What type of flirting would you consider "harmless"?

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So i can be flirty on here i know. but i just wonder if when my flirtatiousness crosses a line with people. it seems to depend on the person where these boundaries are. I consider it harmless if its nonsexual in any way and there's no expectations from either party of anything more serious. This is what i do i flirt with no expectations from the other person. for funsies

Anyways, what to YOU is "harmless flirting"?

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

There seems to be a fine, not really well defined line between friendliness and flirting, and an equally blurry line between when flirting is harmless and when it isn't.

To give you a few examples of harmless flirting, there's a gentleman who comes in to go over his pre-need arrangement every 2-4 weeks. Not that it really needs updating, but it's more a reason for him to visit, have some social contact, get some free coffee and snack on whatever is laying around. He'll often open the conversation with "good morning gorgeous (or cutie, or girlie, or something cutesy)" and I'll respond with "hey there handsome." During the course of the conversation he might suggest something like "if you feel like going out and painting the town and maybe cutting some rug, all you need to do is give me a shout" (usually with a wink and a twinkle in his eye). I know it's harmless because he's 93 years old, walks very slowly with a cane, and needs help walking sometimes.

Sometimes the flirty counter-flirty fun, both know it's all fun, but those who overhear it may not think so. Like with one guy if I make a wisecrack, he'll often tell me that I "probably need a spanking." And I will say something like "be careful, you never know, I might like it." Or "you're all talk, actions speak louder than words." But between us we know it's all in jest.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Playful, if both parties know it's not serious. And stopping when a line is clearly crossed. For example I often get messages from guys who call me "babe" "baby" "sweetie" etc and I not only dislike those but find it disrespectful to call someone you are not in a relationship with those things. When I tell them politely not to I get the "I wasn't trying to offend you." "It's just a compliment".
(Yes I know person in question is probably reading this). Respect peoples boundaries, if someone asks you not to do something don't make up excuses as to why you did it in the first place, just stop doing it.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

A lot comes down to respect for people.

If you have respect when you talk to them, then when you flirt, you don’t hit on them.

you can’t don’t friendly flirting with a girl AND look at her tits.

Seen that so many times, a guy going ‘but I was just flirting’

tone, body language, words used,

flirting can easily be non sexual.

in a way, it’s a bit like nudity, it’s not sexual unless someone makes it.

one of the biggest issues, is a lot of people struggle socially as it is, they then try flirting and amplify their lack of social skills, it’s often like a high speed train crash.

when it’s online, it’s an accident waiting to happen.

timing, language, culture, slang, context, autocorrect fuck ups, basic miss understanding of a sentence, all play apart to make online flirting a recipe for disaster lol.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

As long as it is nonsexual, playful, and it doesn't imply anything serious.
For example - I was talking with a friend, we started joking about household habits and she said ''Your wife is really lucky, kinda makes me jealous'' that's friendly teasing and I find it harmless. If she said something of the likes ''I could really use to have you around my home... and my bed'' that would have been completely inappropriate.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

That's really hard to define.

I'm a flirt by nature, and most times I don't even know I'm "flirting" - my style of communication is I guess intimate? I make sustained eye contact, smile, joke, etc.

I'm cautious if I notice a ring or I know the guy is in a relationship, since I acknowledge that I don't know the boundaries the couple has. I'll be polite but firmly avoid joking. Making an insecure person's partner laugh is a sure way to get that person in hot water when they're in private.

I figure the best thing I can do is clarify if the person takes it the wrong way.

kmg9150 · Answer

Flirting = shows people your paying attention to interactions and good mood about it. Male female trans hetero bi straight married single dating. None of those should matter, I know Im not going walk around monotone, to the point dialogue, showing little emotion or interest towards people...

Flirt+intent= ?, depends on everyones situation. Id say it would be rude the boundary line Kept getting crossed after the 🚷 was made clear. Not everyone is always aware of the others status or how they digest behaviors of others..

Me "Hows your day going?"
Clerk"Good. Just pissed off cause I'm missing my kids birthday party."
Me "Well its better to be pissed off than pissed on."
Clerk "But what if your into that sorta thing?"
Me " Then cheer up!"
😂😂😂✌🏼✌🏼

Flirting yes or no?

Eelephant · Answer

I get what you mean by flirting for fun, but flirting with everyone you talk to even if you don't want for it to be reciprocated is a quick way to get scare them away lol. They might not realize your intentions or you might just overwhelmed them. Not everyone is ready to handle such an elite level of flirting gouda 😂😂😂

On_cloud_wine · Answer

Have you ever had a girl get upset because she interpreted as something more? Say it was fun and harmless to you but as time went on, she was like “I’m sure this is just him having me warm up to him (because he wants more)?

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

I think commenting on someone's physical beauty or general attractiveness is relatively harmless.

Not so direct as to be crude, but saying something like 'but you're so gorgeous, there would be plenty of guys interested if you gave them a chance, myself included. I apologize if that is too forward.'

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I don't really think flirting is considered bad if you use it in a nice and realistically more subtle way. I give you an example of nice flirting and really bad flirting.

"Hey girl you look really beautiful today." I don't think most girls wouldn't be upset with that flirting you know if they aren't shy or self conscious of course. But that is good and probably harmless flirting. Now here is the inappropriate flirting which I avoid doing if I were you.

"Hey bro, can I see your dick!" I don't know how some guys might take it some men love a brutality honest approach and would gladly show you their penis, while others would realistically find it distasteful. Also I don't recommend actually trying to grab someone private area in case you doesn't want to get punch in the face.

Basically flirting isn't exactly disrespectful or wrong but it the way you go after it and what the person certain response with flirting.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

You know me. I'll flirt but if I know someone doesn't understand it is playful and not serious, I won't do it.

loves2learn · Answer

I think playful banter is fine you just have to know your audience. No minors, take into account the kind of questions they ask. Everyone knows I don’t shy away from sex questions. Lol

ElizaPam · Answer

Smack him on the ass and say “hey boy you tryna fuck” since you’re female and he’s male he can’t do anything but comply or he’ll be made fun of and called gay.

scentoflavender · Answer

It's subjective. At least to me. A flirt from you would be ok. The same flirt to someone giving off creepy vibes wouldn't be

Explorer91 · Answer

Harmless flirting is just general talking and conversation with someone you find attractive. People seem to label it flirting when you show visible signs of being into the person, touching hair, smiling a lot, receiving their opinion well - but often we do this without even realising how obvious it is - I’d say this is harmless flirting - allowing yourself to be into someone but that’s all.

nolabels · Answer

Flirting, by definition, is for amusement, not to lead to anything serious.

I flirt mildly.

I'm married.

I do it to make others and myself feel good about ourselves.

I weigh each situation to be sure that the flirting is appropriate.

Anything beyond flirting for amusement is no longer flirting.
It then becomes seduction.
I don't engage in seduction with others than my wife.

TheorionMage · Answer

Letting the "object of your attraction" respectfully KNOW you find them alluring ~
At the minimum, its a fundamental 'compliment' and... should circumstances
change, you've planted a seed for taking a new direction.

That's how I 'merited' my present life's companion <3 ;)

Cherry234 · Answer

A little flirting is okay with me. Like guys saying I'm cute or pretty or texting me with emojis is fine. But if someone is trying to come on to me and I'm not interested then it becomes too much for me

Neko911 · Answer

I think it just depends on if both parties are okay with what flirting is taking place

LeoElias · Answer

How do you even flirt? That is my question lol whenever I try to flirt it feels forced and I never have anything witty to say. Sometimes the chick says something witty and I have zero comeback for it lol. Anyway basically what you said sounds good to me.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I basically agree with you. Harmless flirting can be fun if both people are cool with it.

DWornock · Answer

Girls up to age 12 and maybe a little older, flirt with me and other guys college-age and up to the age of their fathers all the time. They like our attention and we like it too. It is harmless because we are not going to do anything sexual. That would terrify them. I also flirt with much older women by saying little white lies that they like to hear. It is fun and they like my attention. We know it is not serious so It is harmless.

serious · Answer

Well I see flirting itself as cheap and inappropriate. Doesn't matter what type of flirting it maybe.

exitseven · Answer

The one that does not result in a sexual harassment suit.

red_knight · Answer

it seems to depend on the person where these boundaries are. I consider it harmless if its nonsexual in any way and there's no expectations from either party of anything more serious.

This is what i do i flirt with no expectations from the other person for funsies

What type of flirting would you consider "harmless"?

NathanDavis · Answer

I keep it very simple... I just flirt back, if they started it
I'm not a flirt per se, so I never or very rarely initiate that stuff myself
I never bothered to "learn" how to flirt either lmao, being myself works for me

SomethingSexy · Answer

Small compliments mainly, then it's down to individuals

electromagnetic · Answer

Goofy sorta flirting.  "Hey girl, you cute" sorta stuff. So long as they aren't trying to cop a feel.

wittymilf · Answer

I think all flirting is harmless as long as both parties are emotionally mature enough to know that flirting doesn’t mean you’re going to get laid.

menina · Answer

I think that as long as the other person is single, if he/she is comfortable with flirting and if it's respectful and without expectations is all fine.

Hope_Goat330 · Answer

I think playing with a guy's hair is harmless, maybe a few complements, as long as it doesn't escalate then its fine. Its how you react to the flirting is sometimes wrong.

chubbycrow · Answer

depends on th person in my opinion going into stuff like rape and all that is a big nono

Brianbrake · Answer

The only flirting that I consider harmless is the flirting between two single people

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Gentle teasing with no sexual innuendos or touching of any kind should generally be safe

JustinTimberlegs · Answer

How do I flirt I think I'm allergic (I'm seriously hopeless)

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Its harmless flirting if you're single. Or a woman, a girls gotta keep her option$ open 🤣🤣😂

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Yeah if there's no expectation it's just flirting, I think that's harmless. It's only when it's supposed to lead to something that it becomes more.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Flirting is never harmless in my opinion.

krin_m · Answer

Non-threatening and non-sexual, it is more like a friendly banter.

little_black_dress · Answer

I flirt A LOT. my boyfriend hates it at first when I would inadvertently flirt with other guys but now he doesn’t mind it

Massageman · Answer

I would be fairly lenient, but I'm sure there are whose who would believe that ANY flirting is a social faux pas.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

Just winking or smiling I'd say is harmless. Or light joking.

JosyJosy · Answer

I consider harmless flirting things that you can do with just friends too. Smiles, banter, ...

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe flirting without sexual reasons is harmless

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Like they have their hand extended towards me, but they are not sure if they can go through with it or not.

Manuel2 · Answer

All flirting is harmless on both parties leave it that way  But if one side wants to take it to next level. Trouble starts

OddBeMe · Answer

I think there always “sexual” tensions between people you’re potentially attracted to. Intent is all that matters. If you want to cheat you will.

Twalli · Answer

I don't care even if it is sexual as long as there's no expectation of meeting up from either party

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I consider it harmless to walk up and pinch a bitch's ass or squeeze her tit. Bitches tend to not hold the same opinion.

Lo2002 · Answer

You can flirt with someone you know not a stranger as long as it's not something sexual i think it's pretty much fine.

karaspara · Answer

Most flirting is harmless to me

Tania16 · Answer

Without any sexual activity it is good for timepass

Miah02 · Answer

Between 2 single people who enjoy it

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think it would only cross the line if you do it front of their partner.

slatyb · Answer

It's harmless if you don't raise false hopes.

jshm2 · Answer

The type done in a mirror

Hulk30 · Answer

none at all just to be safe

Wise4myage · Answer

Any sort of flirting that is non sexual in nature.

Clarke498 · Answer

None. What's the point?

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

All flirting is harmless.

Hanmakev · Answer

Pinching her butt or giving her wedgies

Slim57 · Answer

None

rienna888 · Answer

smiling

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