Why do boys get quieter around girls they have a crush on?

[Anonymous]

Like when they’re in a group they get quieter or stop talking if she’s around

[FunkyMonkee]

He wants to talk to you but isn't sure how to start or what to say. He doesn't want to day the wrong thing and completely screw up his chances with you! Guys your age have very likely never had any experience with this sort of thing. It's the same with, pretty much everything. You start a new job and you fear you might screw up and get fired so, you're kinda scared to jump right in; you're just learning to drive so, you're overly conscious about it. Once you get the hang of this new thing, you have no problem with it and will work/drive like you're an old pro at it in no time!
If you know he likes you and you like him, why don't YOU start the conversation? Girls are MUCH LESS likely to be rejected by boys!!

[TheorionMage]

They're INTIMATELY aware that she's subconsciously 'judging' them against ALL her past / present suitors.
Unspoken words require NO apologies~ Her perceptions are THAT important to him.

NO relationship is ever TRULY 'equal'. There is ALWAYS "the Beloved" and the "Lover"
they whom care the least emotionally invested, STEERS the relationship.

Usually she whom OWNS her eggs, dictates the terms~

[wegotproblems]

Nervous: scared.


They probably don’t want you to know. But some act the opposite when they’re crushing on you. If you’re interested and he’s acting this way you should make a move to show that it’s alright.


From my person experience of crushes I was always scared to make a move until the other person made it clear that it was fine.

[SamFromFL]

This :)

[HiveBee]

This exactly! Well said.

And guys feel ashamed I think as well.

We think girls want us to be mr. Confident loud get your attention and woo you, seduce you, make you think we are cool and worthy of you.

And so we dont even bother. Cuz we know we aren't that special.

[Éhmîë]

Yeah I do wonder why too. 😜 But I think he's a bit nervous like not wanting to say anything that will hurt his crush or lose her. I may not be right though

[Maniwishiwashome]

Yeah I do this a lot when I’m around a girl I like, but I asked her out recently she said yes, we went on a date we’re going on our second date soon. I notice I’m often quiet when their is something I really like to say but won’t for risk of coming on to strong or exposing my feelings.

[OutWestBandit]

pretty girls = i want her
(better not screw this up)
What do I say? what should I say? how should I act? - all at once

if it was someone they didn't care about hooking up with - just everything as usual.

that trepidation means they are thinking through their actions and words

[Goodboy27]

Boys get quiet because they don’t want to be called weird or creepy by you because if they've been quiet for so long and then try to open up then your shocked or weirded out why they don’t know and it makes them feel bad just from my experience when I was a boy maybe because they’re going after the wrong girls!

[kellytheman]

We can get nervous and don't want to say something you disagree with or sound stupid that make them they eliminated a shot you like them or going out with them. I did that once and said her hair smells nice and she thought it was creepy and she said she would date me.

[HairyPoppins]

Because the more they say the more of the chance the girl won't like what is coming out of his mouth. They are not secure and confident in themselves to be who they are yet. They still care what others think of them including the girl in the group. What he doesn't realize is when you don't give a shit and just be yourself that is where the attraction starts.

[lightbulb27]

our brains shut down, the emotions take over and we lose verbal. It's sad reality because girls get confused and are so verbal. further explanation needs studyas to what chemicals take over the brain chemistry.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Someone you want to impress, has power over you. Basic self-preservation states that to talk like a fool in front of such, is to become a fool in earnest. Ergo, instinct says to shut up.

[averageguy4]

I don't, and i wish i did. I've had women clearly interested in me until I opened my stupid mouth. So the guys your referring to have probably learned from past mistakes. Good for them.

[razzmatazz21]

Not all "boys" are like that. It's hard for me to accept that there's any difference when I'm talking to a girl I'm attracted to. But I have shot myself in the foot many times, I don't get quiet I'm just a bumbling idiot.

[ThisAndThat]

He gets very nervous and timid shy around her. Going by my own experience from the time I was in elementary school, if she put butterflies in my stomach, pretty much the same no matter what age although it's not a factor anymore.

[ThisAndThat]

The above was suppose to say. He gets very nervous and timid shy around her. Going by my own experience from the time I was in elementary school, if she put butterflies in my stomach that's pretty powerful and pretty much the same no matter what age, although it's not a factor for me anymore since I'm not around anyone and pretty sure I'll never date or get married.

[FilmGuy93]

It's better to remain quiet and be thought a fool than open your mouth and remove all doubt.

[CrypticViper]

In my case I'm the type that has social anxiety to begin with then when someone knows I like them, I get nervous if I'm making the right impression/

[StunningANDbrave]

Because you're hanging out with a bunch of kids because you're a kid. When you get a little older guys will stop doing that.

[SamFromFL]

Because we freeze up afraid we will say something wrong

[BUNroaster]

Because if they react cutely I fumble everything I got. My game is no more and my pants might've been jizzed in

[BUNroaster]

I have always had odd bodily movements I prayed noone noticed. From eye twitching to walking into any and every chair around me. I'd always have said said something like just spot on perfect honestly like looking back I was like damn that was really well done humor. But it ruins me. I agree with many other on here that girls get this way a lot too. I notice it from them to me and other girls reacting from other guys. Which is also cute af but slightly more helpful in that I feel like we were more alike in that way.

[Havill4nd]

For me it's because I'm thinking about what I'm saying. If I don't I'm likely to say something stupid.

[InferiorElegy]

I get quieter because of bad experiences with females, not because I have a crush on them, I don't allow myself to have pointless things like crushes.

[KrakenAttackin]

We also get quieter around women we don't like and don't trust.

[Shy_Steve]

I don't know, We just get really scared for some reason.

[Kingofkings1992]

Not all boys are like that sweetheart. Some boys get nervous around a girl they like. The same can be said for girls.

[redskies]

Most of us have no idea what to say or trying not to embarrass ourselves

[JesseJayNeak]

To avoid saying something stupid. Cause it happened to me

[WhiteWolf69]

Nervousness and not wanting to say anything stupid to repel the women I have a crush on.

[sensible27]

They don't wanna do something wrong..

[matthonker]

Because we get nervous af

[pizzalovershouse]

Probably cuz they get nervous

[Wise4myage]

Shyness is one of the main factors.

[Iron_Man]

Because they’re extremely nervous

[COMMODOREII]

Because you girls cause us anxiety

[kitkills]

So we don't say something super fucking dumb

[2021biguy]

Maybe they are nervous.

[Weasel1983]

They are scared to talk to her

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

The same reason women do

[SaoirseS]

They seem to.

[anylolone]

Usually they don't.

[321fire]

boys are shy honey.