A lot of guys assume that your friendliness is flirting because many girls your age either have no filter, or have such a think filter that they do not know what flirting is. Let me give you an example: So two friends are walking home together, the girl really likes him as a friend, or a brother maybe. She rests her head against him as a friendly gesture of trust. In the guys mind, this is a comfort thing.
Any girl who feels that comfortable around him is automatically going to make him feel very close with her. The guy may start to like the girl, and vicariously expects her to like him as well. Remember we have egos, so we often think you are really interested in us when you are being playful or friendly.
You should learn to be more stoic around guys, as a respect thing. When you feel comfortable with him, make sure you both understand your feelings before you become too "friendly".
Hope that helps.
I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM! A bunch of girls think I flirt with them, but really, I'm just being funny and w/e because that's the kinda guy I am. when I flirt, I make it obvious... I don't get it.
I would assume that they relate being funny/friendly to flirting because that's their flirting style.
I don't even know what flirting is cause my nature is like that... either I'm too Stoic with people or too friendly with them... making jokes & teasing & being Playful 🙂
They're probably not used to it. I'm the same way and it gets me in trouble sometimes :P if you get any good insight, notify me?
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9 times out of 10 when a woman says this, she knows EXACTLY what she's doing and it's deliberate. Because she gets a kick out of getting guys motors running and then shutting them down.
But there is a small possibility that you're being truthful here. And in which case my advice to you is work on suppressing those things you do that trigger guys. Look at other women. When a woman doesn't want to send the wrong message she goes out of her way to make sure she's not sending any message that could be construed as anything more than friendly banter.
A shy girl may do those very same things but she is flirting. The only time a guy knows for sure a girl is genuinely flirting is if she's blunt with it. The rest of the time we have to decipher if that's just her personality or is she really flirting. That's why dropping hints rarely works (unless blunt) because a shy girl and an outgoing girl flirt different and drop hints differently.
Yes; they're not used to it. And also, everything that is normal friendly behavior has been interpreted by society as "flirting." Because that is the stupid code that people came up with a couple of hundred years ago.
Because there's a considerable overlap between one girl's flirting and another's friendliness.
I mean you just have to read how some women on this site describe their "flirt" or "making a move".
Im thinking that might be the way it is with the girl I like. I hope not.
My guess is that you're hot and they're hopeful! lol! If you start dating a dude, this problem will go away.
They might just not be used to it.
Sounds fun to me, though.
Us guys don't get that every day. We just try to see everything as is she interested in me? How much? Can I make move now?
I get this a lot too!!
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