My girl just broke up with me yesterday and what hurt the most was her saying she loves me but I'm too business like basically to much into stability. I grew up in the south side of Chicago no father so my mother sacrifice and struggle to take care of 4. She raised me to be a Man that can provide and through being able to provide that stability is how I show my love.
What I want people to understand you need both no matter how hard you try to look at it. But most importantly people need to understand how that person loves and not think love is one ideal way to do it. I know for some is to hear him or her say I love you every morning for me I'm simple just being there was enough. Having faith in me to do the things a Man can do is enough. I never asked for a gift never gotten a gift in any of my last 2 relationships that lasted together 5 1/2 years (1 for 4 the other for 1 1/2)
Love is tricky why because we all want to be loved a certain way which is selfish in its own way and not appreciate the way the other person love you as long as its not abuse and disrespectful. What ends relationships and marriages is that everybody is trying to find that perfect mold and to be honest it doesn't exist because your looking for a WHOLE when you only should be LOOKING for a HALF.
I can provide STABILITY my other half is LOVE. Match me with a woman that can give me LOVE and I'll give her STABILITY.
Note I Voted B because of what I bring to the table
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Financial stability makes love easier. Love alone is not sufficient (particularly if you have young and vulnerable kids to feed, clothe, keep warm etc).
It is fine taking idealised austerity yourself as a choice, not fine having people depend on you and not be able to give them a good basic standard of living, particularly infants.
Financially secure but not in love is sustainable for a while, just not much fun.
In love but without means is not sustainable long term with vulnerable dependents unless you believe that someone else or the state should provide for your family. I don't.
Both love and no money worries are clearly best.
I will say that the experts all agree: more people argue about money than anything.
Personally, I like financial security. I like having that. But after watching a friend of mine have a horrible, very short marriage because she was so worried about having that perfect life, I'll take love. We might not always be able to have what we want (never, actually, but we get by), but we're happy. I'm happier in my tiny apartment with one vehicle and off-brand clothes than I would be with some guy that could give me everything I wanted.
As the Beatles said: Love is all you need!
I voted B without reading your description, but if I could change it, my answer would be E. I know I'll make money to support myself so I don't necessarily need another income, but if he's not even making enough to get by, then it might cause some problems.
If I didn't have strong feelings for the guy [ and ] he wasn't even making enough to support himself, then we're both wasting our time.
I know financial stability is really important to mantain a home and a family, but why would be the point of having that with someone I don't love, even if he's rich?
I'd rather be with someone I love, and we could make it work, we could both get a job and when kids come along we'll see.
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You should have taken the option both. Its obvious that must people will take both and not one over the other, however if you have the chance of choosing just one then people would give a truer answer. I personally will pick financial over love any day. It doesn't mean that I will pick financial as my only choice and wouldn't pick love either. But money is what moves the world around and also money is what maintain marriages together; love won't pay for the bills, love won't pay for the mortgage, love won't pay for your kids clothing and food. Many people marry others just love blind without thinking of the consequences in the future, everything is rainbows and butterflies for the first 5 years, then the first kid comes and then it isn't as pretty as before. The guy only works in a factory and the girl cannot work because she has to maintain the kid, then problems start to arise and then they start to fight and then they break up, because she is being a pain in the butt or she finds other guy that has more money and can take better for her and her kid so cheats on her husband and then they break up. This is real and it happens to often.
I personally won't date anybody outside my "social status", what I mean by that is I won't date anybody without an University degree, maybe a college degree. As harsh as it sounds that is how life is, I won't date a girl that works as a waitress full time, while I work in a business as a marketing director per se. And its not only because the money thing, most importantly though, is because the way we think its completely different, our vocabulary our views of the world are completely different. I want to talk to a girl about politics or the economy and don't answer me with something stupid or like she has no idea what she is talking about.Another spin off question, but ...
A. Would you rather be filthy rich with tons of hot women around, but you are not in love with any of them?
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B. Would you rather be homeless with not a penny to your name, eating out of dumpsters and begging for money, but with a woman that you are in love with?
Men can get their "needs" met without being in love, so I choose A. Also, love doesn't last forever, what if you're in B's situation and your lover dies or leaves you? Then you're just heartbroken, lonely, AND homeless. No thanks.Giving the "both" option is a bitch move. And why (in relation to the question) is there A and D or B and C? Aren't those the same thing in this case?
Regardless, love matters infinitely more. Seems everyone agrees lol. Except the people who bitched out by saying "Both" (prolly cause they didn't wanna look shallow putting financial stability)A rich executive who thinks I'm tolerable or a waitress in some dive who loves me to death. I only have one question; how do you get to Rosie's Diner from here?
While I agree that financial stability is important; I believe love is more so. As someone who has been on both sides of this fence I found it much easier to be motivated to do whatever needed to get us where we needed to be. It wasn't always easy, but at the end of the day Nothing was better than having what I loved.
well if I was going to be with the person seriously I'd have to at least like them a lot and it would have to be mutual. also I don't understand how your poll makes and sence according to your question. I don't understand why C,D, and E are on your poll
Both. When money goes out the front door, love goes out the back door.
I would rather be poor living with the man I loved and happy than rich living with someone I did not love and unhappy.
I learned this lesson a while back with my first girlfriend. When I was dating her, I had money issues. I thought it was bad enough having money issues. But when we broke up, I got a new job offer with a lot better pay so money wasn't hard for me anymore but I still had an emptiness feeling inside from not being loved like she did to me.
If we can keep a roof over our head and food in our bellies I'm okay with at least that.. I could never marry for money it would make me miserable.
Love is just a game that fools play everyday...and since I don't want to be a fool, I don't want to play that game. I'll go with the money, becase at least it does'nt brake my heart in pieces...and love well, you know what's up with that, amen.
of course everyone answers both. Everyone wants both. So, with that it mind, I made myself choose and I chose love over financial stability. But life would be really hard if I was forced to live on the streets.
Both is obviously what everybody strives for, but for the purposes of this poll, it's not exactly fair.
There is only one way to go that will bring you happiness. Love is what is important in life,not money. Ask Bernie Madoff.!
There won't be much love left in your heart when you can't afford toilet paper. So both.
of course majority of people would want both. why choose one or the other if you can have your cake and eat it too/
i am greedy I want both:)
I would just support myself
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