to ask him how he is, you want to be short about it...this will have him going on a hunt, wondering why you aren't asking how he is, why don't you care, he'll be confused and it will pose a challenge for him...keep talk to a minimum FOR NOW, show him you ahve a life besides him and that you can do whatever the hell you please...if he doesn't get phased by it I hate to say it but you'll have to move on, simple as that...the only reason you should be doing what I suggest is to A) see how he reacts B) if he doesn't react give yourselt a easier exit if you will to this new "relationship" - just be aware of your feelings and look out for yourself

take things slow if you get his attention back - it was the turtle that won the race NOT the rabbit!

good luck!

[themastaplan]

Number one don't "update" the status by replying to me...use the comment button below my post otherwise you'll notify EVERYONE who has replied...number 2 don't sit there and tell me you don't care about him or don't have feelings for him anymore...you just asked me questions about your best friend AGAIN with the update which indicates you DO care..lol come on now don't lie to yourself...be honest and open that's what this site is for!

[imsoclueless]

Sorry about that I just wanted anyone reading this to see it . I reallly don't THAT much as I used to. I do to a certain point. its just that I been disappointed so much that I want to know what's going on and I definitely think its more better hearing it from somewhere else. and I kind of like someone else too! and its the truth, its my previous question on this site lol.... =\ but I just wanna know what's going on so I can see for the next guy that comes along!

[themastaplan]

Yeah id say lose this guy, he doesn't know what he's missing out on if he's always flirting with your friends...he seems like an attention seeker...hope this new guy works out! don't fall too fast!

[Jonny_]

Basically sounds like he wants to have it all, basically pursues one person, but flirts with many others to keep his 'options' open. You can't really blame your friend, it's not her fault if she likes him and some people do flirt unintentionally or flirt back because they were flirted with. It's entirely his fault, she is allowed to flirt... He isn't, if he knows you liked him and you brought him to a party he should know better than to flirt with your best friend.

[laurenbebawy]

GONE THRU IT. he's intersested in other girls.he watns to have his cake and eat it too.LEAVE that piece o crap and leave your bff, then you will see the truth come out in both of them.[if they get together, then your better off not wasting your time with either scum bags.

[Louise123]

I think you should lose both of these "FRIENDS". They are not your friends. Please choose more wisely in the future... Don't get caught up in these stupid games. Sounds like you are too intelligent for that. They both deserved each other. Hugz.

[MissUnderstoodx]

He probably wants to make you jealous, knowin that you will be able to see everything that he writes

[Asailum]

well, that sucks... they are obvioulsy into each other and your obviously feeling jealous that he's not going for u. There are millions of guys out there waiting to meet you so don't sweat it.

[katsrkool05]

I THINK THAT You R ALL You R STUPID I THINK HE'S A WHORE MONGER AND I THINK UR FRIEND IS A SNOB AND ESSENTIALLY UR ALL STUPID

[imsoclueless]

Lol why am I stupid though? I dropped her as a friend.

[Anonymous]

She likes the attention and you are starting to feel jealous because she is geting it and not you...she might just like the attention he is giving her or she might want more who knows they might be keeping you out of the loop.