Ever had a forbidden crush? Like being in love or crushing on someone you really shouldn't?

[Ronja00]

Who was it? Did you act on your feelings?

[Danishkabby]

On a colleague at work, both of us nearly 6''ft tall (I guess that's kinda my thing or something). She reminded me of my first girlfriend, someone who I never had much closure with after breaking up with her and regretting my decision. That being said, I found myself getting close to her, and feeling incredibly attracted to her in all the wrong ways, fantasizing about her and in general just not being able to get her off my mind. I started flirting with her, and once in a while we'd exchange "accidental touches" at work-- nothing obscene, just little bumps, or touching shoulders, or her pressing against my back when we weren't in quite a tight enough space to warrant it. Then one day a man shows up after work to pick her up, I immediately sense he might be her boyfriend, and start to pull away, but the next time we meet, I found myself asking her to let me drive her home, wandering to the beach at night, and being kissed by her after complimenting her all night (still not sure why I did it regardless of my suspicions) I couldn't resist the urges to continue so we made out, and immediately after I found out that she would be marrying her boyfriend in a few months time. Needless to say, the regret was nearly instant. The lust died down, and I was just left feeling like crap. So yes I had a forbidden crush, I acted on it, and I regretted it. The lesson of the story is, don't mess around with forbidden crushes unless you have the determination to sort through it all the way to the end. If you make someone cheat on their fiance, you better have been prepared to step in and marry her in his place. Face the problems that arise from a forbidden love head on and bravely, or like in Romeo and Juliet suffer for being sneaky and not facing your problems head-on.

[ObscuredBeyond]

It was my senior year of high school. She was a freshman. I was probavly the only good guy in her circle of friends. Then, I graduated. In spite knowing I was her only good influence, her mom didn't want her dating some college guy.

I backed away, but I warned her mom getting rid of me would be a mistake. A year later, the gal had a rapsheet.

I wasn't invited to her funeral either, but had to attend a memorial in the park with her old pals from drug rehab.

The cutters and brown sugar carvers and white horse riders treated me better than her own family ever did!

Was quite the eye opener. They're not good to themselves, but they're not all gutter slime.

A junkie with a heart of gold has a better chance of seeing the pearly gates than the modern Lady Tremaine!

[Claire136]

My crush was a close family friend. We grew up together and were really close. Sometime during puberty, I realize I like him a lot and actually wanted to date him. This then led to me spending more time with him, eventually falling in love with him. We did everything together, shared the same major, entered the same medical school, had an apartmemt together etc. I really thought he was just findng the right time to ask me out. But then last year, during the annual Christmas gala, he suddenly showed up with my sister as partner. He always either show up alone or with me. It kinda hurt but I brushed it off. Turns out he had asked her out and they're now engage. Life sucks and I'm thinking of moveong our of our apartment.

[whatthehellwasthat]

Yeah, I got a really bad crush 8 years in to a really crappy relationship that wasn't going anywhere. I realized that by holding on to something that was bad for me, I may be missing out on something good. So it was hard, but i walked away and I've been dating the second guy for almost half a year now. Im much much happier and I finally feel like im in a real relationship with someone who wants me and acts like it.

[AmandaFallenstar]

Errr... *Starts rambling on a list of forbidden loves* ... and my current one is my best friend but she rejected me.-. BUT ''It is ok to love someone even if they don't love you back, if they are worth loving.'' The Infernal Devices seiries by candressa clare

[LMNOP123]

Besides the typical guys already with a girlfriend, let's see.
A manager at my current work.
An already married teacher in college.
My former best friend (female) who was already with a guy.
Of course I never acted on any of these.

[LMNOP123]

Thank you for choosing my answer by the way! ^^

[Genie23]

Yes, I did... :-/
It was someone I used to be friends with, he lived in different country. So, there was no point confessing my feelings for him, but I'm pretty sure he had feelings for me too.

[Genie23]

Oh and I had a crush on a teacher 😂

[CaptainOverthink]

I had a crush on a girl at work. And she did NOT like me, she said that. And she had a boyfriend.
I wasn't supercrushing on her in the beginning, but it turned out that way later on. Because I thought I detected her showing interest. But it was all wishful thinking. At least I think so. Better to assume that anyway when she said so herself.
But I found myself unable to give up hope. So had a massive crush until I lost the job a year later. Nice to know she don't have to put up with my presence any longer though.

[AdamZ03]

Yeah. I wouldn't call it forbidden because I might have some chance (very little though). I have known her basically forever. We went to the same kindergarted and when school started we ended up in the same class. At first I didn't really notice her, but as I got older and I became "interested" in girls, I started to have a crush on her. She might have some feelings too I'm not entirely sure about that. She always smiles at me and laughs when I tell jokes, do something funny/stupid. She's so nice to me too. I'm too afraid to ask her out though. But I just can't get over her, she's so beautiful and smart and everything. She's freaking perfect. I'm kind of in an F-d up situation now.

[Weapon77]

Not sure if this counts, but I was REALLY into my sister's best friend awhile back.
I also liked this girl I found extremely attractive, but I later found out she was only 16 while I was 20.
I was also once infatuated by two different girls who had boyfriends (not at the same time). I feel like these are all people I shouldn't have wanted so badly.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I had a crush on a Muslim girl for 5 years. My parents would kill me if they knew.
Yeah, I acted on them, I told her how I felt, and it was really unexpected for her, but we remained friends after that, until she suddenly unfriended and ghosted me.
She lives in Dubai anyways, and I told her I can come visit and that's what she cut off contact.
Whatever, I wouldn't have been able to marry her anyways, so it doesn't matter. But she left a big void in my life, that I've been trying to fill.
5 years, we never had a single fight. If she wasn't a Muslim, she would've been absolutely perfect for me.

I also had a crush on two teachers in high school and a university professor.
I acted on one of the teachers, and I will just say, I'm glad I didn't have stalking charges pressed against me. But I learned my lesson. I was young and didn't realize until I got older, how inappropriate my behavior was.

[LorikaB]

Nope, no forbidden crush, but falling for someone I shouldn't? I always managed to do that... 😂 When I physically find some girl really attractive something always comes up: she is a party whore, she is just generally a bitch, we wouldn't be a good match based on our personalities, etc. Most of the time they were girls from HS, back in my HS years. Ever since those years have passes I just cock block myself. Rather not hurt myself than fall for someone again and get disappointed. If the time comes and I fins someone that manages to seem perfect for me during a whole year, I will ask her out. If I find mistakes in her that I don't like, I just skip on her. (If I fall for someone I really fall for her, like REALLY.)

[Anonymous]

I think I fell in love with my friend, I can't tell the difference between a strong emotional bond and love (could just be because she's a decent girl). However I don't know what to do about them. I hear people say that "telling your female friend that you like her is a like stabbing her in the back, making the friendship a sham".

Confronting these feelings and telling her how I feel hasn't been done. Don't even know if I ever will. I can never tell if a girl is friendly or genuinely likes me (as far as I know, the latter never happened). I don't know what to do or think, so I assume that taking these emotions to the grave are the only things I'll be able to experience since they're so wrong to have (falling in love with someone). Side note: typing that out actually made me want to cry.

If anyone actually does like me, then I'd expect them to tell me, since I won't. But girls only do like 0.1% of the time.

[Qwertsy]

Is this friendship with this girl preventing you from pursuing a relationship or friendship with anyone else? It sounds you are dealing with some emotional trauma. Sometime you gotta think about you... it might be a healthier option for you to ask her out. Even if you get rejected, you’ll be able to move on. a one way relationship is not healthy, friend.

[Qwertsy]

The reason I say this... I went through the same thing. And I still have feelings for that girl, but she doesn’t feel the same back. I had to back off to move on. It was the best decision I’ve ever made.

[Opinion Owner]

@Qwertsy
Well, in a way it's halting me from more friendships (with girls) yes. What makes it more difficult about asking her out is that I have class with her every single day of the week (besides weekend ofc) which would definitely make things unusual.

But I cannot tell if my feelings for her are real or just because she's one of the few girls I've actually managed to build a friendship with. I usually hold to small amounts of friends since they're difficult to make (people get bored of me quickly).

[kittycat119]

The guy I've been with the last 5 years. My parents are very racist so I wasn't allowed to really he friends with black kids or anything let alone date anyone black. But when I became a senior I ended up falling for a sophomore and we've been together since

[DamnSam]

Actually I have a crush on a girl...
And my ex have too a crush on this girl

I know there is a girl codec to not date the ex of the other one, but it looks like she will go with me on a date... but if its not going into a relationship, I would love to manage a date between my ex and our crush (not so selfish like most men)

[Anonymous]

Yes my sons coach! We talk all the time, he recently got engaged but is keeping it a secret. He denied it in front of a group of people and finally came clean after myself and a friend pointed out a picture of her with a ring on. He told me the date is min. 8 years if ever after I told him I have a crush on him. I have feelings I don’t know if it’s mutual but I wish I did! He shouldn't be talking to me as much as he does in my opinion though. What do you think? By the way he’s been with her for 10 years and just proposed in December.

[DearestGuy]

But don't u have a husband?

[Opinion Owner]

@DearestGuy yes but in the process of separating. Very complicated situation. I’m tired of being heart broken and would like to be happy.

[DearestGuy]

If u are separated then, u should go for it, u should allow someone to fix ur heart😊

[UsernAme123456789101]

All of you guys are going to call me weird but my Aunt's boyfriend lol and till together to this day. I'm like 17 and so like 28. Ehh yea I guess that happened but I don't have a crush on him anymore. I'm currently dating a guy and I'm happy to be with him.

[ReasonCalm]

My teacher is school. Didn't help that she wore low cut tops, even worse is a girl in the lesson commenting on how all they boys stare at her tits. She actually said that and she went so red! Then accused her of being rude. She still worse those low tops and wow...

[menina]

I've had many forbidden crushes. I was interested in guys who were white and I'm black, so none of them was in love or had a crush on me.

Now, I have another forbidden crush because he is taken.

I'm always making the same mistake...

[Pyrofox]

Hell yes I've had a crush on a girl that like a lot of my family tells me I shouldn't be with I still have it but we simply decided it wasn't worth having both of our families. Consistently putting one another down. For staying together.

[Anonymous]

I had on my brother's friend. He's 15 years older than me. I was 14 that time. He was very attractive and sweetest person that I've ever seen. He had crush on me too but I don't know maybe i was too young at that time and it was not happening. He's still not married. Hahaha

[TacosRAwesome]

Well most of my crushes end up being gay or taken. And when they're not taken, I'm taken and they are the friends/business relations of the person I'm with. So still off limits.

[lovedcursed]

same here

[k269c]

Yeah but if it's harmless, who cares. Been together almost 1½ years and even though it's not that long, we've overcome everything that kept us apart and we're still going strong

[jdrrichmond]

Why was it forbidden?

[k269c]

He's 8 years older

[jdrrichmond]

Gotcha. You started dating him when you were 15?

[jdrrichmond]

The are difference won't be a big deal once your legal.

[k269c]

16. And I was legal when we met. The age is 16 where I live

[jdrrichmond]

Gotcha. So only forbidden by your family?

[k269c]

Yeah. My dad has come to terms with it and my sister is understanding but nobody else is supportive

[jdrrichmond]

I understand. As long as he treats you well and you are happy...

[Anonymous]

I had a crush on my best friends mom, she is a gorgeous full figured woman. Great semse of human, she enjoyed having me over since i lived right across the street. I basically live there since I would hang out with my buddy all the time. I even worked for her husband, but for a while her marriage was very rocky nd since she is super sexual nd would complain about the lack of sex, I think she hinted to me about finding a lover... I didn't act on this but at times I had fantasized about doing so.

[Opinion Owner]

*sense pf humor

[EStephenchikov]

I lost my virginity to a close friend of my Mother. Since then I've been insanely attracted to older women. Girls my age don't tend to compare in terms of experience.

[thelongdong]

That’s awesome

[Anonymous]

I'm in my mid-30s but I often connect with and sometimes hook up with girls 19 to 23. I dated a 21 yr old for 9 months.

Go ahead and call me a dirty old man. But honestly many women my age are a huge pain in the ass (surprisingly flaky) and many younger girls are curious about older guys. They are more fun.

Am I supposed to feel guilty about that? At a time I did, but the hell with other people think.

[Hassaniscool]

Did you have sex

[Opinion Owner]

@Hassaniscool yeah with some of them.