i met this amazing guy about a year ago but we recently started dating about a month ago. everythign about our relationship has been amazing. we both had gotten out of a long term relationship that both lasted 3 years. he has now found out that recently his ex girlfriend is engadeged to be married. its just hitting him now and he is getting into a depressed state where he's acting weird. I know that this is bothering him that she is getting married so quickly he even told me that it bothers him that's she's doing this. how can I make him happy again and not so depressed. will he eventually get over this state of mind and move on and finally have the great life me and him have been having? little to say there relationship was on and off for the 3 years and she cheated on him numerous times. and it wasnt that long from wen we started dating. how can you still be angry or upset at sumone that they moved on and getting married when they hurt you so bad in the past? is it because they were together for a long time? I hope you can answer all my questions and I hope that he overcomes this jealousy and sad state of mind and be happy again. this are still great leats to say even though in the back of his min this all bothers him. what do you think is happening and what should I do?
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I think when you are in love you remember the feeling of love you had for the person even if they don't love you back. And you remember the hurt. But sometimes we only remember the good. Its like people my age who think the 80ies was the perfect decade. The best ever. But we arnt remembering the bad times. There had to have been some lol. Just like a girl who loves a guy who beats her. She remembers the feelings more the beating. But with how you came off in your staement I can tell you realy care about this guy and love him. Once he sees that and believe me he will see it all he will be able to think about is you. Give it a little time. It usualy takes 3 or 4 months to put something like this behind you. Keep being the nurturing comforting girl you are. Let him pout let him moan and offer to make him some biscuts. If you don't get mad at his deppresion and keep doing things to make him happy I'm telling you he is gona be so impressed with that that you won't know what hit you.
I know he is taking this way to hard and saying he wants to be freinds for now and I don't want that. I don't know what to do he needs to try and get over it and c that in so much more better. I don't know I'm lost and so upset
Unfortunately, you can't do anything about how he's feeling about his ex. Being with you, he shouldn't be feeling anything and signals that he's probably not over her. Which is not surprising because it does take time to get an ex out of the system.
However, he should be taking solace in the fact that he's rid of a cheating girlfriend who is now getting married in a rebound relationship.
If your relationship with him is good then just keep doing what you're doing.
A part of him still has feelings for her which is why this marriage thing is getting to him. Not only that but he probably isn't loving the fact that she could never be faithful and commmitted to him for that three years. It's an ego blow to know that she meets a guy and in a short time is going to be married to him. This will pass and he'll get over her. Sometimes we like people we shouldn't. It will pass.