Do hot guys get hit on, approached, asked out, or chased by girls a lot?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

95% of the time girls only reveal attraction through body language when they see me. I'm a pretty good looking guy and most of the girls that like me only like me because I approached them after they gave me flirty body language. Girls hardly ever approach me and chase me...they only look me up and down and smile if they're feeling confident. This is all because they're trying to give me a hint to come up to them and start a conversation. It took me a while to understand that.

The only girls that walk strait up to us hot guys and hit on them are they girls that are too easy. They don't really value themselves or respect themselves. That's why I like girls who send me hints they like me with eye contact without completely throwing themselves at me because they're more real and most likely MATURE.

So to sum it up, NO most hot guys don't get hit on a lot by girls. Girls show us they like us through eye contact, smiling, etc. They do that because MOST GIRLS ARE AFRAID OF REJECTION...they don't want to get their heart broke. So they let the guys deal with that part.

1stblackx · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily.

Maybe approached, but its never like super blatant "here I am, can I blow you?". Its more like girls who I know that like me come to have regular conversation thinking that I don't know she likes me.

Girls can ask guys out but its never in the literally sense, its more like "I'm at a party you should come", or an invitation somewhere.

Honestly though this site has taught me that a lot of girls do like me when I used to think they didn't, thanks girls. But what I'm trying to say is that girl's attention is a lot more body language orientated and a lot of us are to stupid to pick up on it. So even if they are hitting on us or approaching us its a lot less discrete about it.

Sometimes I'll get a girl that comes up to me that tells me I'm cute in a bar or at party but I don't see it as her hitting on me, I see it as her giving me the green light to hit on her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sure seems like they do.  If you ever have a hot boyfriend, girls seem to through themselves at him all the time.  Sometimes it isn't worth it to date a hot guy because these guys know they have options & we all know men have a hard time not cheating.  Men may be the stronger sex physically speaking, but when it comes to resisting temptation, men are weaker.  It is hard for me to understand because I'm never even "tempted" to cheat on a guy.  When I'm with someone they are the only one I want.  Men are just not the same way, & I think this is why women come on to hot guys because they know how easily persuaded men are.  I swear, sometimes all women should just become nuns, lol.

acidpop · Accepted Answer

I'm good friends with a couple of gorgeous guys. And yes, girls are all over them, chasing hard. ha ha Girls will text them all the time, ask to hang out/ask them out. It can get kind of disgusting, because you can tell a lot of the girls have no self-respect. One of the girls who was chasing after one of my hot friends tried to start a fight with me because he and I were FWB for a bit, and somehow she thought that was an attack against her. In my opinion, that's chasing to the extreme. Obviously many girls are a lot more casual about it, but you get the point.

Seraphine · Accepted Answer

Sure, if they're up to the standards of most girls. But then again, when you're hot, people might find you intimidating and crawl away, 'cause they think you'll reject them.

So really it depends on the girl. If she's the bold type then of course she'll ask him out. If it's a shy girl, she most likely won't have the guts to admit her feelings, at least not right away.

Dragonlady · Accepted Answer

yess my dear, and if your dating one this does happen A LOT and quite frankly if your the jealous type could drive you crazy! because girls are just so damn dumb these days throwing themselves of your man right in front of you! so glad I don't have to worry about that with my babe he's regular looking

avatarr · Answer

Girls are almost never as direct as guys. From my experience, their usual ploy is to make their interest relatively known, but they wait for you to make the first move. There are certainly exceptions, but this method is the most common.

Heres a good example. I will be dancing at the club/bar. A girl will appear nearby with her back turned. She will glance back at you once or twice and smile. She might then move a little closer, and will make sure there is ample space for you to come and grind on her, but in most cases, she waits for you to initiate the grinding.

This type of approach where she tries to make you make a move is used in most any situation, not just on the dance floor. I've also experimented with this a little to see how often I could get a girl to make the first move on me. It happens, but it only works on certain girls. They need to be bold or interested enough. As a guy, your best bet is to just make the first move and live with the lame way that gender rolls work.

But here's a little advice to women. When a girl randomly makes a move on me, I find it surprising and extremely attractive. It is very refreshing to for once not have to worry about making a complete idiot out of myself. She makes her interest known, and then I don't have to tread lightly, I can then also be open about my own interest. I have never turned down a girl who has come up to me. This is not to say that it won't ever happen, but it's a lot less likely then if a girl uses indirect methods.

One more off topic piece of advice for those awesome girls who do initiate grinding, if you;re going for the sneak attack, please start off gentle. I've almost been knocked over when I wasn't expecting it and a girl comes in and grinds super hard.

Anonymous · Answer

I know you posted this a while ago, but the blunt answer is NOOOOO. They DO NOT. Not in the way you think. The hot guy is absolutely NOT the equivalent of a hot girl. Absolutely in no shape, way or form. I know because I was a good looking guy in college (still in shape now..but my hair isn't as thick...:( ). The only exception I would make is cougars going after young studs. But other than that. NO.

Here is the problem with attractive man:

1. Women get intimidated (even hot women). I think this is why many attractive women sometimes date average joe guys (my ex got engaged to one).

2. Some of these guys (but not all) develop no personality to approach women. They are too confident in their looks.

3. Women and ugly MEN assume they are gay. Some are, but most aren't.

4. Women/Men assume good looking guys of being smug/arrogant. Some are, but again most are not.

However I heard an interesting fact in an sociology study years ago than attractive men make 15% more than average looking guys. Where attractive women and their average looking counterparts make the same. It was the first non male bashing comment I heard in that class...so it really stuck in my mind. :) In fact in the past I almost always landed a job when I was interviewed by a female. I guess the favoritism towards attractive men versus attractive women is more "innoncent" when women are making hiring decisions.

However the bottom line is you would be surprised how many good looking guys are single and lonely.

brokenblade · Answer

I personally do not consider myself hot. I have a history of being the opposite of hot. I used to be the guy who would get passed up by other girls... except for one, and she would be the one I'm the most attracted to, go figure.

I don't recall ever in my life approaching a woman. As a matter of fact, my current gf approached me. Get this, I am a down and out guy, I could be good looking. I don't see it right now. At least I don't look how I want to look right now. I have been told recently that I am good looking and I am often approached by women. The reason I have never approached a woman is that I was always busy with stuff. I was and still am entangled in a lot of negativity that I am trying to get out of my life.

I've always figured that once I get myself into a better position, then I'd get a girl. Didn't happen that way. My girl came and she kept coming around. She was persistent (not in that creepy rom com kind of way). I eventually realized that she truly wanted me. I would've missed out on a wonderful relationship.

I may have rambled. I mean to say, I have always been the one who got approached. Maybe I look a lot better than I give myself credit for, but like another poster said; beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Also, for me, recently, it hasn't been just one. It has been four women approaching me (not at the same time, though).

TimeAndTimeAgain · Answer

"Hot guys" are an illusion that girls create about someone. More often than not, the "hot guy" isn't that great looking. But he'll be something like a good singer, or in a band, or popular. Or just the fact that he already has a lot of girls going after him, will make a lot of OTHER girls want to go after him.

I'm in no way Brad Pitt, but I'm far from ugly. Yet I find it pathetic that whenever I am somewhere by myself, not a single girl looks at me. NOT ONE! If I try talking to any of them, they treat me like I'm a creep. But if I show up with my best friend (who is a girl), then suddenly everyone starts looking at me, girls smile, and are A LOT more receptive.

This is extremely frustrating and is leading me to believe the majority of girls are small-minded infants, who are unable to determine for themselves what it is they like in a guy, and so they rely on other girls to do that for them. In this case, the more girls a guy has chasing after him, the hotter that guy becomes.

Phoenix52 · Answer

No I don't get approached. There's a technique though, that can let women easily approach a guy though - it's called Peacocking. Wear a purple sportcoat and have a matching hat and T-shirt. Or dye your hair blue, mohawk it, and wear a fancy-designed shirt that matches in color.

Girls will have an EASY reason to approach the Peacocker. To comment on what he's wearing, and keep some conversations going.

Other than that, if an attractive guy wears the usual fly clothing out, but doesn't stand out much from the crowd, he'll have to do his own approaches. I've worn my casual artistic clothes out before and have spotted girls making eye-contact with me. Sadly I was too distracted to even care about them.

But in my view, this is the way it works. Girls don't want to look 'easy'. They want the guy to pursue them. They want to witness his confidence and have him pick her up. Cold approaching is even more challenging, because there's no IOIs from the girl.

Surfinforlife · Answer

They do it in an indirect way.

Normally when I get attention from them they try to assure me that they are there, so I can hit on them. When I mean they hit on me indirectly I mean it. Normally they say "love to see you at that party =)." Yea and if they add a smiley face, then your golden. That is definitely her hitting on you. I get chased quite often. but it's all in a secret way. Normally to give me the green light to approach them if I like them. Guys just have to be smart enough to pick up on these signals...AKA "Getting hit on"

ljrobert · Answer

I get approached a lot... it's the only way I have ever gotten girls. Like girls will come up to me at parties, and then we'll hookup. But if I DON'T get approached, I don't get shit. Like in looks I'm about a 9, but my personality is a solid 5. I always say something that's retarded, so whenever I try to approach girls I fuck it up.

Major point: A guy who is a 5 in looks and a 9 in personality will beat me ANY DAY OF THE WEEK. Seriously. But I do get approached a lot, if that's what you're asking.

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

I used to when I was 18-19 but not too much in public after my hair started thinning when I was 20. I still get hit on a fair amount through dating sites. I'm 26 now and I like how I look since it distinguishes me, but I think most girls my age think I'm older than I am. I know some girls don't like balding guys but there's also some who prefer them. It's a good thing in the long run since balding is partially caused by excess testosterone, and you all know what that means, there's always gas in the tank, so to speak.

MrVashMan · Answer

I don't really consider myself "HOT", but I have had a lot of girls show interest in me by hitting on me or revealing super personal things about themselves to me. I'm not really chased by girls, and I've only had 3 different girls ask me out in my life. Once, a girl who is a lesbian told me that I'm the only guy that made her question her sexuality. She said that if I had asked her out, she would've probably gone straight for me. I wasn't quite sure how to process that at first, but it's extremely flattering. There is another girl right now that's hitting on me like CRAZY; blatantly hinting that she wants to kiss me, hugging me every time she sees me, non-stop flirting. She's really cute, but I think she's annoying as hell! I could never date her. I think she literally has some mental issues, too.

Brando · Answer

I don't know about "hot guys", but I don't get hit on, approached, or chased by girls any. The last time I was being chased by girls was in elementary school, maybe a little bit into middle school too. Not sure what it is, but my guess is that I'm not very nice looking- as in I don't walk around smiling at nothing lol. I'm usually just straight faced until I'm talking to someone or something makes me laugh. Also, I'm not in places where I'm around females so that's probably the biggest reason why I don't get chased or approached.

Lockjawx27 · Answer

Most guys, even if they are well above average looking, do not ever get approached. It doesn't matter if every girl in the room likes him, he still is expected to initiate and ask her out.

A girl would never give up her power and control by initiating. Having the luxury of sitting and waiting for the guy to do all the work gives her an advantage, and she will not give it up even if the guy is good looking.

Now, if he is a rare Zack Efron look-alike, maybe he would get approached, but this is like 2% of guys

zagor · Answer

Yeah, a guy I knew got flagged down by a girl in another car when he was driving so she could give him her phone number. This same guy was causing problems where he worked because all the young single girls there were hanging out by his desk instead of working. He had these amazing eyes that even got my pulse going, and I'm straight as anyone.

Another friend I had, I only went out clubbing with him once, but it was amazing how many hot girls were approaching us. For me, it was a totally different world than I was used to; made me wish I had hung out with good-looking friends before.

Xenophobia · Answer

Not as much as you'd think. A lot of times girls won't approach me because they think

1)He's got a girlfriend

2) He's a player

3) He's a snob cause he's good looking

If they stopped making those assumptions and allowing those assumptions to dictate their decisions, maybe they'd realize those stereotypes aren't true.

I get hit on by gay guys and it makes me very uncomfortable.

andrewf · Answer

I'm not a hot guy but I am on the attractive side and I get hit on and asked out by a lot of ugly and average looking girls.  Once and awhile an attractive looking girl will hit on me.  You can tell if a girl likes you by the way she laughs.  If she gives you an exagerated giddy kind of laugh then she likes you as opposed to a normal laugh.  Also if she laughs at everything you say she likes you.  I wish I was hot tho so that I could get hit on by a lot of attractive girls.  Girls don't go out of their way to get me but they do invite me to chase them.

pianoman · Answer

Um I don't know if I am a hot guy or not but it all depends on the girls he meets, I get approached all the time by girls but maybe I just hang out with out going girls. Most girls just hit on me I usually do the asking out but I have been asked out by a few before. And only one has ever persistently chased me like leaving presents on my front porch etc.

sufi633 · Answer

i'm straight but I get hit on by other guys more than I do girls. girls might approach and flirt with me... but I've been told by several girls that I can be slightly intimidating. I mean... look at my picture... puppies for f*ucks sake... how is that intimidating!

amatuer_zombie · Answer

guys don't get hit on by girls,since they are socially conditioned not to be the ones chasing.

so since the amount of girls approaching guys is very low,if a girl does approach me,i'd be thinkin ...is she after my money?just like when a girl thinks...does this guy wanna get into my pants only?

madness483 · Answer

I don't know if I'm hot. But yes, girls do approach me (what I consider) quite a bit. I don't know what you considered a lot, but judging from the comments thus far on this question, I would say I get approached by women more than 98% of guys here.

About once or twice a week, it is the very direct kind of approaching. Girls come up to me, buy me a drink, etc. And let me tell you... some girls complain about guys not knowing how to approach women... but you girls are even worse...

And yes, there are a lot more of those "subtle approaches" describe by other people here. I don't really consider that to be "approaching" someone though. That's just flirting to me, of which I tend to do a lot as well.

Xihb07 · Answer

No. I can tell from personal experience. A guy will hit on a girl he finds attractive even if she is in jeans & sweats,or working @ McD's. Women will not even consider that. A lot of guys will tell you that they have *never,* I repeat, never, been asked out, or hit upon, by a woman.

So, there are a few experiences that are vastly, vastly different for men than women.

Dan2287 · Answer

Ive been told I shouldn't have such low self esteem because I'm not that bad looking. That being said, I never ever get approached by women, never get hit on, never get asked out. I usually assume though that this is because they are taken or not interested to begin with

IDGAF309 · Answer

Yes. How do I know, it's simple. For me girls literally fall off the sky, meaning I get girls attracted to me everywhere I go. This is not me having a big ego, a lot of people all over the place tell me about all the different girls that are interested in me. Even girls themselves tell me about their girl-friends and other girls wanting me. I have been use to this for a long time now. Most of my girlfriends have been models and shit.
I hoped this helped. I don't like getting lied too and I don't like lying! This is sincere:)

scar1 · Answer

not sure where I fall but when everything is in order some attractive(average good looking) girls do definitely find me attracted and I've never been aproached or hit in person. well I did once by a fat chick but I knew her it wasn't some random girl(I also don't do anything social) I also tend to attract minors more than any other age probably  because I usualy keep my pretty long, so It could have something to do with that

ShouterVW · Answer

I am not sure how you define "hot", but I have been approached by quite a few girls at parties, and on campus and such.  They never really are all over you necessarily, but they definitely  show signs of interest, lots of talking, etc.  I wouldn't say that they ask guys out much, but approached is a definite.

buffballr12 · Answer

Honestly, girls look at me a lot, but almost never come over and talk. And when they do, while I admire their courage,  they are obviously nervous around me so it's a little awkward. And it's tough when a girl I'm not attracted to starts hitting on me..and I'm sure it's the same for girls. The difference is that I tell them upfront I'm not interested and don't give out my number. Most girls still give out their number which I think is a horrible thing to do if they aren't interested.

Guacamole · Answer

I know you didn't like it, but this woman hit the bull's eye:

Chanel2211 days agoWhen I see another girl talking to you and laughing with you it sends me the message that you are a fun loving guy that a (attractive) girl will go hangout with you...but if you are alone, it sends the message as you don't have friends or girlfriends which in return tells me that you are maybe not a nice fun entertaining guy...sooo we move on to the next one ;)!

SOUL4REAL · Answer

Being a Lady,I don't think a woman should chase a man,you will be taking the joy out of being chased. Men are hunters so they are the ones who does the chasing, when a woman chase a man she's only going to get(layed) and that's it. Men like a lady who is confident in who she is and that's not about chasing men,because if you chased him,you will chase other men. This all comes with maturity,it's a lesson to be learned!

Yeahhbro · Answer

No they don't that is a lie, even hot guys have to do make some "effort" and approach a girl he likes. Girls that say that is true probably don't know that he approached them some way or another even if it was to ask just the time.

probabilist · Answer

I get chased and hit on a lot but like someone else said "not by the right girls".  men have to go out and do the chasing, unfortunately, because honestly if some of you cuties out there had the balls to say to a guy what you mean it would make all our lives a lot easier.

macchonk · Answer

sometimes I do get a girl approaching me, but probably  because I'm too quiet? I've  had a girl who asked 4 my number...i've had some random girl come and sit on my table while I was having breakfast by myself, though I wouldn't describe myself being really attractive or hot for that matter,  because I still don't have a gf...my step dad once teased me calling me gay because of it... sad really...

KikaiderX · Answer

wowo I'm surprised there are lot of "no" from guys I personally would say I get approached a lot and if they aren't approaching directly they are dropping major hints.its not always a super model who is approaching me but a majority are really attracttive. I always thought it was funny because I never really thought I was super attractive  maybe a little above average.

Timkingioo · Answer

no, because hot girls don't have to. that leaves the girls who aren't hot, but they are just seen as annoying when trying to hit on men. also, the fact that a guy hits on a girl shows confidence which is a turnon for women. if a girl would approach the guy this would mean a girl would have more confidence which is considered nothot

mike5150 · Answer

I wouldn't consider myself hot lol but there is a girl who keeps approaching me everyday. She told me she has a boyfriend yet she continues to try and flirt with me why? I have no idea but its starting get kind of uncomfortable considering she will ask personal questions.

ewkimchi · Answer

THey get checked out a lot...but I would never ask one out/hit on them. Why?  Because they're intimidating. hotness=intimidation by other people. Plus they probably do the hitting on other girls...not the other way around. But then again, I look super innocent at least that's what other people tell me so hot guys wouldn't want to date me anyways :/

gtex1991 · Answer

i don'y consider myself hot, but I do get hit on by girls a lot (remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, I have had girls call me average)anyway when girls like you they ask you personal questions about you... they try to invited you to places or ask if you will show up at a party... some will touch you on their shoulder, others twist their hair around you. others get scared of you

it varies from girl to girl

Anonymous · Answer

I never chase guys...idk its like from my own experience, if I go after a guy, his ego seems so get bigger because he gets the mindset that girls want to chase him...just from personal experience. I don't know lol any girls agree with me?

I like to leave the guys to do the chasing ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Not in the way you're thinking.  Girls are so oblique about everything that it takes a Ouija Board and a Tarot card reader to determine the meaning of their actions.  Half the time women start out "hating" the guys they end up with, so go figure.  I've basically come to the conclusion that if a woman pays any attention to you she likes you on some level, and if she ignores you she dislikes you.  It's all a mystery to me.

Anonymous · Answer

they might get hit on but they are never asked out by a girl mostly because when a girls asks a guy out she might seem like she is desperate (which is Bull because  if you like someone male or female then you should just make it clear). every time a girl gives me a complement I always think that she is just paying me a compliment...i don't think much of it.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends on the circumstances. Like anywhere other than a bar or party I would say no, girls don't really approach men too often unless he is like one of the hottest guys they've ever seen. But he'd have to be flawless to the girl - perfect skin, perfect face, perfect body, nice tan, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say they do...

Once I had a girl who was apparently in my class followed me down the street and stopped me at an intersection while I was waiting for the traffic lights and asked me for my number.

And more often than not at parties, clubs etc. I get random girls or girls I hardly know coming up and throwing their arms around me. I just laugh nervously... I probably have aspergers or something... lol all those girls probably think I'm a jerk now :(

pezzonovante88 · Answer

I WISH!  I have a friend that is okay looking (apparently) and he'd often get hit on by many types of girls.  I think it was more his personality and reputation of being dtf that gave him the edge, though.  I, on the other hand, seem to be virtually invisible to girls.  I get zero attention when I go out.  I used to like to think it was because girls were in some way intimated by me, but I'm not so sure about that anymore.

Eamzy · Answer

Not enough. I swear every guy would always love one more lovely girl to chase him. If they don't want another one to chase them then its because that particular girl isn't lovely enough for their standards.

Arwens-Fire · Answer

I don't think it happens all the time.I think a lot of people still have that traditional thinking...that the guys are suppose to do all of the work. It happens though.Some hot guys are hit on alot,it depends.

Reiki_Z · Answer

no  never  not once in my life have I been approched  and id be super shocked and thrilled if I did  im not hot tho so maybe that's it hahaha  idk tho people say I'm cute  but f*** it

Reiki_Z · Answer

no  never  not once in my life have I been approched  and id be super shocked and thrilled if I did  im not hot tho so maybe that's it hahaha  idk tho people say I'm cute  but f***

longrodvonhugendong · Answer

I'm not really hot, but girls think I'm cute. Sometimes girls approach me, but they're usually too shy to make a move.

sdgsdfsdf · Answer

No.. I've been really good looking all my life; especially in high school. There's only been a few times I've been asked out. Of those few times, they were mostly all ugly/average girls. I do remember when I was a senior there was this really busty/pretty girl that had her guy friend come and ask me if she could have my number. I said no (this was because I was a senior and she was a freshman. I only wanted a senior).

Musclecarman · Answer

I've had a couple approach me, but more often they just usually sent flirting cues some were more aggressive than others. When they noticed me anyways lol.

20Questions · Answer

I used to get approached all the time...girls making up excuses to talk to me. I think a hot guy is a guy with a cool, confident swagger and I have that so I guess that makes me 'hot'...

DanielSan · Answer

I have had a few girls approach me.  Mostly tho you catch them staring or looking away or body language or rumors from theirs friends that SOMEHOW get to you and then  your supposed to make a move.

flower1000 · Answer

well I have 2 brothers  there hot and yes they do the quieter 1 is worse they even come to the door for him lol

Anonymous · Answer

I get chased a lot, but they just aren't the type of girls I want. So yes it does happen, my buddies have toyed around with these types of girls and it never ends well so I tend to stay clear, if I like someone I'll go after her in my own time.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls never ask me out. They do flirt with me and I do occasionally catch one that appears to be checking me out. I wish they would hit on me but men are still expected to do all the pursuing.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

Girls are usually too intimidated to talk to guys they find attractive. At least I know I am.

dreadheadMJW · Answer

Get approached sometime. I remember a girl grab me and said, "you coming home with me now" and I went lol.

mattiee · Answer

ive bein told by many girls I was hot/georgeous At school *college* I've bein approached about 3 times this year and at some clubs/bars I've gone to I've never bein rejected once

kinkynconfused · Answer

I've had one girl ever approach me and outright asked me out.  It was flattering, but it doesn't really happen to me.

FlightAuror2 · Answer

Wouldn't know, no one's chased after me, guess I'm not hot :p and last I knew, the chasing was 99.9% up to the men to do...

AdamThomas · Answer

I've been approached quite a few times. Definately not as much as girls are approached by guys though.

bansheeminx · Answer

In Miami yes, but most of those guys are jerks & the girls that chase them are consider "grenades."

Anonymous · Answer

of course. my one guy friend is gorgeous with a matching personality. there are so many girls after him. He's a TA and even his female students throw themselves at him

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