If I have a crush on a guy for more than 5 years, does that mean its an obsession?

[Anonymous]

i haven't met anyone new either, and I try to move on but I still fall weak and miss him and can't contact him either because that would just be weird...he knows I liked him in the past but never made the move I guess...i can't explain what was between us but there was some tension and we used to be good friends.

any advice?

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+1 y

thank you all for answering, it means a lot to me.

I can email him or facebook him, but I'm not sure what to say. I don't think he feels the same. I mean when we would run into each other, we would just lock eyes and not say anything.

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+1 y

i told him once before when we were in school I like him, and even asked him out to hang out but he said then he would try and was busy...so I just backed off and gave him his space. and he never contacted me he only stares at me when he sees me confused

[TwistedLogic]

Life is short, make a move before it is too late. I know it sounds difficult, but think about it this way (forgive me for my crude example): Imaging one day he dies or something really bad happens to him that will make it impossible for you to be together, how would you feel? Wouldn't you regret the time that you have wasted not (at least) trying to be with him?

It is just talking, people talk all the time. You ask strangers for directions or a lighter and you never think it may seem awkward. Your crush/attraction is the only thing that is holding you back from trying. Give it a shot, at least you will have a clear answer about whether you could be with him or not.

Again, I apologize about my inappropriate and brazen example, but I wish both of you the best of luck. :D

[Asker]

thank you, you're right but I don't see him anymore and all I have is facebook

[-StillWater-]

Facebook!

HA!

People have done a lot more with a lot less than that before...no excuse is a viable option...

[Anonymous]

Ahh I've had a few crushes before. Probably the longest was for a couple of years. When you say you can't contact him do you mean you hardly see him anymore?

[Asker]

yea that, and also I have contacted him in the past when we did see each other at school and he replied and was nice but didn't take things further or make any moves, I did tell him I liked him

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you feel. I had this crush on a girl once and I tried talking and smiling and being nice and although she did acknowledge me and talk back, I eventually realized she didn't want to take things further. So I got over it but yeah it's hard when your own feelings are strong about it.

[darlanoy0510]

Nope you're not obsesse with him. I've had a crush on my bff's older brother for about 8-9 years but I've never make my moves because things doesn't right and I know we will make each other miserable. In the end I came to find out he likes me back too and he feels the same way about us making each other miserable.

[TheWhiteFreshPrince]

Why would that make it miserable?

[darlanoy0510]

@TheWhiteFreshPrince The guy I liked he was too similar to me in every ways. We both were young and still want to explore this world. If we get together we're probably wouldn't last period. Now I wouldn't still date him because he is opposite of everything I want in a guy and plus we're both probably going to be broke because he likes his gadgets and brand names clothes a lot.

[Anonymous]

I am in the same situation... But there is a difference... That is he told me to move on...
I mean he knows that I like him and also for five years, but he just...
Moving on... it's so difficult to move on when the one you like knows everything about you.

[flowergirl93]

if you have a shrine dedicated to him, or you know his location 24/7 without him telling you, then it's an obsession. otherwise, no I don't think so.

[Asker]

hahaha you're right, I don't do that stuff that's just creepy

but I do think of him a lot and miss him =[

[Anonymous]

I know what you feel, I'm suffering with the same condition. I really like him and I don't think he feels the same way about me. I think we both have to make a first move or else they'll never know how we feel. good luck

[Asker]

you too =/

[sudher9025]

u'r getting closer to him . You may be in love with him

[38rakia38]

Um yes?

Why don't you put yourself out there, maybe you'll meet someone new

[38rakia38]

5 years is a ridiculous amount of time to waste pining away for someone, I've been there and let me tell you, it is a long and dark and lonely road when the guy rips your heart out like it's nothing to him. Realistically, he might be a little creep-ed out by your 5 years of want. I spent 5 years going after a guy, and it landed me in some seriously f***ed up sh*t. All I ask, is that you don't go into a giant heap of depression, because then it gets dangerous. I should know, because I did.

[Asker]

:( I'm sorry and understand...and I'm trying my best

[38rakia38]

I'm just warning you, I'd hate to see what I went through happen to someone else. It takes a long time to come out of something like that. I don't want anyone's pity, I did what I did because I thought after 5 years that off the wall sh*t would get his attention. It didn't. My fault, I could have handled myself better.

5 years is too long to waste on 1 person, in my opinion. Unless your in a relationship.

[Ghibli]

Don't e ashamed, just chase him, eventually you'll win him over.

[Anonymous]

Not an obession,you just really sounds like you've developed strong feeling for him

[Asker]

i think i...love him =[

[Kamilah]

Honey it sounds like L-O-V-E to me !

[Anonymous]

More than a year, and doing nothing about it, IS an obsession...

[Anonymous]

call him up! he'll probably love hearing from you at the very least...

[Anonymous]

tell 'em dammit!-----if he blows you off you can figure he's probably some playboy wannabe douche,if not;well sh*t you're with your big crush now

[Euphemia]

have a crush on him,if you think he like you either,you could tell him how you feel

[Yeahhbro]

If its getting in the way of your life then yes.

[Asker]

how do I stop thinking about him?

[Gregs]

it could be