Should you tell someone you used to have a crush on them?
It makes me remember my childhood, i liked my classmate but i was too shy about it so i told a friend but he was trying to help me in an embarrassing way, he was shouting near her and saying that i love her, it was too embarrassing for me and i told him to stop and he really stopped but in the end i don't think that she noticed me at this time, but by time we became friends and i became normal with her but my feeling had gone.
In the same period i had a classmate which was a neighborhood and she was too kind and we was 7 years old and we used to holding hands when we walk together and all the class thought that we are a perfect couple, but for me she was a close friend for me, when we was 10 years old i had a problem with some girls at school and i didn't know what to do and she was with me and suddenly they asked her why she is doing this for me and she without thinking said that she loves me and it was the first time in my life that someone confesses her feelings to me, i remember i couldn't reply because i was surprised and i had no idea what to say but she told me that she doesn't need a reply from me, it was a special moment in my life
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Why not!, if they are single and you have interest in them. It could at least be playful fun conversation.
Now you need to be more careful if you currently have a partner or they do.
I'd just aim at that point to be as playful with it as you can. Laughing and pushing in the arm, I used to have a crush on you in highschool. And if you do it right, it could work. But it's more iffy... You just need to feel it out.
Been wondering the same lately 😅 There's this YouTube trend of peoe sending a survey to all their past crushes. Then reading the answers in the video.
Reminded me of my crushes so I went to check their Facebook's. And then I realized that 1 of my crushes unfriended me on FB. And I'm pretty sure we were still 'friends' last year...
So Im just like whatever. His loss. Would have been funny to send him the survey.
There's more interesting people near to your present reality than your psst reality.
People change. They could also have a relationship now.
I mean if you're really really curious, sure ask them.
But why not get to know better someone you talk to now? Maybe you have friends you could get to know better and you might find you really like them.
I think that's better if you wanna ne happy, don't worry too much about the past.
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I did it once to this guy because of a facebook post he wrote where he spoke about his low self esteem and how he thought he was incredibly ugly :( he was talking about trying to improve his self esteem.
I sent him a message telling him that I used to have a crush on him and thought he was an incredibly decent, lovely person, and if he ever had such negative thoughts about himself again, this message would serve as a reminder that even if he thinks the entire world believes any of that shit, I certainly don't/ didn't.
He was really appreciative of it and it meant a lot to him:)
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I would say no in most cases. Think of it as a risk-benefit analysis. If you tell them, maybe you share a deeper connection with them in the future. There isn't really any other benefit of telling them. The risk is that it could damage your current relationship and possibly hurt them emotionally. Especially if the liked you too, or still like you.
Maybe if you're really close friends then it's okay, but in general its an easy no.
Hope this answers you question properly.
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Yes, why not , a lot of times we crush on someone and we don’t have the courage to tell them but as time goes on and we run into that crush again we realize wow I use to have a crush on you sometimes it means they still like you or they are just telling you Cuz they finally have the courage to tell you
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If we’re really close I’d probably tell him in a playful way cause I’d feel like there’s something standing between us, as if I’m not completely honest with him.. but I’d make it clear I don’t feel that way anymore. Also if he’s taken that could be a bit awkward.. so a lot of factors have to be taken into account.
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I tried that and it made things awkward... I guess he didn’t feel the same way 🤣🤣🤣 but it’s always good to be honest and truthful, even if you don’t get the answer you’re looking for. I’m glad I told him and got that weird response, then I could move on!
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I had this happen once. Girl told me she used to have a crush on me after she met her new boyfriend who she would never stfu about.
If that person is taken and you are too that’s fine. But if you are taken and they are looking to date someone it’s actually a really shitty thing to say.
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I made that mistake once. It just came out by accident. My friend farted really loudly once on are break and i just said "eww your nasty, can't believe i used to have a crush on you". We just laughed it off and pretended i didn't just amit to once having a crush on him. Things went quite and he never spoke to me again.
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I don't really see the point unless maybe the person your telling my have some interest. Although sometimes that can actually sostk interest in that way but other than those two things I'd say no cause it can make things awkward and if your not really close like that can maybe push that person away. Or it can just be a funny joke or maybe even spark a sexual relationship it can lead to a lot of different things but definitely leading to some awkward moments as number one.
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I think it depends on the situation honestly. If their in a relationship or you are, that's best to leave the past alone since you've moved on but if you both happen to meet again and are single and still have that connection then it doesn't hurt to try but if they were nothing but a good friend you're basically taking the risk of that friendship or rekindle to possibly fall apart.
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I don't know, up to you, you never know if they share same feeling if you dont tell them
in my personal experience telling them has been negative outcome: i was ignored or got the “wtf” reaction like 3 or 4x
so the choose is yours
personally i wouldn’t unless your attractive and the person is likely to like you back, if your unnatractive like me i wouldn't risk it -
It could create a problem as there are so many variables with this question. Things like: How log ago are we talking about
Are the two of you already attached
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Depends what is your goal with giving that information. If it's just to tell them I would say no you don't have to since there is no purpose. But if you still have a crush on them the nI would say go for it and see what happens.
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It just makes the things awkward,, instead have a nice conversation. Plan to spend time together. Let him feel by Ur actions that he means a lot to u. & When u feel this & u got some idea that time is right then u can go in action
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I would, and have. Its circumstantial though. If you know the person well enough to know they wouldn't get weird about it, and it arose somehow in conversation, its just another crazy random story in the history of your friendship.
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I love doing this. Like hey, i used to like you. It helps to get if off your chest lol. But guys get mad because theyre like “wait what made you stop liking me?” Its pretty fun 😂
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It doesn't hurt to say so, but if you're saying it trying to start a new relationship? I don't think you will find fulfillment in that most of the time. Let bygones be bygones.
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Of course. I’m trying to think when I have done this. None comes to mind but when I would see a cute boy in my class I wouldn’t be afraid to go up to him and get his number.
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Lol no the past is the past, I would just laugh or reminisce. I did that the other night with a friend and we just laugh about old college crushes/flings.
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I've mentioned crushes in the past tense once or twice, but I wasn't really trying to achieve any particular result, so I had nothing to gain and nothing to lose. It was kinda just an offhand "oh, funny story..." comment
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Why? Whats the point of doing so. I mean if you still like that person romantically you could consider it... but if you don't... I dont see the point
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I think you should. Maybe they had one in you too or if they didn't, the past tense form of the crush is much easier to reject than if the crush is still active.
Then there is a chance to get to know each other anew.
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