Should you tell someone you used to have a crush on them?

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wkozak · Accepted Answer

It makes me remember my childhood, i liked my classmate but i was too shy about it so i told a friend but he was trying to help me in an embarrassing way, he was shouting near her and saying that i love her, it was too embarrassing for me and i told him to stop and he really stopped but in the end i don't think that she noticed me at this time, but by time we became friends and i became normal with her but my feeling had gone.
In the same period i had a classmate which was a neighborhood and she was too kind and we was 7 years old and we used to holding hands when we walk together and all the class thought that we are a perfect couple, but for me she was a close friend for me, when we was 10 years old i had a problem with some girls at school and i didn't know what to do and she was with me and suddenly they asked her why she is doing this for me and she without thinking said that she loves me and it was the first time in my life that someone confesses her feelings to me, i remember i couldn't reply because i was surprised and i had no idea what to say but she told me that she doesn't need a reply from me, it was a special moment in my life

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

Why not!, if they are single and you have interest in them. It could at least be playful fun conversation.
Now you need to be more careful if you currently have a partner or they do.

I'd just aim at that point to be as playful with it as you can. Laughing and pushing in the arm, I used to have a crush on you in highschool. And if you do it right, it could work. But it's more iffy... You just need to feel it out.

Should you tell someone you used to have a crush on them?

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

Been wondering the same lately 😅 There's this YouTube trend of peoe sending a survey to all their past crushes. Then reading the answers in the video.
Reminded me of my crushes so I went to check their Facebook's. And then I realized that 1 of my crushes unfriended me on FB. And I'm pretty sure we were still 'friends' last year...
So Im just like whatever. His loss. Would have been funny to send him the survey.
There's more interesting people near to your present reality than your psst reality.
People change. They could also have a relationship now.
I mean if you're really really curious, sure ask them.
But why not get to know better someone you talk to now? Maybe you have friends you could get to know better and you might find you really like them.
I think that's better if you wanna ne happy, don't worry too much about the past.

Pistolpete90 · Accepted Answer

I did it once to this guy because of a facebook post he wrote where he spoke about his low self esteem and how he thought he was incredibly ugly :( he was talking about trying to improve his self esteem.

I sent him a message telling him that I used to have a crush on him and thought he was an incredibly decent, lovely person, and if he ever had such negative thoughts about himself again, this message would serve as a reminder that even if he thinks the entire world believes any of that shit, I certainly don't/ didn't.

He was really appreciative of it and it meant a lot to him:)

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, why not , a lot of times we crush on someone and we don’t have the courage to tell them but as time goes on and we run into that crush again we realize wow I use to have a crush on you sometimes it means they still like you or they are just telling you Cuz they finally have the courage to tell you

Yuushiro · Answer

I would say no in most cases. Think of it as a risk-benefit analysis. If you tell them, maybe you share a deeper connection with them in the future. There isn't really any other benefit of telling them. The risk is that it could damage your current relationship and possibly hurt them emotionally. Especially if the liked you too, or still like you.

Maybe if you're really close friends then it's okay, but in general its an easy no.

Hope this answers you question properly.

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flamiE · Answer

If we’re really close I’d probably tell him in a playful way cause I’d feel like there’s something standing between us, as if I’m not completely honest with him.. but I’d make it clear I don’t feel that way anymore. Also if he’s taken that could be a bit awkward.. so a lot of factors have to be taken into account.

treselle · Answer

I tried that and it made things awkward... I guess he didn’t feel the same way 🤣🤣🤣 but it’s always good to be honest and truthful, even if you don’t get the answer you’re looking for. I’m glad I told him and got that weird response, then I could move on!

bluetoblack99 · Answer

I had this happen once. Girl told me she used to have a crush on me after she met her new boyfriend who she would never stfu about.

If that person is taken and you are too that’s fine. But if you are taken and they are looking to date someone it’s actually a really shitty thing to say.

You are telling them they lost an opportunity because they were unable to read your mind.

GlitterFairy16 · Answer

I made that mistake once. It just came out by accident. My friend farted really loudly once on are break and i just said "eww your nasty, can't believe i used to have a crush on you". We just laughed it off and pretended i didn't just amit to once having a crush on him. Things went quite and he never spoke to me again.

MLGbreezy · Answer

I don't really see the point unless maybe the person your telling my have some interest. Although sometimes that can actually sostk interest in that way but other than those two things I'd say no cause it can make things awkward and if your not really close like that can maybe push that person away. Or it can just be a funny joke or maybe even spark a sexual relationship it can lead to a lot of different things but definitely leading to some awkward moments as number one.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends on the situation honestly. If their in a relationship or you are, that's best to leave the past alone since you've moved on but if you both happen to meet again and are single and still have that connection then it doesn't hurt to try but if they were nothing but a good friend you're basically taking the risk of that friendship or rekindle to possibly fall apart.

UnpopularOpinion5 · Answer

I don't know, up to you, you never know if they share same feeling if you dont tell them

in my personal experience telling them has been negative outcome: i was ignored or got the “wtf” reaction like 3 or 4x

so the choose is yours

personally i wouldn’t unless your attractive and the person is likely to like you back, if your unnatractive like me i wouldn't risk it

katiesmuff · Answer

It could create a problem as there are so many variables with this question. Things like: How log ago are we talking about
Are the two of you already attached
Is it because you still want to be involved with him or her.

Novacane · Answer

Depends what is your goal with giving that information. If it's just to tell them I would say no you don't have to since there is no purpose. But if you still have a crush on them the nI would say go for it and see what happens.

Rohan-Thanekar · Answer

It just makes the things awkward,, instead have a nice conversation. Plan to spend time together. Let him feel by Ur actions that he means a lot to u. & When u feel this & u got some idea that time is right then u can go in action

Deformate · Answer

I would, and have. Its circumstantial though. If you know the person well enough to know they wouldn't get weird about it, and it arose somehow in conversation, its just another crazy random story in the history of your friendship.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I love doing this. Like hey, i used to like you. It helps to get if off your chest lol. But guys get mad because theyre like “wait what made you stop liking me?” Its pretty fun 😂

longlicker6969 · Answer

It doesn't hurt to say so, but if you're saying it trying to start a new relationship? I don't think you will find fulfillment in that most of the time. Let bygones be bygones.

Konabeana · Answer

Of course. I’m trying to think when I have done this. None comes to mind but when I would see a cute boy in my class I wouldn’t be afraid to go up to him and get his number.

bobalife · Answer

Lol no the past is the past, I would just laugh or reminisce. I did that the other night with a friend and we just laugh about old college crushes/flings.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I've mentioned crushes in the past tense once or twice, but I wasn't really trying to achieve any particular result, so I had nothing to gain and nothing to lose. It was kinda just an offhand "oh, funny story..." comment

Juxtapose · Answer

Why? Just to rub it in their face that they missed out? That's a pretty shitty thing to do. I'd tell a person like that they were never worthy of me in the first place.

ririissleepy · Answer

Why? Whats the point of doing so. I mean if you still like that person romantically you could consider it... but if you don't... I dont see the point

OfDeath · Answer

I think you should. Maybe they had one in you too or if they didn't, the past tense form of the crush is much easier to reject than if the crush is still active.
Then there is a chance to get to know each other anew.

Avicenna · Answer

Sure-watch me do it:  @Brainsbeforebeauty: I used to have a crush on you!

Makeushiver · Answer

If you can do it w/o upsetting apple carts. I wouldn't recommend it around any of his current SOs or even kids but it's on him how he responds. Personally I would love being told that.

anon1903 · Answer

What point would that make? Unless its the reason your relationship in past couldn't progress beyond a certain point, I don't know why you would

Butterflyy88 · Answer

I wouldn't personally, unless they said them selves that they were suspicious or if you still had feelings.

Gravit1 · Answer

If not currently that could backfire. If I did and couldn't act on it, it's best I don't tell her. If she's single and shares faith, then absolutely if I still do.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

not unless you still have feelings. under certain conditions i can see this being okay, but i can't imagine the outcome

AdithyaR · Answer

I don't tell me current crush about my feelings, much less an old crush. I just take all that emotion and just toss it out 😅😅

Oboemaster27 · Answer

If you're good friends maybe but if it's someone random then no.

bowenw · Answer

Only if you'd still like to be romantically involved with them and you think they feel the same way about you.

Simplismilez · Answer

I mean I wouldn't tell someone now that I had a crush but I'd be curious if someone used to have a crush on me. But I doubt anybody did.

Star177 · Answer

No.  Telling him for what? That was in the past.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Sure, why not. If you're not worried about their reaction. What if they told you that they felt the same way? Or What if they told you that they feel that way about you now?

Soremain · Answer

You shouldn't, but you could if it's for fun and you know it's not going to upset them.

Ripper_E · Answer

You can, but that knowledge does nothing for anyone unless you plan on pursuing that person.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Maybe if it has been long enough or both of you are single and there's a chance of something happening

ElvenMr · Answer

Maybe women could, but even that will cause men trouble if they are in a relationship currently.  And men will just look stupid if they are telling their crush long after.

maxdoesss · Answer

Only if you expect something to happen, otherwise it's probably better not to

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Is irelevant if you didn't tell them when whas the time

Don-_-Don · Answer

No, you're under no obligation to do that. That's a matter of whether do you actually want to or not

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Sure always nice to remind people they were once hot and grew out of it.

naraku · Answer

It probably won't do much for anyone, but it's good info. A girl told me once, I had no idea. It was nice to hear.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Yes because it will eat away at your insides until you confess no matter how much later it is that it happens in life.

Prettysammie · Answer

What could you possibly hope to get from doing this? Why bother with the past and what might have been?

SilverRain92 · Answer

Depends on the reason. You shouldn't but you may tell if you want. My friend was angry when I told her that I used to like her 5 years ago 😂

Anonymous · Answer

If you are still interested sure, otherwise it seems like a way of saying "ha you're so stupid, you could've had me".

navyrobin · Answer

Only if you currently have a crush on them or want to have a chance with them.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't think it's necessary, in fact, things could turn awkward

Ninafrances3 · Answer

If you don't like him anymore then what's the point

Not-karen · Answer

Why would be the point of that. Should I go around telling people I shit my pants when I was a baby? Exactly

ccal28 · Answer

I’d personally be too afraid to say it to anyone but at the same point I do wish people told me if they used to like me.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

If you used to have a crush on them then why would it matter how they respond?

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Only if you want them to be confused to what you want now from them

guitarnovice · Answer

Yes, cuz you might find out that the feeling was mutual! 😊

Anonymous · Answer

Lol, go on Facebook and say "I had a crush on you before you got fat"

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If they're single. You probably shouldn't do it if they're taken; that would be awkward.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

there's no ppoint in doing that... just let it be, since it's gone

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If you used to have a crush on them it means you no longer do so there is no point in telling them.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I mean if you no longer have a crush on them then whats the point

the_sinner · Answer

I personally wouldn't.  I don't see any point in doing that if too much time has already passed.

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