Are guys hot enough for girls to approach?

[RandomGuy1030]

You know how most guys with nice faces happen to be around 5'9? I have a face like that but I'm 6'3/190cm. I'm 17.

What about the AVERAGE guy who has a little boy's clothing style and a pro gamer's soft body?

Maybe

No

[HighlyVolatile]

Maybe! I got my share in my youth in spite of being fairly average-looking and only 173cm. I think I had two edges though that made lots of women approach.

1) You bring me to a social event and I'm having more fun than anyone! I dance at the center of the dance floor and talk to everyone around me. I've seen guys standing in the corner who seem much better-looking and taller than me but they look a bit too serious, and so lots of women tended to approach me instead of them perhaps drawn to how much fun I was having. I think they saw me as super fun and easy-going.

2) I have these weird biracial looks being half-white and half-Asian. Some minority of women seem to be drawn to it (mostly Asian women, but I also had a small minority of women in the US passing me their phone numbers without me asking).

I was in decent shape though. I didn't have muscles in the upper body and was kind of wiry in the upper body in my 20s but I was a sprinter and long jumper on my track team as well as a sponsored vert skater.

I think at least #1 is something any guy might be able to do to improve his chances at a social event. Have more fun than everyone there!

[HighlyVolatile]

I also had lots of guys approach me asking me, "What's you're secret?" And I'd be having a blast but then confused and just say, "I don't know!" But in retrospect maybe a big part of it was just being down to have fun and talk to everyone. I wasn't looking to get dates when I attended parties. I was just looking to have fun.

[HighlyVolatile]

That latter part might be a key too that I wasn't looking to get a date. At social events, it was kind of obvious when a guy was looking to get a date or get laid, and I think it's especially obvious to girls who are tuned to look for those signs. So I gave off no such signs and maybe that made them feel more comfortable approaching me and flirting. I genuinely wasn't looking for a date. If I made a new friend, awesome, if I got a date, doubly awesome, but I was perfectly satisfied just having fun with people.