Are you chatty or silent around your crush?

[TheMoroccangirl]

And why? Nervous?

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I meant also around your crush talking with someone else, not necessary talking to the crush

[dangerDoge]

It's kind of a mix of both. Nerves affect me in weird ways. When I have a crush, I'll find ways to initiate contact with them more than the average person, but at the same time, I hold myself back... Because, you know, I don't want to freak them out.

Around crushes, there are probably a couple things I'll do...
-- Blush a lot from nerves (I blush easily), think about how embarassing my blushing is, which causes me to blush more, evolving into a cycle of repeated blushing
-- Me subconsciously trying to be more impressive, which tends to mean I make more jokes... And they have a hit or miss ratio. Sometimes, my nerves will cause me to think of something witty that will spur a laugh, and other times my head's thoughts doesn't translate well to others-- then I just weird them out by an "uhh ooook?" 😅

I'm not socially inept/hopelessly awkward, but I am shy. I become chattier than I normally am around crushes, but I don't think I become extremely chatty. I haven't had many crushes in my life, but for the crushes I have had, when I confessed, have basically all mentioned they had their suspicions about me... So it's fair to assume my personality does change a bit around crushes.

[Raouduke710]

If something really unexpected or awesome happens and I have intense feelings for said crush I've noticed I lose the ability to project my voice. It's like my brain can't believe what happened and I'm taking in the beauty of the universe through my "heart". Then a sudden rush of thought comes in and it's mostly "pleaaase don't do anything lame.. please! She's so wonderful" and I think the reason for that after aeons of thinking has to do with being catfished twice for being fat, being told I'm too caring or nice or honest, and ghosted. That puts a big whammy on self confidence.

[HannaBanana7]

It depends honestly. With my new crush, I talk to him because we are friends (I am not actually sure if I have a crush on him). With a different crush I didn't really talk to him because we weren't friends. I tried to but it didn't really work out. And usually when I have a crush I would rather just be/or stay friends than date. Not looking for a boyfriend

[FutureTrunks]

Silent depending on how big the crush is. I’m always full of nerves, anxiety, and butterflies wanting to speak but can’t.

[HOAAH]

usually kind of silent, and hoping that they will do all the talking...

[tartaarsaus]

I currently don't have a crush nor am I normally pretty chatty (often can't be bothered to participate in convo's I find stupid or lame).

However, I usually talked to my crush since I wanted to get to know her. Eventually ended up multiple times with nothing at all though for various reasons.

[TheMoroccangirl]

I just got rid of my feelings so I don't really have a crush either.
I guess I'm kinda the opposite. I get very silent, and just talk whenever someone talks to me, but even then I respond short, and my voice gets very high around the crush :/.
No one could ever tell though, because I'm usually pretty introverted.

[tartaarsaus]

Being completely honest, I tend to respond shortly if my crush started to talk to me. I just freak out at those times I since if I talked to my crush I would have had to sort of mentally prepare for it. Then again, I'm completely oblivious to my surroundings so never knew if somebody had a crush on me.

[TheMoroccangirl]

I tried to avoid conversations with the crush 😂. I need preparation too.
Oh no, I'm very sharp, I know exactly who has a crush an who hasn't.

[tartaarsaus]

😂 At least I didn't try to avoid conversations, I'm just rather bad at them I think.

I just don't know if somebody likes somebody else or me, I'm usually not familiar with any of the signs nor am cunning enough to actually notice them.

[TheMoroccangirl]

No man if I don't avoid, he'd think I don't know how to talk Dutch 😂😂. My Dutch becomes a mess because of my feelings, and I usually throw a horrible accent through it as well.

I wasn't before either, but then I got interested in psychology and well part of it was about body language. It works kinda like a confidence boost for me right now 😂. I don't always assume that someone likes me though, I need to see a lot of signs back in his behavior and I sometimes use my knowledge towards him to confirm (like by using certain sentences etc).

[tartaarsaus]

I can still talk in normal Dutch if I talk with my crush, usually just stutter and pretty awkward.
Normally my mind goes blank if I talk to my crush without starting the conversation and I just say weird stuff 😂

I see, that makes sense. A couple weeks ago so indeed saw some MyTakes about that from you.
I know nothing about all that, but knowledge on history and such is 👌

[TheMoroccangirl]

Well it really is horrible for me to hold a normal conversation with the crush, while I normally talk formally Dutch to everyone. I always felt like I was choking whenever the crush talked to me. My mind went blank as well, so maybe that's why I got that feeling.
Yeah my interest is very broad, so I have knowledge about the weirdest things 😂. There's still a lot left to learn though.
I'm very fond of history too, ergo same here 🙌

[tartaarsaus]

I think mind going blank and not being able to talk properly is pretty normal though so I imagine it's nothing to be embarrassed of, although I do feel like that.

I usually just deeply research something I'm interested in and then get on with the next thing. Mostly Israeli-Arab related, since that's my ethnical background.

As for history, I don't know about you, but I find Dutch history incredibly boring. Can't be bothered to learn it anymore, unfortunately I'll have to 😕

[TheMoroccangirl]

Same, ah well I become clingy as well which makes it worse.
Yeah, I also love to research certain topics I´m interested in, and I research a lot of weird stuff. I´m a studious and a curious person. My attention gets easily caught, I recently researched the wings of a fly, because it fascinated me somehow. No idea why, it just came up in my mind when I saw a fly moving with his wings, like ´´I NEED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS´´. I´ve done the most researches about history and.. the human body, because that´s of course what fascinates me the most next history. I like art as well, that may add up why I´m fascinated about the human body.
Yeah I think everyone who loves history starts with his ethnical background. I´ve done a big research about my own background, and I´m amazed that I´m technically seen mixed, even though I´m considered a full blood. It makes all sense to me why I see different people (in terms of looks) sharing the same ethnicity when I go there

[TheMoroccangirl]

I think Dutch history is partly boring, but it could be interesting as well. The golden age caught my interest for a period, and it made me also want to know about the Victorian era (I ended up loving that era). I think my favorite era´s are antiquity (greeks en romans), the renaissance, Victorian era, world war 2 (horrible time yes), Moroccan and Arab history. Mostly because of art, heritage/culture, and because of things which shocked me (war 2).

[tartaarsaus]

True, the Golden Age is pretty interesting with the Victorian times right after that.
I'm more fascinated with Roman times, world wars (yes horrible, but the politics in the time such as rise of fascism is interesting), Cold war (damn is that interesting).

Must admit, I don't know anything about half my ethnic heritage. My dad is technically from Morocco, therefore Im Moroccan in Dutch statistics, but he hasn't got Moroccan passport neither do I. I don't know anything about Moroccan or Arab culture/history. I'm more focused on the israel side of things. Then again, researching the israeli side was substantially down to the political controversy surrounding it. I wanted to do a lot of research on the matter to establish a well thought out opinion on the matter. My opinion is still the same though

Yeah, I have the same mentality regarding researching things. Because of school (profielwerkstuk en dergelijke keuzeopdrachten) I have to research so much of economic systems, economies..

[tartaarsaus]

and found out some interesting stuff whilst researching it i. e. the Netherlands initially profiting from German occupation. That made me even more interested in it. Now I can just sit and read about it all (like I have to, 80 hours to fill) for a long time wanting to know more.

[TheMoroccangirl]

I agree, I´ve cried several times during my researches about world war 2, but I discovered a lot of hidden stuff. I´ve never stalked someone so much before as I did with a Nazi doctor. I had many questions, and what I read about him wasn´t 100% logical so I started to investigate his life and ended up making a profielwerkstuk about it.
What surprised me was that Eva Braun was half Jewish. Surprisingly there´s a lot behind it.
The cold war caught my interest as well, especially because a cause of another world war was just close during that period. It also fascinates me how everyone in general is just silent about Mao. As if 78 million killed people by him is just nothing.

I somehow already had a feeling that you might be (partly) Moroccan haha, maybe because there are a lot of Jewish Moroccans, and I´ve met a few before. I really love how peaceful muslims moroccans and jewish moroccans live together in Morocco. For example this: www.moroccoworldnews.com/.../

[TheMoroccangirl]

I felt so happy to read this, though I already expected they´ll be like ´it doesn´t matter whether you´re jewish or not, we are one´
I think it´s also a country thing. Moroccans are kinda nationalistic so they don´t really care what someone´s religion or skincolor is. Just open-mindness and tolerance. I think that´s really beautiful.
I came to know that my dad´s side is originally from the middle-east (Arab), while my mom´s side is berber. Berber people basically look like white people. Many of them got mixed, but there are still enough pure ones, and they´re like yeah: blonde/redhead, pale, blue eyed (look at the queen of morocco). I have them in my family, and even my brothers are blonde (I was too). Just the bone structure differs. Also there were a lot of Greeks/Romans (for example augustus ), and even Egyptians mixed with berber people. I forget the name of a Pharoah who was half berber.
Your profielwerkstuk is also about history? (mine was too and I did it on my own)

[tartaarsaus]

Unfortunately when Israel just came into existence it was not all so good. Couple hundred Jews were killed and there was quite a lot of violence, hence operation Yachin was set up with which my dad had to flee.

However, my family goes often to Morocco as obvious Israelis and they have always been treated nicely. So. i imagine it's different now. Rest of my family is going to Morocco in may but I'm not. Because exams 😕.

Like with you, 2 of my brothers have a darker shade of blonde hair and have pretty white skin compared to me.

I don't like to admit I cry at this stuff but I have done it when I was at Auschwitz-Birkenau (I was 10) and when I went to Yad Vashem (biggest Holocaust museum in Jerusalem).

The doctor is Mengele Right? Mossad was after him just like with Eichmann. They almost got the bastard.

[tartaarsaus]

Yeah, my profielwerkstuk is about history but it's not Mengele or sort of stuff. It's about the Wirtschaftswunder, or the economic resurrection of Germany. But that's a lot of cold war stuff in it. It's basically a mix of history and economy.

It's pretty interesting though I would have preferred to do it about Israel since that is where my main knowledge is.

[tartaarsaus]

I intend to study history at the university next year for obvious reasons

[TheMoroccangirl]

Yeah that´s also interesting. You must have an E&M profiel haha.
I intend to study Jurisprudence in uni next year, because I have certain goals to achieve, and I´d need that study for them. I´m currently studying a mix of Sociologie, psychology and law, because I basically had no idea which one interested me the most, but I discovered a few weeks ago what I exactly want, and I´ve set up a lot of goals. It made me really ambitious. My main goal has always been that I want to achieve something really high/big.

[tartaarsaus]

I have E&M but also have biology and physics. I just find history by far most interesting and that is where my 'passion' is.

Jurisprudence is just studying law, right?

Studying sociology, psychology and law? That's interesting , and I guess that's where your interest in psychology that you spoke earlier off came from.

I don't really know how to properly say this but it's admirable you've set up many goals and are very ambitious.

[TheMoroccangirl]

History was my favorite subject too. I still don´t understand how some people could dislike the subject, like damn how?
Yeah, rechtsgeleerdheid
My interest for psychology started very early, I guess when I was around 14? I was just interested in a different category lol. I literally memorized the mental illnesses, the symptoms, and how it could be kinda helped (you can't really cure them) etc. I´ve noticed symptoms of bipolarity on a classmate, he later on told me he got diagnosed with it, another one suffered from Post traumatic stress disorder, and I noticed that. I also know a lot about personality disorders such as psychopathy, sociopathy, machiavellianism, narcissism etc. I know how to recognise them, and how they keep myself safe etc.

I appreciate it to read that haha, motivation is the key

[tartaarsaus]

I don't know how people can hate history. Maybe because it already happened but it's interesting.

Well, that's very interesting and pretty great you actually recognised those illnesses. I would never be able to do that, although I'm more of an analytical person. I guess you are an observant person. Now you just made me more interested in all those things.

True, motivation is key.

[TheMoroccangirl]

They think it's boring, still a mystery to me

You will recognize them as well once you study about it, trust me. It is very interesting 😂 and yeah I'm kinda very sharp when it comes to observing. I always notice the smallest details too.

[reno117]

Shy, very shy and when I get more comfortable I start making retarded jokes and laughing like an idiot, so I go from shy to nervous, why? That's what happens, it simply does to most people, ah, also I sweat cold.

[lorenzo123]

Hah! I'd be so nervous around her. I get nervous because she's like... MY CRUSH! The words would be stuck inside my mouth and I wouldn't even look at her because I think I'd prolly faint 😂

[geeky_stoner]

I'm the same around them as away from them. Talking to and around my crushes is easy. The hard part is asking them out.

[Hidden_P]

Pretty chatty. We have been dating for over 3 years though.

[Goochbreaker]

I'm silent if I know there's a chance something might happen between us SO I ALWAYS FUCK IT UP weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[BCRanger10]

In the past, I'd usually been a bit more talkative.

[Anon85]

Chatty, I think. I try to be funny and charming when I can be

[just_wondering_01]

Silent or at least less chatty unless I'm used to talking to him

[anewgirl]

Usually I’m on the silent side, but this guy brings it out of me lol. I get pretty chatty

[zazuun]

Depends on the crush.
Sometimes I am chatty, other times I am too nervous to talk

[TriTree]

Nervous and the moments id try to talk with them they would get nervous. There have been too many nerves going on! I've only had 2 exceptions to that but they didn't work out... 😐

[jakeiremonger]

I'm nervous around my crush cause she's muslim and I don't want her to jihad my a$$.

[naraku]

Silent because I am by myself when I see her in the morning and she will have often 3-10 friends around her at anyone time.

[DesiBeautyLover]

Chatty. Often to the point that she gets creeped out.

[datgirl]

I get pretty shy around guys I like or think are attractive.

[NightOwl_23]

Silent, I get nervous, don't say anything and usually look away from her.

[Stan_Control_]

When i had a crush, i was being cool and acting as usual.

[clubby789]

Probably more than anywhere else; we're already good friends.

[Jefffromtexas]

Overly talkative sometimes lol. Nervous? Of course, its natural. But whats the worst that can happen?