What are the best ''get to know you'' questions to ask on a first date?

[AnnaTumbles]

[DaveJord]

So like your 16 years old so I kinda don't know what to tell you. I know the questions I would ask but you're 16 and most of those would not apply to a 16 year old, or would be inappropriate.

I would want to know her educational back ground, employment status, how may kids if any, if she's ever been married, and then I would want her perspectives on sex... but none of that is relevant to a 16 year old.

But here are all the other things that we could discuss that even a 16 year old would ask... maybe your 16 not me I don't know what kids do these day.

1. Where you from... I man you know where they live but where did the live before or have they always lived here.

2. What grammar school did you go to... I mean some cities have several different schools that fed into the same highschool.

3. You paly any sports, just school sports or do you do any thing out side of school?

4. What colleges would like to go to?

5. How many pets do you have?

6. Who was your last girlfriend and why did you break up? Don't dwell on past relationship just ask so you know. When I was in school some ex-boyfriends and girlfriends were super pissy people and I didn't want any drama.

7. What's your favorite color?

8. When's your birthday? I know it is cheesy but then you can determine their zodiac sign and see if you are compatible its a fun exercise just for the shake of conversation and fun.

9. What does your family do for vacations where do you go what do you do?

10. What's your mom and dad do for a living? How many bothers and sisters do you have.

These are all things I would ask a girl back in the day just to have something to talk about. Even as an adults' I ask a lot of these questions or similar to them.

[Staximus]

What do you want to accomplish in life and do you feel like your life has a purpose? Are you religious and how do you feel about being in a relationship with somebody who is not? What do you like to do in your spare time and what are your hobbies? What do you do for work or want to do and do you like it? Do you like driving around to national parks, monuments, historic sites, museums, observatories, art galleries, buildings, ghost towns, and looking at a bunch of old historic stuff? Do you like old classic cars and want to go to car shows? Do you like outdoorsy type stuff like hiking, fishing, camping, and going on long walks through the forest or on the beach? Can you see yourself with somebody who is kind of old fashioned and very protective? Do you get along with your parents and what kind of people are they? Can you be with someone who wants a normal monogamous sex life and doesn't want to do a bunch of freaky shit like threesomes, swinging, polyamorous relationships, bdsm, etc? I will pretty much talk about anything she wants to talk about and like of play it by ear. If she doesn't want to get too personal and keep the conversation superficial on the first date then that's fine, or we go into a deep dive and talk about everything.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I try not to overwhelm (as I don't like to be overwhelmed) on the first date. It seems like a lot of people here on GAG want to get it all figured out on the first date, every last detail... I say take my time. Ask him and focus on him, let him talk about himself... see what direction it goes. Rather than a lot of direct questions and answers.

If he talks a lot about an ex, or his parents, red flags. A little bit not a problem, but don't want someone stuck on a ex or a momma's boy, that isn't independent.

I think of it more like floating down a river, see where it goes and talk about what comes naturally, rather than forcing the issue of questions. Sure if we run out of things to talk about, and start to get that awkward silence, then I'll be ask a question.

Like what do you like to do for fun, or where do you work? do you like to travel, are you a homebody or like to go out all the time?

It isn't so much the questions to me as the time spent together. If when it is over, I'm on a high then I'll want another date to get to know him better, if too many red flags then I won't care to know more about him.

[jennifer_bloom]

I like to ask psychological questions like, what is your favourite animal at the zoo? The animal he chooses tells you what type of personality he has, also asking if he prefers to eat meat or vegetables, what his favourite type of meat is, that tells you his religion through diet, his health status, his socioeconomic status, and how aggressive he is, if he chooses deer meat over fish etc… You could also ask him his favourite vacation memory, then when he tells you a story, ask him questions about the people, the technology, the food, the servers, the colour of the water, the temperature, the fish, a guy who likes casinos is different from a guy who likes camping and a guy who likes camping is different from a guy who likes golfing etc…

[OlderAndWiser]

How do you hope that your future is different from your past?

[KBird]

Im a nerd, so I would ask questions like "what race would you be in LOTR? and why?" or "If there was a zombie apocalypse, what would you do?" With those 2 questions, you can find out a lot about the person and their motives. Are they a fighter, or are they a follower. Are they creative? Are they more practical?

But for the non-nerdy questions: "what is your favourite way to relax after a long day?", "if you could be anything, or do anything (work-wise), what would you do?" , "whats the craziest first date youve been on?" , "whats your craziest travel story?" , etc. No 'yes/no' questions.

[MrPickles13]

I hope you don't mind. But I think these questions are brilliant I really like the nerdy ones in particular they are so unique and fun

[melanieeeB]

The only question I really bother to ask is this:
"Are you single? Are you sure there is no other person who might see you as someone they're seeing? 100% single? Right? No serious texting with someone else or seeing them? No sexting with other women? You sure right? Like nothing, right?"

Trust me, out of experience, you better ask this shit multiple times and down to every detail.
It's no fun, when they come around a few days/weeks/dates later and confess they "forgot" to mention their girlfriend... I swear it's the worse.

[Vegasrunner]

@melanieeeB Men are just going to give you the answers that you want to hear to this question so its pretty pointless.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah that could happen but in that case, I still asked and like secured myself kinda , if he is that much of an lying asshole well then that's on him

[Still-alive]

Better to be safe then sorry. Approved

[Vegasrunner]

@melanieeeB It's actually on you because the answer is going to be the same from every man so you're never going to get any info from this question. Let me put you on some game. Instead of asking that closed in question ask the guy "what are your thoughts on an open relationship w/ me" then do what's tough for women shut up and listen. His answer will give away his current dating situation. Also here's something to consider. Assuming you are a 7 or better in attractiveness the guy that you want to ask this question to most likely has other women.

[ElementoP]

I don't need to ask any questions

If I'm on a date, she's already been through an extensive screening process, including a background check, a copy of her medical records, a breakdown of her ancestry, all her transcripts from pre-school to senior year of highschool, etc... Continued education is preferred, but not required depending on her griss annual salary and debt to income ratio.

I know things about them they didn't even know themselves

I still have yet to actually get a date, but one day I'll find a woman worthy of a life with much to offer

[Vegasrunner]

@elementop Hopefully you're joking but you're probably not getting dates because you're asking all those questions. Save those for the date. You're acting like the female.

[Nik1hil]

Start with the Basics:

1) Their knowledge about science and simple stuff.

- Flat-Earther 🚩🚩

- Anti-vax 🚩🚩

- Non-binary or no understanding of human Sexes or X and Y chromosome difference 🚩🚩

2) Ethics - where do their ethics come from, which religious source, or their Atheist soul is capable of Deciding what's wrong or Right. Because if they Don't need a religious Textbook to be the Good person, than that's a Gem!

[Faith18letsgo]

Tell them something like, “my brother absolutely loved this kind of sauce, do you have siblings?” I feel like family is often at the core of what makes people who they are. But the nice thing about a question like that is they can say “yeah, two younger sisters. I’m excited to see the wine menu” or “yeah my brother and I are super close but he lives in Ohio” they can choose how intimate to make the answer.

[Gremlinimo]

Some of the answers given here make it sound like it's going to be a job interview.

Tell your first date something about you. And have them tell you the same thing from their perspective. Music, school, places you visit, friends you have, family, job, hobbies.

I'm not sure that you need to know if they have a 5yr plan just yet :)

[Th3ft]

well you want to ask things that you want to know about them so what is their favorite…? Or what do they think about this thing or that song…? Do you think this or do you think that. It starts with general info like their thoughts on common thing and stuff around town that everyone knows or does and then work it up to more personal facts all they while offering your own thoughts while you asking theirs.

[MangoBob]

Do you swallow, do you do anal, do you snore, do you have a car, job, living quarters. do you stop by your moms house every day or call her constantly, do you have a lot of guy “ friends” does he have a lot of girl “ friends. If she has a lot of tattoos, how did she pay for them ( most sluts just let the tattoo artist fuck them for free ink)

[BigWhiteWolf87]

Since you're asking questions only a slut would answer... any decent woman would toss a drink in your face... it's not like you know anything but sluts

[Raaj4you]

Work, family, siblings, hobbies, interests, likes, dislikes, future plans related questions you must ask to each other. All questions not on a first date. Don't reject a person just because the person is not working or earns less now. Circumstances may change in the future.

[Anthony20108]

what do you do for work
what do you do for fun
what is your favorite song
what is your favorite food
what are your goals
are you in college and if so what are you studying
are you a cat person or doge person
and so on i personally think i might ask something along these lines

[shortster]

Do you want to get married?
Do you want kids?
Do you want pets?
Do you want to work or take care of the house?

How you line up with the other person with these 4 questions will have a bigger impact on the long term success of your relationship than anything else, outside of abuse.

[maximumpower]

Open ended questions -

1) would you share a few of your fondest childhood memories?

2) Where do you see yourself in 2032?

3) What are your top three best accomplishments?

Look up info on Proust Questionnaire for a bit more.

The questions aren't invasive but strongly suggest that the replier show some of themselves. These should be spread out over the course of several dates.

DON'T make it into an interrogation.

[dustybiker]

I like to know how they handle emergencies. So give a wild scenario that might be happening right then and ask them how they would react. It’s a question that is also unexpected. Throwing off nerves is fun.

[exitseven]

I used to start talking about the local sports teams to see if she was a fan. Then talk about my pets to see if she liked animals. I would not talk about former relationships, parents, job or finances.

[HighValue]

1. What do you bring to a relationship?

2. Who did you vote for in the 2020 election and do you regret your choice?

Those two questions alone can eliminate many incompatible people.

[hahahmm]

How fat are you?

What's your credit score.

"If I'm a different gender than you think I am, is that a problem? Asking for a friend."

[Open2It]

Tell me about your backgrounds, have you lived here all your life? Where did you grow up? What kind of things did you do growing up? What do you like to do now? What do your parents do for a living? Do you have siblings? What do they do?

What kind of a relationship are you looking for? What kind of qualities do you look for in a partner?

[Anonymous]

I ask instant death questions.

Do you believe feminist lies, like wage gap or rape culture. If yes, fuck off.

Do you expect me to be your free bank account. If yes, fuck off.

Do you have a body count over 5. If yes, Fuck off.

[Savannah194]

@AnnaTumbles maybe a good question would be what qualities you want in a lady?

[Bigjake1019]

That’s a great one

[Savannah194]

@Bigjake1019 I hope so that is one I would ask anyway

[Bigjake1019]

@Savannah194 oh really?

[Savannah194]

@Bigjake1019 yeah 💕

[Bigjake1019]

@Savannah194 I’d like to chat sometime if you are down? ☺️