She won't give me a chance

[Anonymous]

I must have asked this girl out about six times now and she just says "i don't know" or something stupid. Would it kill her to go on one date? She keeps hanging out with me though, so what's the deal... if she hates me so much, why does she stay around me.

[candygirl54]

Dude, you’re going about this the wrong way. you're being very disrespectful by constantly asking her out. She doesn’t want to go out with you. I’m not trying to sound mean, but you need to deal with it and find a girl who’s interested. You’re wasting your time and her time. She should be happy and you’re not making her happy. Girls deal with enough of this kind of stuff. They get blamed for being rude by not being nice to them. I’m not saying women should be rude to respectful guys. But, guys need to understand that if you keep at it when she clearly means NO, she will get nasty. Don’t blame her for that. You only have yourself to blame for not respecting her wishes. You’re not gonna get everything you want in life. That includes a girl you like who’s not interested. Don’t get your hopes up. If you really respected her, you would just let her be with whoever she wants. Leave her alone if she makes it clear that doesn’t want to talk to you. I’m not trying to be mean. I’m being brutally honest. It may hurt, but brutal honesty is better than being given false hope and played. For me, I’d rather someone tell me that hurtful truth. That means that I can trust them to be honest. Being rejected by a girl you like hurts, I get that. But don’t miss out on other opportunities of meeting girls who will be interested in you. Trust me, a girl who’s not into you is not worth missing out on other opportunities you’ll have.

[Dominique_7]

She doesn't hate you, but she's not interested in being more than your friend. Girls don't like to give guys a direct "no" because it's such a harsh rejection. If we say anything else than "yes", take it as a no.

[Asker]

She should just say no then, I don't want to be her girlfriend.

[Dominique_7]

So it's either a date or nothing? If you don't want to be her friend evidently you're not interested in her the right way.

[Asker]

I have a dating book and it said not to be her friend or she'd never go out with me.

[Dominique_7]

Did it also say: if she won't go out with you don't bother to be friends?

[Asker]

No, but it said if you are friends with a girl then they will just see you as a nice guy or like their brother and will never want to date you in the future. She is a nice girl, but just hasn't seen the ligtht yet.

[Dominique_7]

She doesn't like you as more than friends.

[Keyon5]

She isn't into you dude. Read it. Eat it. Learn it!

You've asked her out 6 times now. In all 6 attemps, she's said no.

WTF are you looking for?! I mean, your stupid book has told you not to be her friend. Well, if your not her friend, and she STILL doesn't like you like that, WTF does that tell you.

PLUS, if she didn't like you before, she sure as hell doesn't like you now! Asking her 6 times. What man asks out a women 5 times after she's said no. She probably doesn't want a clinger, ans seeing as you've asked her FIVE other times after she rejected you, she probably sees you as a needy guy. Most girl don't want that kind of man.

I, HONEST TO GOD, find it weird that just because a girl doesn't like you in a certain, you can't be her friend. LISTEN, ITS OK TO BE HER FRIEND! Guys who don't know what there doing will assume if a girl doesn't love them or whatever, then they will never talk to them. You have to swallow your EGO sometimes man.

My point? Move on. Have RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. She said no, SIX TIMES! Why the f*** are you still chasing her?! She's willing to be your friend still, so be satisfied with that and find a girl who DOES romantically appriciate you...

..because this one DOESN'T...

[Asker]

I don't think you understand, all I need is ONE chance regardless of how many times I asked. If Robert Redford can beg a girl for a date, why can't I? You need to VALUE yourself more and be persistent to get what you want in life. I could be her friend, but if I'm not she can choose to lose me or decide if she wants to go on a date. It's up to her.

[Redundant]

It's YOU who doesn't understand. You won't LET yourself understand because you are hell bent on believing that a woman OWES you a "chance", and that initial attraction doesn't matter because you will CONVINCE her to change her mind. No matter what the movies tell you - "persistence" isn't cute, it's CREEPY to women.

When you do NOT take polite rejection, you are FORCING the smaller pregnable female to get more mean about it - which endangers her because many men lash out. She will begin to resent your pursuit because it makes her feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Why would you want to do that to someone? Because YOUR desire means more than HER right to turn you down? You are only showing you are selfish, incapable of reading clues, NOT a "nice" guy and a stage five clinger, which are HUGE turn offs to women. That woman probably feels like you are stalking her now after SIX freaking attempts and you still refuse to accept her NO as valid.

[Sammyjohnson]

@Redundant Your an old dumb bitch.

[Keyon5]

VALUE yourself? This women has denied you 6 times and your talking about begging. Oh yeah, your valuing is REAL high...

Apparently I don't understand though. So you DO NOT want to be her friend, correct? So its either "she gives you a chance" or "beat it" right?

Well, give her an ultimatum then. You be firm with her and let her know your feeling are on the line. You have to get her to TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY. Let her know its a YES or NO question. Nothing else!

If she says yes, then your good, but if she doesn't say yes FOR THE SEVENTH TIME, and your not will to be her friend, then cut her loose, tell her to be it and move on.

I mean, maybe I STILL don't get you. And if not, I don't give a f***.

I can tell you, I have HIGH VALUE in myself, and I wouldn't have asked the same girl out 6 times, nothing but yes, means no. If she says "I don't know", it means she doesn't know the proper way to let you loose and say "no". That's HER FAULT, but the message is all the same.

All I can tell you is sit her ass down and give her an ultimatum. A YES or NO question.

[tony8832]

She does not hate you. She is gently telling you she is not interested. Move on and or have her help you get girlfriends. If you keep asking her eventually she will.