If a shy girl doesn't initiate a conversation (in person) even after knowing a guy likes her, does it mean she's not interested, or just shy?

[Anonymous]

this happened before the quarantine. we dont really know each other.

im shy and can't really strike up a conversation with girls.

i did however say hi to her, we shook hands, and i asked her name, you know, the usual stuff.

the conversation didn't go smooth from my part because i got nervous, but we both were smiling. after asking her name, i waited for a few seconds and approached her again to test the waters, and she seemed receptive to it. now i asked her if she didn't mind that i talked to her. she said that she didn't mind. i then asked her if we could talk for 2 minutes, she asked me what i wanted to talk about, to which i got nervous, said "nothing", and left.

textbook body language wise, i'd say it was pretty good. she smiled, was paying attention, kept 100% eye contact, and was directly facing me. she didn't seem annoyed or uncomfortable.

i feel like she pretty much knows that i like her, but didn't try to initate a conversation herself the next day. now she'll just look at me, which leads to her look down when i look, or i look away when she knows im looking.

forgot to mention that she smiled at me a few days before our conversation.

she also did what i do when i like someone; stare really hard when the other person is not looking, and quickly dart your eyes away when the person notices that someone is staring.

[Anonymous]

yeah she could be interested. Also you can't be 100% sure that she knows that you like her. Some of us girls don't pick up on signs easily, or if we do, we will convince ourselves that it was nothing and that it was just the guy being friendly/nice.

[Asker]

thanks for the reply.

any tips on how to talk to her? is confidence the way to go, or is some shyness okay too?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm actually going through something very similar with a guy, so I need help in this area too haha. But since you're the guy, I would try to text her (if you have her number). Ask her questions about herself, how her day was, movie recommendations, etc. some shyness is def fine. Confidence will speed things up. Being shy will make it take forever to get to the next step. It's so hard with this stupid corona but I think if you try to form a friendship with her first, you'll be able to overcome the shyness that you're experiencing. It'll open you up more and you'll be more natural when ever you come face to face with her. I'm doing the same thing. I'm trying to improve my friendship with the guy I like so it naturally can move onto the next level!

[Asker]

thanks.

what about the few days where i didn't talk to her? do i bring this up, sine i'll be talking again out of the blue?

i didn't talk to her because i didn't wanna seem annoying. is it okay if i say that she seemed busy?

[CapricornHoney]

Speaking as someone who is shy, I would say she probably is just shy and that’s why she hasn’t initiated conversation.

[Asker]

thanks for the reply.

should i talk to her again? do some girls not make it clear that they aren't interested and act nice to not hurt feelings?

[CapricornHoney]

I think you should. Some girls do but I’m not sure if this would be the case here. When you do talk, is she engaged in the conversation?

[Asker]

we only talked once before the lockdown. she did seem pretty engaged. stuff like 100% eye contact, not fiddling on her phone, and facing me. i didn't really see anything that said "back off".

[CapricornHoney]

Yeah I think it’s just her being shy. I suggest speaking with her and seeing how you get on this time 😊

[Asker]

thanks. do i bring up the awkward conversation from last time?

[CapricornHoney]

Nah there’s no need to unless you want to?

[Ivansech]

She might be interested just too shy... You should initiate conversation more until she gets comfortable around you

[Asker]

i'll have to wait till the quarantine is lifted.

is it awkward that i didn't talk to her after our first chat, and then out of the blue im talking again?