How often do guys wait for girls to initiate flirting?

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Everyone talks about how men have it "so hard" on the dating because they have to "initiate everything," but from what I've seen it's the woman more often than not who initiates the flirting. Do men honestly always wait for the woman to initiate flirting?

LittleMissLib · Accepted Answer

Uhhhh if a guy is going to wait on me to start flirting with them chances are it ain't gonna happen. The idea that all women are supposed to be "flirt/seduction goddesses" is completely fantasized. Because I definitely don't fit the mold, lmao! Best I can do is ask a guy if he likes sour cream or something weird like that. Then I look like an awkward turtle after I realize what I just said. 🐢 And I know for a fact I'm not the only one.

So if I like you and feeling gutsy I'll just tell you. No way am I going to make a fool of my socially awkward self trying to flirt. Otherwise, I'll give you body language cues like eye contact, smiling at you, bumping into you, keeping my body turned toward you if we're talking, etc. And there ain't no changing me either, trust me. I've tried having my best friend, who is The Flirt Queen, train me in the art of flirting. It made me maybe 1% better than I was. It hasn't worked, so I'm stuck like this. 🤣

If you really into someone just work up the nerve to talk to them. Regardless if you're of the eggplant or kitty variety. 👍

ipecaclust · Accepted Answer

Too long. If the guy is wait I for the girl to initiate flirting before he makes a move that either means he's immature or that he's not actually interested. I don't care if you want to call it "shy," fact is its a beta move and she's not gonna be into you in most cases if you're not willing to have the balls to be straightforward with how you feel.

Dause · Accepted Answer

Often times guys will be ridiculed together with being rejected, because girls are accustomed to having to vehemently reject guys to make them go away, due to some of the more aggressive guys. Younger guys probably are more fearless when flirting but older guys sometimes get sick of flirting with random girls because they are typically pretty rude in return even if you aren't very 'out there', and so generally one would try to get to know another as a friend for a good while before trying to make a move, but people are also awkward at times making friends of the opposite gender so...

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

I'd never wait. Once I decide I am interested, I'll approach her ASAP, and I was like that as a teenager and young adult as well.

Some guys do wait on women, generally due to shyness or fear of rejection.

MajorEasy · Answer

Hmm... I'm not sure how you see that...

I'm flirting almost all the time... If she flirts back, we can get a nice banter going... If she doesn't, I move on...

Women usually flirt very lightly... Just staying within the being friendly fence...
Either that or they don't know how to flirt...

Saying hello first is not flirting...
Asking a question to a guy is not flirting... Laughing at what a guy says is not flirting...

Flirting requires the receiver to feel good about being there (or creeped out if they dislike the flirter...)... If the reaction or feeling from what's said is neutral... Then it's not a proper flirt...

Very few women I've met can pull it off...

What women are good at... In terms of flirting... Is the touch... They touch a guy in a way to let him know she's interested and he's more than just another guy to her...

Some do it brilliantly but sadly, too few do it...

PillowThief · Answer

I do. I'm not actively seeking a relationship, either, however. If it happens, it happens.

I will say that while I was actively seeking someone on, say, a dating app' (pick any - they're all the same), I initiated more. Nobody ever initiated with me.

So, I don't know. My experience has been extremely one-way.

RevengeServedCold · Answer

I don't wait for anything. However there are certain social cues that I need checked off before I act. Eye contact, laughing, smiling, open body, she's not crossing her arms or in a defensive stance.

My self-esteem is really high however.

You lumped all Men into one category. Not all Men have yet the experience, confidence, or social knowledge to understand social cues to initiate flirting.

kingprince1 · Answer

First of all guys get rejected more so who want to get rejected second if he trys to flirt with you and you don't want it girls can say sexual harassment and bam we're fucked if girls flirt most likely they aren't getting rejected and he says sexual harassment they will laugh in his face there's a lot of consequences for guys

xctmnt · Answer

I'm afraid of rejection. Even if a woman shows signs of interest, I almost never make a move. I'm sure when she finds out what a loser I am she will want nothing to do with me.

On top of that, since I was a boy, I've had it drilled into my skull that men are thirsty creeps and a nuisance to women who would rather just be left alone.

It's funny to me how women complain about men not approaching, but at the same time women do so fucking much to make men feel small and insignificant.

Anonymous · Answer

Exactly how do women more often initiate the flirting? How loose is your definition of initiating flirtin- applying make-up? Wearing revealing clothing? Looking in a guy's direction from afar, then looking away as soon as the guy looks back at them? Sitting back and waiting to be approached? Because none of those things constitute 'initiating flirting' in my book.

Zin27 · Answer

It's distinctly possible that men pulled the situation into the opposite direction in a reaction to what it was before. So perhaps we do wait for girls now, more than the other way around. We may be on our way to a healthy balance though. I look forward to seeing what happens with a little more adjustment.

ghost_leader07 · Answer

I think it's easier when girls do it and usually doesn't come off awkward because guys are always ready for flirtation but when a guy does it it's usually weird unless the signs are there.

Scorpion1980 · Answer

It depends on how the girl responds. If she is giving some hints, guy can start flirting in first meeting itself. But I would generally wait for few meetings and then start taking the lead slowly.

ScaryCool · Answer

Most of the time us guys are stupid and don't realize when a girl is flirting with us until afterwards lmao.

Crashnoveride · Answer

Typically men have yo make the first move and we have to clue sometimes on when to do that.  We tend to get the extreme good or bad from flirting so we tend to be cautious before trying

Jalaco · Answer

Rarely, personally I can only think of a couple times where the girl has initiated flirting. Its really nice to be honest. But most of the time I have to initiate, even if they really like me, it can be a pain.

EmoWithASnake · Answer

*sighs* Some, and I mean this. Some guys can't really read girls that well... And by some I mean Most

MindTime · Answer

Sometimes and I think it's partially because they're not wanting to be considered sexually harassing someone

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

I do all the time it's bad strategy But it make girls work hard from beginning for you n it become difficult to leave u as they invest a lot of effort to be with you in first place

RI_Guy · Answer

I am a bit socially awkward so I don't flirt. I am kind and may at times come across as flirtatious, but I never know a woman is interested in me until like three years later when a mutual friend says something about it.

boredinlife · Answer

I personally try and figure out of she is interested in me. That is extremely difficult because I'm pretty bad at reading women. Lol. If I notice an interest, i will approach. It's kind of different for each occassion.

zickzack91 · Answer

Yes we do. ^^ we do not like to make the first step

Swisscide · Answer

Being a shy guy , I will never engage flirting unless i'm drunk

Vahntastic · Answer

Honestly, I wait all the time. I have some slight trouble flirting with girls, so sometimes I wait, but if the feelings are strong enough, I'll dive right in head first.

smokey69 · Answer

A girl should flirt quickly, especially if she thinks he's cute. if u don't than another woman will.. and she'll will possibility will get his attention.

torwulf · Answer

I never wait, because a woman has only initiated 3 times in my life.

samhayne · Answer

I'll usually at least wait for eye contact and a flirty smile.

StickStickity13 · Answer

I don't really wait for it, if she does, then she does.

justsomeguy24 · Answer

No, waiting for a girl to initiate the flirting is like rolling a 12 sided dice. Odds are she won't initiate it

Anonymous · Answer

Initiating flirting is not enough, as many women have flirty personalities but would not be interested in you. To avoid misunderstandings, it's important to communicate clearly.

lazylittleowl · Answer

yes for me because I personally have fear of being rejected.

amyjacks · Answer

yeaahhh till they think its not going out of control

PaulSylvester · Answer

Many guys do. I personally prefer when it comes naturally for both. The guys that don't may have self confiance issues or just not that into the girl.

martin_mk · Answer

Not always. But there are some guys that believe that their gods gift to women they often wait for the women to initiate flirting

StubbledShip · Answer

I can't speak for everyone but I'm fucking oblivious

Nik1hil · Answer

I always start but she has gotta play along

Mike_90 · Answer

For me, i only do when im interested.

jirwin7979 · Answer

i do that very often due to being rejected a lot

HamzaNaeem · Answer

Honestly your question is like a maths problem😂

shamus1127 · Answer

Always in my case.

UniqueUsername132 · Answer

I always do

Delroy1995 · Answer

Never

Revolver_ · Answer

Not often

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