Would it remove all doubt she liked you back or no?
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Seeing a lot of "depends on the gift." So let's specify, shall we! If you got a handmade gift that was for a personal problem specific to you would that be a strong indicator of *romantic* interest from the girl.
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We confessed our mutual interest today.
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So he shied away again after saying he also liked me. Asked him today what was up. Said he has a bad financial situation. I said it's an excuse. Just tell me if you don't want me. He said I don't want you. So there you have it. Shyness was down to his knowing that he was just using me for attention and feeling good about himself. Fake shy guy.
Guys: is getting a gift from a crush an obvious hint of interest?
You reminded of the song "every breath you take" on another note, it's quite easy.
You have close female friends? Any male friends? Make it a group event and go to a bar, then have your friends leave maybe make it, you, him, 1 other guy and 2 females. This will let him know it's socially acceptable, it's a Friday he won't turn down "friends" if he's "outgoing." In this situation you don't invite him but the guy invites him and a couple of girls are going. The guy friend makes it easier to not be intimidated by multiple females, yes they can be overwhelming. Other two females are going because it's a group event, two people pair off and then there's the last female that goes to talk to a "guy." Everyone is still there and unless he goes to talk to other women then you have your alone time. Then talk about him to make him feel comfortable, last but not least thing to do is say something like... "I wanted to go do ____ with you but you seem to always be busy" if he rejects you there, then you know. Say fuck it and move on or you might have a date. Good luck!
He started with the hints so I was direct then he lost it and got super super shy and very very weird and super bizarre swinging from bold to terrified so I had to get into all these hints.
Well, I wouldn't give him medicine. It say's "my dog also has a hurt leg, try this it's great." cook him lunch, if that won't work, then you just have to ask him out
I don't own a dog. He really liked the gift a lot actually. He told all his friends were around him about it and was smiling and made sure that I could see him talking about it.
not entirely. itd have to be a very personal gift to them, to show that youve paid a lot of attention to the things they like. but if the gift is something very common, he may just view it as a nice thing for you to do. still, if you want him, you could just ask him if he wants to go out with you :)
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What about a gift that solves a specific personal problem that proves the person has been observing you intensely?
thatd be a preeeety big hint, but not foolproof. most guys suck at picking up hints. it might work, but dont expect highly of it. but for real, why not just also tell him that you like him?
I've scared him off before. He's loud a d very outgoing but acts like a feral cat with me. It took months to even get here. I am naturally direct but couldn't be with him.
lmaoooo, well why not just explain to him that he doesn't have to be shy around you? leading up with that could be telling that you actually really like him
We had all this eye stuff and body language even whole fights just exchanging glances because we can't really speak freely.
He did some obvious indirect stuff so I gave him the gift just all casual. Im in a plave where indirect is preferred so this type of subtlety isn't lost.
The gift says clearly, I've been watching you and I want to get closer to you.
i gotcha. well, as i said, dont get your hopes up, the signals may be lost on him, but with the way you're describing it, he might get it. if you're able to make him shy, youve def got a big effect on him at least in some way, so maybe hell feel really relieved with this lol
Flowers, cards, chocolates, other obvious valentines stuff makes it 100% clear
A handmade gift also will make it 100% clear.
A gift of something unique to me or something she knew I wanted through conversation is more like 70-80% sure she has romantic interest.
Gag gifts, gift cards, money, and other gifts without any kind of thought behind them do not make me think there is any Interest
If you aiming to show signs of interest, go for a more catered gift and don't be afraid to judt outright ask him what he would like as a gift. Its not gonna hurt a guy's feelings if you had to ask to find out what he wanted.
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It was handmade in a container that was repurposed for a specific problem he has. Clear enough?
Thanks. Yes I told him I liked him a few days back and he likes me too relationship wise. But he's gotten a bit nervous around me again and hasn't moved things forward.
Hmm … so not necessarily. If it’s a girl then girls often just flirt so… subtly a gift alone wouldn’t suffice for me. But sometimes I think I’m just bad at reading the tea leaves. Like if a girl asks if she can take my pants off I’m fairly sure she likes me… if she’s just flipping her hair a lot around me and doesn’t say so I just think maybe she has fleas
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Yes, there is always a doubt especially if you would be really crushed if it didn't work out. Expecting the worst as a defense mechanism.
Hmm, it really depends if he considers you sexually attractive or not. If he friendzoned you, you might be getting even deeper. However, receiving a gift is an act of kindness. It will definitely make your bond with him stronger. Now, if you don't like being in a friendzone, it could lead to even more self torture. You should test it first with the normal ways - touching, flirting, see if he is jealous when you are with other guys.
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I am DEFINITELY NOT in the friends zone. He goes nuts if I'm with other guys. He's the ine who has it wayyyyy worse than me for surrrre.
To be honest. All she has to do is look deep into my eyes take me by the hand kiss me Slow Hands Up and Whisper I like you. And I would look so deep into her eyes and with a little bratty tone of voice and smile, I would say. You do too. and then I would kiss her slow and soft and then I would say I like you more
He likes you don't worry about it okay now I'm curious what did you make I'm curious because I want to see the detail I love people that make things with their own hands it's not a wooden sex toy is it with sorry teasing if you show me what you make out show you what I make
I'm sorry. I really just didn't know how to respond to your first opinion, LOL.
Umm he is still shy. I think he is in disbelief I like him for real for real. He is still always near me and is clearly happy when I'm around but just has cold feet to llke I dunno really get things off the ground.
I mean when I approach him, I I never go right up to him. I always let him come to me and he always speeds over to me with a big smile while saying my name.
Well it sounds like he likes you but I would have to see his eyes that would tell me everything so what do you mean when you say I don't know about this one
Probably a little bit of both of those but I think what it could be is we all have an energy within us and it's like an aura but it's on the inside of us and when it's turned on when it's excited it radiates miles and miles away and this is no lie I mean like as we are chatting I'm starting to feel you but when you walk into a room she might not know what's going on but I mean he thinks it might be his sight and seeing you so that's what it is but before we even see anybody we feel them people might think this love at first sight but you actually feel somebody before you see them and that's when your heart just goes pound pound pound is but it's your energy that meat first I think I should have started this whole thing out different LOL try to explain it different I'm an empath so I feel people's emotions and energy
Most of the time 20 minutes and talking with you I can tell you a lot about yourself it's because I feel your energy when people make love into energy touch and become one it's the most beautiful feeling in this world
I'm smiling right now because I was more less thinking a different way you know like with a slow soft kiss to start the conversation LOL but yet you probably should do what you were saying to. I'm still smiling LOL
He has a spre knee and I noticed that it would bother him. He would have his leg stretched out. So I have a joint pain from time to time and I use shea butter on the areas I have pain for relief. It works pretty well. So months and months and months I whipped up a batch and put it in a old hair conditioner container that I had.
When I tried to give it to him the first time he ran away from me as if I had an axe and I was about to chop his arm off.
So now months later I finally gave it to him for his knee and he was smiling and telling all his friends about it.
You're very welcome but I need to thank you for just being you and showing people of this world did there are good people out there with beautiful hearts it made a lot of guys would love to find a girl like you
Go about it a different way do you believe with the energy Within can you feel energy can you project energy energy is one of the best feelings in this world and when two energies connect you can't deny it
They have. We fight and make up exchanging glances. Then we talk as if we are casual acquaintances like we didn't have a whole silent blowout. It's kinda funny.
The other thing that you have to think about is and some guys heads that he can look a little bit further down the road and maybe you would want to get into a relationship now but he's afraid because he's self-conscious about his leg and maybe you might not want to get into that position I don't know I don't know if I knew him I would tell you or if I can look into his eyes I can tell you
It's funny you say that. There are people who sell things on my straight out of their cars or they have like a little table.
The first morning when I actually approached him after I had seen him like sending me all these in looks or whatever the afternoon that same day he was talking to one of the men who sell stuff. Shortly after he started selling stuff out of his car to make more money.
Started changing certain things about his appearance and just changing in ways that he should be doing regardless but was suddenly motivated to do.
He doesn't know that before I had a good financial situation all I had to eat was like mangoes cabbage and oatmeal and I stood by my ex-husband and now he's very very secure financially. But unfortunately he wasn't treating me well so I had to end it but I mean I wasn't there through thick and thin.
Because money and material things don't make me happy. They're just for using I just want somebody who's nice and sweet and sensitive. Money comes as you need it so I never worry about money and I've never hot too. Sometimes I have a lot sometimes I have a little and that's just how it is.
This is going to sound really weird did you have a picture I'd love to look into your eyes I'm an empath and I feel energy and I'm the same way everything you just described above I believe in the same thing even though I have a lot of material things but most of them are because I collected them I have a lot of questions of a lot of thanks but most of the stuff that I have is because somewhere some house everybody Finds Me and at that moment they need what I have to make their house work their car work whatever work so you went to God's people you're one of God's soldiers you do your work for him above and he always shows up at the right time at the right place at the right last moment to help you
You said three key words they're nice sweet and sensitive I love all three of those words their little words but they mean so much a lot of people think they can represent that but they are far from it I think you probably do represented it very well yeah but I'm just curious I'm an empath and I feel things deeper than most people I see things people most people I can feel your energy from right here right now that's why I was curious I would love to look into your eyes
Yes it´s a sign of interest. If it´s a personal gift that would take doubt away. If it´s something impersonal it would be a nice gesture. A personal gift would be something we´ve talked about and she´s giving me something that is related to that. Like for example giving me chocolate after we´ve talked of our ways to get happy.
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How about a gift that proves she's observed you and is to help you in a specific way?
That´s what I´d consider a "personal" gift for me that would be a clear sign of interest. If you´d just give me an Amazon gift card or similar there still would be some doubts.
Not obvious at all. That’s why it’s called a hint. And girls very frequently mix their “hints” in with “just being nice”. Which means their no reason to act on anything.
So if she doesn’t say anything directly and overtly then it’s not going to be received.
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Ok well anyway he got it. Maybe you just need to be more perceptive.
It’s not about being perceptive. It’s about likelihood. Most guys perceive lots of thing to be romantic and girls get mad when guys guess wrong, so generally it’s better not to guess.
"flirting" is subject to the same issue, regardless of timescale. There's no way to know if she's actually interested or if it's just her joking around with a friend. Unless she says directly that she's interested or asks him out or something like that, then it's all up in the air. A guy could be perceiving multiple female friends in his life acting is all sorts of ways that are confusing about being friendly vs flirting, or maybe she's being sort of reserved but she's trying to drop infinitesimally small hints. There's no way to know. It's all just a bunch of noise.
Not exactly, it just means they made successful bets. If you only look at the times when it works out then it's not a real understanding of what's happening. It's not being dense, it's receiving things that could be interpreted as hint and deliberately not reacting to them. That's smart thing to do based on the perception on many things as flirting, as we've already established. Just because a guy deviated from the smart path and had it work out anyway doesn't mean it's mindreading. Like I said, you can't *really* know. You can take some things into consideration and make a bet -- it's a gamble -- but you don't get to *know* until overt things happen.
So I've been a situation where I had a friend who I knew for over a year, we would have tickle fights and be playful with each other. I would scoop her up in my arms all the time, I received multiple gifts, I gave her gifts too. I did things for other people which lead her to calling me adorable. Can it be *known* that we like each other?
Sometimes people are not conscious of things. If that's the way you behaved with each other I would say that you do like each other. It may not be something strong enough between the two of you to want to act upon but there is definitely something there. That's a very intimate form of contact.
Well I liked her and I acted on it (not because I felt I "knew"). Not only was it not reciprocated, but in the end she basically ghosted me.
See? One can never know for sure. It's always a gamble. Believing something 100% doesn't make it proportionately true in reality. It's only real when it's overt both ways, and even then it's only true in the moment it's said. Things can change over time.
Even if you both believed you knew what was happening, it's still fundamentally a gamble you both took which worked out this time. Good luck with your relationship and all that, but just don't try to sell us that mindreading is real.
There's also respectability in a girl who can express directly.
Yes. My bottom part is all good. I'm in the mid top area in terms of what I want from. him. i live in a huge fancy place and he described his place to me saying its just a small studio. I scoffed like who cares.
So he said he has problems or whatever. Cop out insead of saying not interested, you think? But he's always gazing at me.
Noooo, I don't roll like that. I had an ex that used to call me F. W. I. which stood for Federal Wife Investigation. He didn't like the fact that I always had to (and did) get to the bottom of things. 🕵🏾♀️
Doing small things like messaging first, touching him when you meet and letting him talk about himself you asking questions should eliminate all doubts
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Did that. He's warmed. He's all shy then gradually gets comfortable as the day wears on.
Well I think a better word would be “context”. Is it your birthday? Is it a ocasión where people are giving gifts? Are they giving gifts to others? What kind of gift? You might as well ask them if they like you
It was something homemade for a pain problem. He was super happy to get it. Got all shy again but back to attention seeking.
I'm ready to spill the beans but still so nervous. The gift was like a warmup to see how receptive he is to me.
He was smiling and telling his friends about the gift and what it was for.
For months he's been having his friends drop all these hints and sent somebody to ask if I was single but did in a way to save face. I know it was him though.
Honestly I believe in men leading the initiative but I know how woman are more aggressive these days and I my self love when a woman tells me she’s into me because it’s a ego booster. Not always because I like them back.
If I were him I’d know you like me. And if I didn’t show a sign that I like you back it’s probably because I am not interested
Yes gifts are awesome! Given your username, if your crushbwho you suspected lkked you gave ypu a really thoughtful gift would you like her a lot more? Would it make you more shy?
I meant that some gifts are only token gestures, clearly with no romantic intentions. Like I've had female colleague bring me bags of sweets etc from a work trip.
Stuff like that would not make me think a girl had a crush or liked me.
I did ask it in a way. If you want to date him, giving him a gift won't make it happen. Just ask him to join you for lunch or coffee or dinner. If you work with him, then do not give him a gift at the office.
No, since all that you mentioned is irrelavent to my situation. I jnly was asking whether giving the goft would signal my interest. Notuing about getting a date.
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