If a shy guy got a gift from his crush would it freak him out or make him happy?

[Anonymous]

If you had a major crush on a girl who you were afraid to approach and were unsure about and she randomly gave you a small gift would you be happy, terrified or turned off.

I would be weirded out.

I would be so happy.

It would make me even more shy.

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+1 y

Dude flat out wouldn't talk to me. So I guesss I am MUCHO bad at gauging interest!

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+1 y

So, I finally gave him the gift. He was very happy and telling his friends about and smiling.

[InferiorElegy]

I'd be suspicious for sure. Why would they be giving me a gift? No one ever gives me anything and to start out of nowhere I'd be suspicious as fuck and can't say I'd accept it, even from a crush because let's be honest every crush I've ever had has told me how undateable I am to them so gifting me something out of the blue like that definitely does not mean they now like me, it's more plausible that it's a bomb.

[Asker]

All the best with that. Thanks for answering!

[InferiorElegy]

All the best with what?

[virgin20]

I think I would feel extremely special and happy inside, that would be my first feeling.
Then guilty that I never sent her anything which I'd try to and also nervous since I'm shy I wouldn't know where to go next

[Asker]

So its too much? Don't do it.

[virgin20]

I think you should do it. I think there's no harm and who knows maybe he'll make a move on you since this is a good sign to him

[Asker]

Ok thanks. It's just he won't make eye contact with me nothing. I may literally have to beckon him and I will feel so dumb if he doesn't come.

[virgin20]

Do you know he has a crush on you back?
I think end of the day it's a nice gesture regardless and we just hope there's more than a gift

[Asker]

He's been being weird AF. I want to calm things down. He will freeze when he sees me now. Always hyper aware of me. Always orbiting but so so so shyyyy. Smiles to himself and stealing glances.

[virgin20]

Sounds a little like me...
Just send the gift and go from there!

[Asker]

Ok. I'll try. Thanks so much 🏆

[virgin20]

You're welcome. Hope it goes well regardless and have a great day 🤗

[Asker]

I gave the goft fiiiinallly. It went great. He was telling everybody about it and smiling.

[1stranger]

What? 😳Afraid to approach?
I would be happy. I would think I care. Gift makes everyone happy honey..

[Asker]

You're confused about afraid to approach? Yes, gifts are awesome.

[1stranger]

Yes, I'm confused. Why can't you approach?

[Asker]

He is afraid to appraoch me.

[1stranger]

Why?
Maybe giving him the gift will make him closer to you?

[Asker]

Yes. Thanks. Ill try.

[1stranger]

Thanks to you too

[PBandJ_Nerd]

A shy guy would be happy to receive a gift from someone he has a crush on.

[Asker]

Thanks so much. Now if I can just get him to stop pretending not to see me...

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Is he one of those shy people you literally have to chase in order to communicate at all with them? (I'm not good at wording this honestly).

[Asker]

He wasn't at first. Then he saw me one day and looked stunned. Eyes popped out of his head (he's seen me a hundred times before) and was frozen. Now literally ignoring me. Are familiar with this tyoe. Any tips? If I call him to come over do you think he will ignore me?

[Asker]

I think he feels stupid because all his friends are on his case (don't know what their saying or what he's told them). I made the initial move 2 months ago and it was fine but I could see he was nervous. After that smiled a bit but I didn't really respond. I paid him a compliment through a friend and he warmed up. Now he's just shut down.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm not quite familiar with them. It's probably easier to approach him maybe though. Since calling him over may or may not make him run.

[Asker]

Any way its a win win. You can rarely look like a loser with a nice non over the top gesture.

[Jusin]

It would make me feel that maybe she's into me as well but it would make me feel a little more shy because I'd feel that maybe she notices me more than I thought. I would be really happy about it though.

[Asker]

He knows I notice him. He stares at me so I stare back. And I now figured out that he when he has his back turned, he's asking his friends to ask of I'm looking at him... I will probably have to stare him down and call him over. Do you think he will refuse?

[Jusin]

Some people can't help starring at people they find attractive, I've been know to do that as I'm studying their movements and the details of their look and mannerisms. Do I think he'd refuse a gift from you? Hmm no, if he looks at you a lot and asks his buddies if you're looking at him he's just shy and nervous but I think he'd accept it. Some guys are put off by women starting things off but I think it needs to be more common and wouldn't be put off by it. I would be surprised but would welcome it. I was asked out once by a shy nerdy girl and I didn't really know her much and had no idea she was even into me, not because i didn't notice her but we just hadn't talked much.

[Asker]

This answer is so insightful. Thanks so much. I just am nervous he will hardcore ignore me. Whatever if he does screw him.

[Jusin]

Glad to help out. I really hope that he accepts and it goes well for you. Best of luck.

[Asker]

Thanks!!!

[Asker]

He accepted and was super happy. He told all his friends.

[Born-for-sex]

I guess it does depend on the gift though. If my crush gave me a pair of underwear or a dick ring with a vibrator I would probably get a whole lot more shy... but something simple would be nice!

[Asker]

I saw you profile name and I was like "oh man what am I going to read". No, I won't be giving him any sex toys. Thanks for answering. He has been avoiding eye contact with me but then yelling loud when I pass by when he doesn't really need to. Is he not interested? I can feel his periphery watching me though.

[Born-for-sex]

Lol! Yeah I figured that name would get me in to a lot more trouble on here. Haha! I used to have a different name and profile a whole back so it has been interesting coming back. But I thought this name would be all the rage. Haha! Anywho. He sounds like he is bottled up about something. Maybe he does like you but thinks that he doesn’t deserve you or that you are interested in someone else.

[Asker]

Oh for sure bottled up. I just want him to spill the beans!! Clear the air so we know where we stand. A little from the other column too.

[Born-for-sex]

In that case I would make the first move! Invite him over or ask to have dinner some time. Pop it on him so he doesn’t really know how to react. Then wear something sexy or something f SUPER casual and let the fun begin.

[Asker]

LOL. That's not an option. I want to give him a gift.

[Born-for-sex]

Gotcha. 🤦‍♂️ Sorry! I mean maybe this will work then!!

[Born-for-sex]

Oh no! I’m so sorry!

[Asker]

Yeah. I was super wrong I guess... oh well.

[Asker]

I am happy thiugh. I was avoiding places because I was initially uncomfortable with the attention. Now I can just go back to how I was before without people watching and whispering abiut me. I don't get all of the CIA behaviour. Smiling. Asking friends to see if Im looking. Stealing glances. I think he just feels he doesn't want anything from me and it's obvious Im not down for any ONS or anything remotely related to that.

[Asker]

UPDATE: I gave the gift. He was super thankful and was telling his friends about it and smiling.

[Mewipaws]

Being a shy guy myself, if that were to happen to me, I would be so happy that I strip in public.

[Asker]

I wanna give you a gift now to see if that would actually happen.

[Asker]

So basically bring out out of your shell a bit. Or a lot, LOL

[Mewipaws]

Oh no, dont do it lol. I might get publicly embarrassed for life if that happened

[Asker]

He kept his clothes on but he was really really happy and told all his friends.

[sidhutv]

It turns on and make happy but might not be expressed as he is shy

[Asker]

So he would get more shy?

[sidhutv]

Yes and happy too

[Asker]

Ah ok gotcha!

[sidhutv]

Rock on

[Asker]

He was really happy but then later did get more shy. He has to process it i think?

[LoveLillyBoobs]

I would become super happy and will be over the moon lmao

[Asker]

This person is pai fully shy around me. Are you sure it wouldn't be too much.

[LoveLillyBoobs]

yes it will make him happy

[Asker]

Ok. Thanks. I'll try...

[devil_8888]

Mix of all the feelings you mentioned. He would go crazy

[Asker]

In a bad way or a good way? I shouldn't do it then...

[devil_8888]

Of course in a good way.

Bdw what gift are you gonna give him?

[Asker]

Well, I noticed he had a knee brace on and I wanted to give him this thing called shea butter that really works for pain. I wanna tell him how to use it and ask him to report back. Too strong? He literally runs from me and looks terrified when he sees me. He once smiled from far far away but that's it.

[Asker]

You think its weird?

[devil_8888]

His reaction towards you is weird. Maybe if you initiate talking to him, he will slowly feel comfortable.

[Asker]

I have. Paid him a compkiment via a friend the other day too. He was happy. Making eye cintact. Still scared to talk. So you think no gift then? I can't think of anything else to give him because I don't know much about him.

[devil_8888]

Still give him the gift you wanna give...

[Asker]

Ok. You making me second guess myself. 😒

[JoRo628]

Would ease the burden of maybe opening his feelings about how he feels about that person. Also, would kind of make the shyness/nervousness ease away.

[Asker]

Really? You think? Even after hitting a bit of a snag?

[JoRo628]

I do. If i had a crush on a girl that I was unsure how they felt about me, that is what would make me shy towards them. I usually open up more when I feel comfortable about something obviously. The gift gesture might be just what he needs to get over that because it might be in his head if your into him or not.

[JoRo628]

Hope that somewhat made sense 😂

[Asker]

Yes, it did. It's just his reaction to me of hardcore gaze aversion and going silent as soon as I am around makes me thunk he won't engage with me at all. He was literally making eye contact with me in the morning then seemed like he hated me in the afternoon.

[JoRo628]

That is because he is nervous to be around you. Like i said the gesture might help, he might not answer immedately. May take some time for him to gain the courage who knows because he might not know how to react.

[Asker]

Ok. I get it. I just want the awkwardness to stop. His friends all stare at me. Discuss me. Turn to look at him every time I pass by. I don't know if it's becaise he wants me to leave him alone and they are making fun of him because he doesn't like me or the opposite.

[Asker]

And I have real reasons to pass by. Not contrived ones.

[JoRo628]

Have you tried asking any of the friends what the deal is? If he was into you or not? Or do you just get the feeling that he is? Because if he isn’t then it might be more awkward than before lol

[Asker]

I can't really do that. 2 mi ths ago I approached hust casually. He was totally caught off guard but it was than I ci formed he had a pretty significant crush on me. He has friends who are much older than him and one of them said hi to me in a way that was almost like tha ks for doing that. The other day, I sent a compliment on his appearance via a friend and he seemed super happy to relay the message. It's weird, when he feels comfortable around me the friends are friendly. When he acts withdrawn and avoids, they do the same. What do you make of that?

[JoRo628]

Yeah i dont know what to make of that. Seems like a very weird situation right there. I know my friends would be happy to relay the messages to me and probably encourage me to talk to you, but wouldn’t go out of their way to avoid you if i was especially in a work setting which it sounds like.

[Asker]

So anyway yeah. I've embarrassed myself wayyyyyyy worse in my life so this will really be nothing. Thanks so much!!!

[JoRo628]

Haha, i hear ya. Good luck. Hope it works out for ya.

[slatyb]

I love the presents my wife finds for me. Nothing expensive, but very thoughtful. Often its some great thrift store find.

[hasdrubal164]

i would be all 3 at same time i think

[Asker]

What would be the strongest sensation of the three?

[hasdrubal164]

i woudnt like it but my feelings change so i might not always not like it i hope that helps

[hasdrubal164]

always not not like it*

[Asker]

I actually don't understand fully. Wiuld you like her less or more?

[hasdrubal164]

hmm i dont know actually i have it to happen to me or have to think deeply about it

[hasdrubal164]

its not like i dont know but i haven't though about it deeply. it probably depends on my mood that day if i would like it or not (i hope that helps)!

[Asker]

Ok Thanks. I appreciate you !!

[hasdrubal164]

no problem

[Anonymous]

its a reminder that, i highly doubt we will ever live in a century or millenium in which girls start approaching guys in droves

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[Opinion Owner]

just venting sarcastically

[Asker]

Ah ok. I do engage in a bit of that myself. Do you have an opinion about the question too?

[Opinion Owner]

if i already liked her, i would be happy and ecstatic because that means the woman is expressing interest in the guy in a blatantly obvious way, for the most part, the vast majority of women will never be point blank or upfront with a guy they are interested in, they are stubbornly subtle about it, like the least just smile or look at the guy from a distance, but normally won't open their mouth first if you get what i'm saying.

I'm venting sarcastically again, because it is easily the only thing i hate about being born male, the guy being expected to make the first move and ask her out first, etc.

[Asker]

Thanks! I think woman should approach for sure.

[Opinion Owner]

my guess is that, every guy you dated, he was the one who approached you or asked you out

[Asker]

No! I have no issue pursuing a guy. I am pretty good at ready shy guys and I can pick up on thier interest. I've been shot down in the past too.

Years and years ago, there was a guy who was really popular in my HS. He had amazing eyes. We took the same bus. He would always chat me up when he and his cousin were around. When alo e he would kind of avoid me. Anyway, i started talkkng to him at school one day. There was a huge crowd of guys around and I flat out said, aren't you going to ask for my nimber?

Anyway, I was two grades younger than him, new at the school to boot. Needless to say, I was the talk of the entire school for mo ths to come. It sent shcokwaves. I thiyght is was all rather ridiculous but that gives you some insight.

In short, I have no issue "shooting my shot". I really like this guy though but he's pissing me off. I am 95% sure he likes me but there are a lot of people around and everyone is watching and talking. One friend of his (who I suspect also had a crush on me) cinstantly stares at me and will blatantly discuss me when I pass. I ignore but I might have to go up to him and put him in his place because he's annoying me.

[Asker]

He was totally into me though but I think I was too bold for him to be girlfriend material.

[Opinion Owner]

so when you have taken the first shot, or made the first move, it hasn't worked out for you? how long have you been single now?

[Opinion Owner]

my guess is, all boyfriends you had, the relationships were initiated by the guy

[Asker]

No, not true. I stalk my prey than pounce. LOL.

[Opinion Owner]

are you dating anyone now or single?

[Asker]

Not the purpose of the thread.

[Opinion Owner]

oh i see, but yes, i would be on cloud 9 if a woman asked me out first or made the first move

[Asker]

Well I did. Refused to look at me. Asked his friend if he doesn't want totalk to me. Friendsaid yes he doesn't want to speak to you. Inly time he looked at me was when I was talking to his friend. I guess he was just entertaining himself the whole time. I just dont get how a guy 6'3" 225 maybe more is terrified to speak to a woman 5'7" barely 130. He's mad! Strange. So needless to say. I won't be making any sort of gesture. I feel relieved because I don't have to pay any attention to him. If he just wanted to admire from afar, why all the discussion. Smiling.

[Asker]

So you can feel happy that a girl took a rejection.

[Asker]

I gavethe gift. He was really happy and told all his friends about it.

[Opinion Owner]

ya i never understood why the vast majority of women are stubborn and adamant in regards to feeling its the guys role to ask them out or make the first move on them

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Maybe a wee mix of B and C

[Asker]

Yes, I can understand that. But would you feel like she's a crazy stalker and you're trapped in some psycho situation?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Hmm... not really. She could be or not.

[Asker]

Cool thanks a lot!!

[Dinosaursandanime65]

You’re welcome.

[EaterPeter]

I don't know how to receive gifts.

[Asker]

You generally take them in your hands. What do you mean?

[EaterPeter]

I am very picky and gifts makes me upset. I hardly used things received as gifts.

[EaterPeter]

And I can't be kind enough to tell gifter something like. Aww you got gift for me. That is very nice of you Thank you!

[Asker]

I see... Thanks for answering. A different perspective is helpful. Thanks!

[EaterPeter]

You're welcome!