How often do you remember/take note of the things your crush tells you about themselves?
If it's a crush, I won't take notes. I refuse to start taking notes until we're in a relationship. That's just a lot of wasted time and energy.
If you want me to remember sh*t, then talk to me on a regular basis and don't give me a chance to forget about you.
Exactly thats what im sayin
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Thanks for the MHO.
Well I always remember what bigger stories they tell me and what's important to them, what shaped them and all that but I don't even know the age or favorite color of my best friend soooo there is that lmao
U dont know her age 😂
Look I know the day of her birthday and even the anniversary day with her man but not her age, she is 1or 2 years younger than me but yeah I would have to guess if someone ever asks and hope she doesn't kill me 😂😂
Y’all take notes? When I had crushes I would forget everything that they told me 😭😭I wouldn’t even remember their last names so those crushes died pretty quick lol
Thats what im sayin. These days i dont take notes and dont even remember their first names 🤣 i be confusing them with past people too. Smh. My last longterm crush was last August. Everything after mightve lasted a month or less lll
My longest crush was like 3 weeks and then he cut his hair and that shit ended real quick 😭🤚
Lol if they grow their hair out (especially a beard) i lose interest 😂 the cut is what keeps me haha
Yooo righttttt that’s how I knew that physical attraction was hella important whoever says that it isn’t is bullshitttinggggg I don’t careeee
Yes the only people who truly mean “looks dont matter” is prob unattractive themselves and just praying others go for their personality 🤣
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT
Very good question.
I usually take ''mental notes'' whenever I'm talking with anyone, as to make sure to not forget important details and focus on what they are communicating to me.
This works both in interpersonal relationships of a romantic and business nature.
Yea i used to do that when really interested
I find it a good practice to take note of anything significant that she says. If she says her favorite color is purple then that goes into a notebook. Then if I am out shopping for her gift I consult my notebook to see what I put down for favorite color. Same with things like music, movies, styles, political views, religious beliefs and so on right down to her Mom's birthday etc. I don't have a great memory but I usually get gifts and occasions correct and get a lot of compliments. One partner's mother adored Victorian decor so when I found a collection of Victorian Christmas cards for sale in an antique shop I bought them then my partner and I made some ornaments out of them and her Mom was thrilled. Yes, information about her Mom is important to take note of.
Aww thats sweet
This is a tough one for me, I’ve never had a crush (on a peer) who didn’t ask me out. But yes, on dates I pay very close attention to the guy. What he likes or doesn’t like, what his goals are, his hopes and dreams, basically if he says it, I’m paying attention to it! This surely shouldn’t be surprising, I mean it’s just basic politeness! If someone asks you to go on a date, you pay attention to what he’s saying!
It wasn't a date so i dont feel guilty 🤣
It would have to depend how ''big'' my crush is. If I'm really into her, I'll play very close attention, and hopefully remember most of it.
If I'm just getting interested in her, or you know, not REALLY into her, I'll try to remember only the important things, like her favorite things, or where she's from and stuff like that.
Yea i think thats how i was doing
I remember as much as I can. I can't remember every detail about her, but I do remember the special moments that we have shared together, and I remember as many of the details about her life that she has shared. I want to know everything about her. I do forget the little things sometime, and the thing I hate is that I forgot her birthday. I just know that she is a Leo, so I somewhat have an idea. I have to find out soon.
Just never forget the anniversary lol
It's easier during covid. It's mostly done by chatting and before calling I can just scroll back to things that were said ;)
The best to remember is to just have him tell more about those specific things, so it isn't just briefly mentioned. Easy to remember, and he appreciates it.
Lol anyone i used to chat with, we had so many posts that the scroll would lag 😂 and i def dont look back at my screenshots
Well those are the times did I would act like I'm not listening but the things that I really remember are the things that she doesn't say or she does say it but in a different way those are the times that I do
Ahh i seee
I would probably need to more often than I do 😅 I have that struggle simply remembering family and friends stuff 😬 I'm in so much trouble with that when it comes to relationships 😂 I remember as much as I can but I should write some stuff down
I take notes in my phone lol
I don't observe very well, and doesn't it look funny to write down notes while someone is talking something casual 😂😆😆😆?
And even if I know the birthdays of my crushes, I don't wish them because they might guess that I have a thing on them
They dont know you're taking notes 🤦♀️
😂😂😂 , yeah
Uhm. I must admit I've never taken any note about any of that. Got me several partners nonetheless. Maybe it's not that important to know all that much about the other's details, as you end up learning them anyway if you spend enough time together.
At first she just called me a klutz. But then we started doing things equally like she’d say I want
To go here! Next time I had the choice. It grew into BDs too and so on.
No longer a klutzNo longer a klutz
It's been a moment since I have been in the dating world (well over 10 years). And yes I have a horrible memory and yes I try and keep details straight.
I once said to someone “i know how much you love ___ movie” and they were like “umm I've never seen that film before.” Im like damn now i see why it isn't good to date someone else in a short amount of time 😂
I'm so old I have to write down what I had for dinner tonight so I can remember it tomorrow. I have hit my head so many times it doesn't even hurt anymore. I've had cuncutions 5 times. Yes it even affected my spelling. Lol
I wonder of maybe i had a concussion that never fully healed 🤯
I stay dizzy which is why i created this username tbh. I had a clumsy moment minutes before creating the account
No but if i stand up too fast i get a dizzy feeling at least twice a week
Or maybe high blood pressure since i eat a lot of pork
February but i dont remember if it said something about blood pressure. I know i remember high cholesterol last year
I don't need to take notes for such things. As an academic my memory is honed to substantial longevity.
I never took the notes, but my memory is very good... I remember everything in my mind!
Shoot i dont
I try to keep note of the small details about her, those are the things that matter after all, likes, dislikes, hobbies, things she tells me, etc.
Thats true. I just guess i lose interest the moment i see we’re too different so i stop trying to remember
Yea im fine with them being into whatever, i’m just not fine with dating someone so different. I usually just seem them as friend material. And i def dont remember my friends bdays 😂🙈
I'm the same don't worry I can't remember jack squat, and when it comes to guys, I'm in a group of close friends of like 2 or 3 years and nobody remembers anyone's bdays. Someone will say I got blank and we will be like why?
Haha yep thats how it is
I tend to remember small seemingly trivial details, more important details like birthdays or likes I make note of for review or reminder later
Yea i used to
Have you been dealing with stress or anxiety lately? They can cause memory changes too
More so last year. But definitely frustration with my job
That could very much play into it
My note taking sucks when I am half asleep or late at night my memory sucks.
Lol i dont blame you on that one
My brain is fried so I’m with you. I’m not a good listener either I just try to key in on a few words and sentences lol
Lmao yep i stay summing up
I do the same thing when she tries to bring up the past I fight fire with fire lol
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I find it difficult sometimes but I try and keep up best I can. Especially the crushing stage as you try and make impression. Pressure feels on for sure. Just dropped an ex as a friend for forgetting my Bday so. But I've always put more into her than she ever did for me so that was like the perfect topper to it all. Think her grandma died and uncle or something. She also got married on my birthday and said it wasn't intentional so yeah, just wasn't the same between us amd I absolutely hated our relationship since. Like to me there's basics such as bdays and sexual turn ons and other preferences and then there's the millions of things they like and the names of favorite albulms and movies to remember. I try to be as creative with gifts as possible and incorporate all I can into it so its all useful material. But if they never show the same attention to detail or try for it even as a friend I see much less reasons to keep any ties going. I keep some others on socials amd stuff but not in contact with them. But yeah its a lot to keep up with, I get that.
Being friends with exes is problematic to begin with. Damn she married on your bday! Yea that was totally intentional
Yeah, seems like it to me too. If it wasn't intentional, still just proves how far we'd fallen. We'd only mainly texted and used to talk every morning and every night kinda relationship. Finally met up was really taken a back by her world at the time, a stark difference from my life and who I had pictured. And well she ends up fuckin a girl while I was there and then married her so congrats I guess. The 400 spent for her was complete bull shit. Bahahaha! Why am I telling you this? But yes agreed anyway
Lol of course you remember the strikes they made