What do you do if you were never taught how to talk to girls?

[OlderThanILook]

I'm at least smart enough to understand that girls don't want to be randomly approached, and they don't want to deal with guys that don't know what they're doing. I get that, but what am I supposed to do then? I don't want to be that guy that's obnoxious and persistent. And I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable by approaching them. I just get shut down for trying though. It just feels awful to talk to girls.

[purplepoppy]

Forget that they're girls and talk to them like their human beings as you would a man (perhaps less swearing). Women naturally will do most of the talking anyway, just try and look interested.
Look at how woman talk to women compared to men to men


Guy 1: "I painted the fence yesterday"
Guy 2: "what colour?
Guy 1: "red"' . End of conversation.


Now look at their girlfriends discussing the same event. There'll be a whole 20 mins on defining the colour red alone and why we stood for an hour in the shop deliberating between raspberry blush and strawberry summer. My point is when talking to guys we have to lead the conversation, give him avenues to go down or he'll run out of things to say. Just remember we're coaxing things out of you not interrogating you.

[OlderThanILook]

I feel like girls will automatically know I am attracted to them if I try to talk to them. Even if I try and say something basic like hi they will know and instantly be turned off

[purplepoppy]

We don't assume that everyone who approaches is trying to get in our panties. Instead of hi try opening with a question or comment

[OlderThanILook]

Hmm okay. Just for reference, do you think looks matter that much?

[purplepoppy]

Yes they do. Not only handsome v ugly but they tell you a lot about a persons personality.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Being randomly approached is a norm and is a good thing. It's all in HOW you do it.

[OlderThanILook]

What's a good way to approach someone?

[NamerOfStars]

You learn by doing. Girls are people, too, as hard as it can be to remember that when you're nervous. Approach one with a smile and a "hello", and if she responds in kind, strike up a conversation. It'll get easier with practice.

[nodnol32]

Talk to them like you normally would to a stranger in a respectful manner. After that if your conversation goes well, it won't be awkward.

[FriendlyEnigma]

I never learned how. In fact, i was TERRIBLE at conversating with anyone for years. Eventually i learned that rather than focusing on talking just to women, i learned to talk to any and everyone. Really helped me (even tho im still single lol)

[In_Trance]

This is one of those things in life that you need to figure out for yourself. The only way you really learn and understand it is through practice

[magiusX26]

figure it out just like everybody else

[robertKugler]

Wing it..