When you greet someone you're attracted to for the first time, what are the following questions you'd ask?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

- How are you?
- What do you do?
- Weather?
- Philosophy?
- Anything else?

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+1 y

Well, is "How do you do?" still asked in real life?

In textbooks, it's said that this question is used in an official setting, like for business.

[Cynicaldreamer]

"Hey, how are you?"
"What are you up to?"
"Where are you from/How long have you been here?"

"Are you taken, married, or gay?" (Okay I ask that question to myself in my head as I'm wondering why a cute guy is talking to me, LOL)

Then I try to notice something unique or can lead to a conversation. For example, if he's wearing exercise clothes, I ask does he workout and if so, where or what does he like to do. If he's wearing a biker shirt, I ask what his favorite type of bike is or does he ride... you get the point. Basically find ways to make him talk or open up more instead of just cliche small talk.

I also ask subtle questions about him and his personal life to see if he's taken or seeing someone to avoid embarrassment or getting my hopes up too soon.
Such as, "What do you do when you're not at work?" Usually someone married or taken will say, "Spending time with my kids, girlfriend/wife" along with his other hobbies.

[headset]

nah you are too old for these

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@headset Ho. That's not nice. Love takes time anyways. We are never too old to love or to be loved. I see this with another perspective.

When people get passed the infatuation phase (physical), they will notice the personality and mentality of the person better. Real attraction starts from that, and then bonding to develop the relationship further.

[headset]

hmm, same age group, no wonder

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@headset Kindness brings you love. One day you'll understand what's actually important, young man.

[headset]

I was referring to this: ""Are you taken, married, or gay?" (Okay I ask that question to myself in my head as I'm wondering why a cute guy is talking to me, LOL)"

As it doesn't suit for a grownup woman

[headset]

Assume 35 year-old guy thinking the same

[Cynicaldreamer]

@headset And you never ask yourself if a woman you're interested in is taken before approaching her? Obviously not out loud but in your head or to yourself-
If you don't, well good for you for being so confident. But some of us prefer to think about those type of scenarios before conversing with someone to avoid getting our hopes up. At least I do.

[Kaneki05]

Well of course it would be how are you or something. But i would just ask random questions after not to deep but not to boring. Always good just to ask random things to spark up a convo and what they would be is depending what i thought of the person. And i cannot really give any examples rn. Also Good to ask about there morals first.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Morals? How? I mean how to ask it politely without trigger the person.

[Kaneki05]

Not sure really but you don't want to get to know a person for them to be just a massive deal breaker? Maybe just ask stuff like what's your view on this or something and give them a situation. It shouldn't be hard to do, it's pretty much what i do. I feel like a person who can be open about there views would be better sign of this person been better than someone who don't?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I see. What were their reactions when you did?

[Kaneki05]

They just answered one way or another. Of course in my head i knew which answer i was looking for if they said the other then i would be out. But no one really has at least people i've talked too. Just kinda seems i meet people who think similar. Then they ask how about you and normally it's the same answer so i would say i agree, Or maybe mostly agree then you can go into a talk about it.
If the other person is nice they can have a convo without it needing to go into argument.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Alright. Well, for me "the argument" could be a discussion. Anyways, it depends on how people see it.

[nodnol32]

Along the questions, how've you been or what have you been up to lately or around the news, the conversation tends to pick up and lead to other topics, questions and answers. Best to let it be natural because the best concersations in life are not scripted.

[ZackBan]

I try not to turn it into an interrogation and avoid question bombarding.
Instead I would make remarks about her, compliments and observations and let them lead to questions naturally.

[Lliam]

Do you have any hobbies?
What kinds of things do you like to do?

[YHL6965]

I would ask about her work or studies if she is a student, what are her aspirations in life, her hobbies as a way to get to know who she is.

[Twenty2]

"Hey, how are you?" That's how I greet everyone. If she's good, then I'll talk more. If not then I won't.

[floorislava85]

Hello
**long pause**
Sooo you like stuff?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

What stuff?

[floorislava85]

***face goes red***
ummm frittatas?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Yes. Please. Grazie.

[ross83]

I probably say hi how are you

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

And what's next?

[ross83]

Ask what they do

[COMMODOREII]

I ask how are you doing. Lol

[asshole_]

"attracted to"?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Yes. Not just a random person you're not interested in. You see someone attractive and you would like to start a conversation with. What are questions or anything you'd talk to her?