How come I'm not flirted with a lot?

[Anonymous]

I consider myself a pretty nice looking girl. Not above anyone else, but I like how I look and I don't normally complain about my appearance anymore (I used to in my early teen years). I also like my own personality, I think I'm fun to talk to even if I can be high energy and chatty. Though, I've never had too many guys interested in me or even want to flirt with me. I have a lot of girls confide in me that they've been flirted with or had guys ask them out a lot.

Just to throw in, I've had a LOT of people on dating sites like Tinder say I'm cute and talented, though I have no idea if it's just horniness talking or if they actually mean it.

What are some reasons that you guys DO flirt with girls? Am I not attractive to guys if I'm not flirted with?

Updates

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I'm not sure how to include an image or even if at this point I can? For reference, I'm 4'11 with pink hair.

[Michael49]

With me looks aren't that important when it comes to flirting. First is approachability, basically if your body language is inviting or not. Then its about having an outgoing personality, men dont mind carrying the conversation but we need some playback also. And lastly how wide a range is your conversation subjects?

[Asker]

I have a VERY outgoing personality. I'll strike up a conversation with anybody. Most conversations get pretty crazy, but I mostly talk about shows both me and the person I'm talking to are interested in or something we just have in common.

[Michael49]

Hmm without first hand knowledge i am just guessing. The only thing and again this is how i am, is while I love to talk about things we have in common I more so like to learn other peoples interests. Like what they do for a living or books they read. Most wouldn't call that flirting but I’d rather the person arouse my mind.

Do you think you can be a little intimidating? Tbh you seem very engaging

[Michael49]

Not sure if you can with an anonymous profile. I’m sure there are other ways i am pretty new here

[Dagr8whitehype]

I've certainly never had this problem but I know a few really great looking women who never get hit on because guys are intimidated to go up to her and talk to her. Maybe that's what's going on.

[Asker]

I will say that I have had a few guys approach me in real life, but none of them I took interest in. However, I seem to have a LOT of luck on dating apps.

[Dagr8whitehype]

I have a lot of confidence and I'll be the first to approach someone but it seems that freaks a lot of women out these days?

[Dagr8whitehype]

Ugh. 4'11" with pink hair! Sooooo my type!

[Asker]

I have no idea if you're being sarcastic or not

[Dagr8whitehype]

I'm sorry. That's the trouble with text! You get zero context. I'm being genuine! Shorter with the pink hair is right up my alley! I love that!!🥰🥰

[SamFromFL]

If you are not flirted with irl it’s mainly due to your looks.

[Asker]

Can I ask you to elaborate?

[SamFromFL]

Guys use our eyes, when we see something attractive that’s motivating to approach. So if you are not attractive there is less reasons to flirt.

[SamFromFL]

If you follow me I can show you how to send a pic and give feedback

[Luckycharms12]

Seem nice sure guys have flirted with you and you didn't notice or read the signs

[Turtleneck22]

Maybe you appear intimidating not sure. Don’t know what you look like