Let's say a guy walks up to you in the street and he asks you out?

[Popnlock]

Do you Ladies turn them down cause you don't know them? or would you give that random person a chance?... ladies tell me its about the approach and if he's mind blowing... but how do I become mind blowing lol answer the first part of the question first lol

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+1 y

only a few girls actually will engage in conversation with a random guy off the street and possibly give there number depending on how weird the guy is... while a majority of women will turn you down because your a random dude...

[timetowaste]

If he tries to make friendly conversation first, and I was likin it. Sure, I'd give it a shot.

However, too many times, guys have taken the wrong approach. Examples.

I was paying for my gas at the counter once, and a guy comes up from behind me.. "Ay yo, can I get yo numba" ... I stood there looking at him, probably in a bizarre way and he goes "Can you hurry up.. my girlfriend is waitin in the car."

I was sitting on the curb of a convenience store.. it was dark, and I had walked down the road to it, and I stopped for a minute to talk to my boyfriend on the phone. While I was on the phone with him, a guy came up and asked if I was stranded. I told him no and he walked away.. then walked back and asked me to go to dinner with him. Lets say I was single.. no way in hell am I going anywhere with a random guy in the middle of the night to "go get some dinner"

If you walk up and just ask for a number, you're going to get turned down everytime. Try to make some conversation first.

[Popnlock]

all yur storys lead to the creep vibe lol... all I think about is I just gotta go in say hi, I noticed you from over there and I would like to know if yur interested in having lunch or seeing a movie with me? but I assume most girls aren't interested in hearing that from a random dude off the street lol unless your very presentable

[blahh224]

This literally just happened to me yesterday, I turned him down... now let me tell you why... He had a huuuge creep vibe going on. We were at a corner waiting to cross the street and he just looks and me and blurts hey your really pretty, can I get your number... not a good approach... I probablly would give a normal guy a chance if he approached me right... first, you have to start by making small talk, I don't care say something stupid about the weather or something, keep the small talk going for as long as possible and then just be honest, tell her hey I know this is random but I think your really cool, would you like to go out sometime... you gotta be smooth about it, let her know its not something you do often... it helps if your cute too! lol

[Popnlock]

small talk in the streets is hard... when I see a pretty girl or someone I may be interested in all I think about is I just gotta go in say hi, I noticed you from over there and I would like to know if yur interested in having lunch or seeing a movie with me? after that its either yes or no but small talk right off the bat seems weird...

[xxxworldisminexxx]

If it was randomly on the street and he just randomly started hitting on me I probably wouldn't. But if we were at a store or the gym and he started talking to me and I saw that we had things in common and that he was a nice guy then I would. On a street is a bit too random for me, but anywhere else I would if I was interested.

I can't exactly tell you how to be mind blowing because that's different for every girl. What gets me is if the guy can make me laugh. If you can make me laugh you have it in with me lol

[greese]

I think you have to be fascinated about who she is. Have some question to know who she is and then ask her out, in a non-nervous way.

[Cloibne]

I capitalized the important part of my response but, I'm not ' yelling '.

Getting a date is what a million singles' web sites are for now and what singles' bars were for.

DO NOT take the advice some of the female repliers are giving to START A CONVO' first - No, LET ME BUY MY COFFEE in peace.

...And if you're worried about 'living in the moment' ; that I might be 'the one that got away' well, this hypothetical interaction isn't just about your life.

( ' I ' being a random stranger whose pheromones are probably just telling your pheromones that she's ovulating)

Don't use any person, no matter how positively and friendly or natural or common-place you think your own intentions are. Accosting random people is all about the accoster- it's self-centered, self-serving and lame.

[Anonymous]

There is the "do not talk to strangers" vibe that I get when a total stranger comes up to me. I have no idea if he is trustworthy or not of a character.

I would much rather talk to someone whom has some contact with me through a friend or family member. That helps me to be at ease and be more trusting of his character. I'm not sure if this is just me though.

Usually if I meet a guy, who is totally new for the first time, I would want to be friends first and maybe talk to him about his age, education, life pursuits etc and see where our friendship goes. Then maybe date him, but probably not since I do not feel like I know him very much. Maybe after a long long time, like years of knowing him.

I knew my husband for 12 years before we got hitched. We're 25 now.

[human_condition]

So many reasons not to say yes. For a start, it's really dangerous- you don't know who he is or if he has an agenda. Secondly, even if he is genuine, he doesn't even know you. Looks aren't a good basis to start any relationship on. And then, I don't know him. I'm not into the kind of guy that's arrogant enough to think he has a chance with any girl on the street. So no.

[toulouse]

NO I don't know him. I can't not like him. I don't know him, WHY would I go out with a guy I don't know? I like to be friends with guys first. I NEVER just go out with a random guy- NEVER. I talk to guys for a couple of months , see how things go naturally IF I'm even you for trying anything at all. Sometimes people just are not interested in being with anyone- its not always personal.

[toulouse]

Talking? that's different. I never said I wouldn't 'talk'. Just that I won't go 'out' with him. I talk to guys all the time, I talk to guys I don't know all the time. its normal in lots of cultures to be friendly with strangers, north americans tend to be very narcissistic, & act really immature about basic friendliness & often times lack common courtesy,imo.

Doesn't mean ill jeopardize my safety & go home with him or anything, but talking is harmless, educational & healthy.

[blufrenzy93]

I would say no...

for one, I don't even know the guy.

two, he might have been stalking me or something along those lines.

If you want to approach a girl,

then do it in a public setting [ i.e. cafe, bar, bookstore, etc. ]

not just randomly on the street.

That way, it gives you an excuse to talk to her about the setting.

After you have talked to her a little bit

and she's giving off good signals, ask to see her again and get her number.

[SinghSong]

But to do it in a public setting like a cafe, bar or bookstore, wouldn't you have to stalk her to wherever she was going first? Wouldn't that be even more creepy?

[Anonymous]

Yes there's like a 99% chance that I'll turn him down. It's just creepy for you to come up to us, you don't know us, we don't know you, and you're asking us out. weird. You could be some serial killer or rapist and we would have no idea. Now I would probably give you my number, maybe, because if you turn out to be a creepy phone stalker, I can always change my phone number. But I commend you for having the courage to go up to a girl that you've never met before like that. :)

[Anonymous]

this has happened to me a couple of times and most of the time I've said no, even if in retrospect he seemed like a decent guy because it always catches me off guard and surprises me.

if you just throw yourself at some girl you ve never seen before and say "give me your number" it can feel like an ambush. you have to take a more subtle approach, engage her in conversation first,

[Anonymous]

asking me on a date if you don't know me is too extreme, how bout just starting a conversation and then getting my phone number? if a stranger just walked up to me and asked me out I'd say no because I don't know anything about him, why would I date him? now if he's attractive I'd give him my number

[Anonymous]

No, I probably wouldn't. Most guys that I've been hit on by on the street are extremely creepy. As in, when I'm walking by they'll be like "daaaamn shorty, looking good" and then continue to bother me for me number. That's no way to approach a girl. But if you'e in a coffee shop or it's a girl that you see in public places on a regular basis, that's a different story. You can easily make small talk with the girl and tell her that you find her to be very pretty and interesting and would like to take her out for lunch sometime. But the complete random stranger while I'm walking down the street kind of weirds me out, the majority of the time.

[Opinion Owner]

A girl wants to be treated like a lady, remember that! ...Unless she's a dirty club whore dancing on the bar, that's a different story lol.

[icanhelp]

That's how my dad met my mom, he said she was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen so he asked her out and they married 12 weeks later. 21 years down the track and 2 kids later they are still happily married :) I love my parents :D

[greese]

Ask you dad how he prepared and ask for a full description of what it was like.

[Lamia]

Yes, please! I want to hear it too^_^

[Reiki_Z]

yes I too want to hear this lovely story

lol

[LiveYoungLiveFree69]

thats so cute! :)

[icanhelp]

It wasn't planned at all, he had just walked out of a book store when she was walking across the street, by the time she got to the sidewalk he was already standing there stuttering over, "would you please go out with me?" and my mother, being a bit of a free spirit, said "maybe I could" and slipped him her phone number. He called her the next day and they began dating. The first time he said I love you to her was when he proposed and she said there wasn't a single doubt that she was in love :)

[Lamia]

AwwWWwWwwWwwW Thank You!

[TheCheshireCat]

I might say yes if I felt like he is a nice guy. I usually don't go for strangers, I like to know someone. But every once in a while I see a guy & think, maybe I should ask him out, he seems like a nice guy.

[Seraphine]

Err, no. What if he's a pedophile or a pervert or something? I don't know him enough to accept his date.

[xBezz]

It depends really. If he seems like a nice guy then why not? Of course I'd make sure our first couple of dates were in public places, just to be sure ;)

[Random92]

ok if the guy was talking to me for awhile and that we were having a laugh and he asked me to have a drink I would (somewhere public) if he just randomly asked me out I'd be like "hahaha no"

[bansheeminx]

Give him a chance, he had the guts to come up to me and ask me out.

[aster]

i would turn them down even if they were a movie star. then I would never visit that place again for about 3 years since there was a weirdo there.

[Lamia]

If a guy would be friendly and would have a sweet smile on his face I'd never turn him down, even if I didn't knew him.

[Reiki_Z]

sweet smile and friendly right !

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[Lamia]

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[jennyt]

I would give the guy a chance, unless he seems weird.

[martyfellow]

Good for u!

[Anonymous]

each time its happened to me I've said no, and I live in new york so I don't know if that explains it (lots of strange creepy ppl)

[Popnlock]

lol I live in NY too but I don't normally go out of my way to holla at girls I just assume they don't want any guy to approach them off the street

[prettygirl23]

I would not turn him down if he did not seem weird.

[Anonymous]

no never. he could be some physco for all I know.

it's not the approach. no matter how smooth or charming you may be, I'm not giving my number to a stranger

[DaveThomas]

strangers are friends you haven't met yet

i think girls have a creep factor that goes way beyond, being social, they let things get to them too easy, you can be protective but..not to the point where you're saying no to a guy just cause he had the courage to ask you out off the street like that

[AcEMasTeR]

I agree with thomas. And I think your a stuck up idiot.

[Opinion Owner]

No. I don't date guys I know nothing about.

And excuse you, I am not stuck up. If I was stuck up, I wouldn't date poor guys or ugly ones. Not strangers off the street

[Lamia]

I agree with Thomas.

Acemaster that was kinda rude y'know?

[Reiki_Z]

lol what if he was the one

but id follow your intuition always

like don't go with a bad vibe

[smile8]

ha I'd have to pass since he probably wouldn't remember my name anyways nor my number.

[Anonymous]

I'd punch him in the face, steel his wallet, & run for cover.

[Anonymous]

I would give them my number and get to know them a bit before actually going out with them.

[Anonymous]

I would.. If he knows how to ask me out..

[Opinion Owner]

ive changed my mind after reading other girls responses ... I wouldn't he doesn't know me and its not all about looks, usually if they approach you on the street they just want sex.

[Anonymous]

I think if he was hot

it would entice a girl

[AcEMasTeR]

BRUCE LEE!