What makes a guy develop feelings for a girl?

[Anonymous]

What can a girl do?

[MrOracle]

There is nothing that's true of ALL guys, but I'll give you what I can about the majority of men, and this will help you with most of them.

In order for a guy to have feelings for you, he must first find you physically attractive. This doesn't mean you have to be a 10/10 or anything - most guys would be happy with a girl he considers a 5/10 - but for a sizable chunk of guys, you do have to be his type. Some guys only like tall or short girls. Some only like blondes, or brunettes. Some only like thick girls, and some only like skinny girls. Some only like certain ethnicities (and it's not necessarily the same as his). The point being: if for whatever reason you fall outside of a guy's type (or the types or range of types) that he is attracted to, there's not a lot you can do for THAT guy. This is why you shouldn't invest yourself in any guy until you know he's attracted to you as well (I give the same advice to men about women).

But let's say he finds you physically attractive - he's made it known to you in some way. By default, a man finding a woman physically attractive only means that he'd have sex with her - it doesn't mean that he has romantic feelings for her. Still, nearly no man is going to have romantic feelings for a woman he wouldn't sleep with, so wanting to bang her is a minimum requirement for a man developing feelings for a woman. For most men, feelings require some other things as well.

Again, this won't apply to every man, but it applies to most: most men are looking for a woman who is:

• friendly
• fit
• feminine
• cooperative
• submissive
• positive (as in: attitude)
• sweet
• appreciative (of the things he does for her)

And these are all within a woman's ability to become if she isn't these things already. Most men are turned off when women do masculine things or have a masculine attitude or energy. We're looking for a partner, not a competitor. Unfortunately, most women are taught to be the exact opposite of these things, by radical feminists or by society that's been heavily influenced by radical feminists for the last 60 years, so most women today are full of masculine energy and attitudes and goals, and most men simply aren't interested. But you'll notice the feminine women get snapped right up.

If you want to be alone, you can be however you like, but if you want to be with a man, you have to be attractive to men - you have to have things to offer than a man needs and appreciates and values and can't do or be himself. In a word: feminine. Feminine women get noticed by men, even if they're not the prettiest woman in the room. And the more natural they are (minimal makeup, no tattoos, no extraneous piercings, looking fresh and fit) the more they're going to be noticed.

[Joshua_blackmon]

its a bitch and a half , but its ultimately sleeping with him.. and one of 2 things will happen.. He will stay or he will leave., but in regards to that.. there are other ways. His hobbies are not the gate way to his heart.. AS screwed as it sounds. Charming... if you can be charming , the dudes suppose to be charming most of the time.. BUT women who are charming.. are the best.. not come off too strong.. but touch him , when you talk to him. if you got nothing to talk about , talk with your body. he may not be interested in what you got to say anyways.. men connect physically with women.. so don't make the mistake of creating a bunch of shit test topics. the first time I hear "I'm a feminist " I run for the hills and far away, because i'm not gonna be beholden to a sexist.. IT is sexist.. most men are dominate, if you aren't submissive.. then its gonna be hard for you to intrigue a man.. Submissive to the right man that is.. if you are a "strong" type of women.. well just remember.. if you like strong men.. you want them to be a wall to the world, but be soft at times with you. so if your a strong women you have to make an exception for him.. Contrary to what some women believe on the bullshitnet.. i mean internet.. MEN do not look for independent women , its only a perk. "well I don't need you" okay bye. sorry you don't need a man in your life.. fuck you too. is the way I feel about it. I do need a women in my life.. and IT has nothing to do with my God Damn independence.. because a man is not gonna sit around someone who thinks he's worth no value to her.. He wants a women who has value, but more importantly to reassure his own value. the wrong idea is thinking that if some men you were chasing treated you like shit, than a man who likes you will keep chasing you if you treat him like shit.. POLAR opposite hormones., will not happen.. unless he is a creep.
men and women of exploits can benefit society in immeasurable ways with products and skills, but this paradigm doesn't hold as well in relationships, Men with exploits benefit more than women with exploits, because while men like things and shit , and making things and shit.. a women who creates something cool to sell or owns a business has the same value to him sexually as a women who looks just as good as she does, and if she is also persuasive than the persuasive women gets more attention. just facts. you helped society , I thank you for that.. but it doesn't help me want to fuck you , and have kids. except unless it was because of intelligence.. and very rarely are men attracted to intelligence.. i like smart women.. not overpowered High IQ smart.. but it might be because I am a programmer. so the average intelligence for me isn't 100 , its higher. so the trope isn't that smart men , like smart girls, its that men in general like women who are in the average tier of intelligence and smart women or are still slightly less smart than him are attractive to him.. why Aye rand got cheated on.. she ultimately had to accept the fact that in order to be attractive, she had to play dumb (which is not happening) or find someone who was smarter than her.. its fucked like that.. and the reason is very simple. women for ages , with held sex from dozens of men.. so only a man cleaver enough could get in her , an thats also the next trope , smart dudes end up getting more wealthy than the average , which is a signal for some women who are attracted to resources. Ultimately.. if you want to attract him , men are , well 50% of of them, are pretty intelligent.. the more intelligent he is , the more easy you can be with your signals.. the more dense he is.. the more obvious you have to be.. which is a common complaint.. she's always running into stupid dudes. men are simple.. they love the women that attract them , and can set them off, they can kinda read them , and kindness never hurts. If he doesn't love you.. given months.. or a year, than he's just not into you.

[Anonymous]

I think it is best to be yourself so you get to be with someone that fits your personality, and show that you like and care about him.

[JosyJosy]

All you have to do is be yourself, a decent human being and talk and listen a Lot

[t-8900]

For me she needs to be genuinely sweet, welcoming, warm, heck even a bit timid can be fine. I'm not really totally Introverted or Extroverted. I kinda dance along the knife's edge between the two. But depending on the TYPE of extrovert she'll either really draw me in or scare me away. I dont like too much in your face energy when I'm getting to know you. I need to settle and ease into it with her first. If she starts to touch me, not sexually even but just use her hands where and as needed she can really draw me in. If I'm feeling sad or down and she puts her hand on my shoulder, sits next to me with a sweet and gentle voice I'll love it.

If she wants to sit or lay next to me and stay in close proximity and touch me, cuddle with the little spoon sometimes. I love big spoon too but really if I'm just laying down and she comes over to me that draws me in. Holding hands with locked fingers and eye contact. Is she willing to have deep and meaningful conversations? I remember one girl was with me holding hands and we sat on the roof of her car watching the sun rise was we talked. Things like this really work well for me but maybe not every guy is like this? I'm told I'm different in a good way... whatever that means in the end XD

[FTnWo]

Okay so looks are not as important as most think, at least not for me anyway because I been around a fale or two that I didn't consider very attractive but after hanging out and she was cool as fuck and she became more attractive, she gotta have a good personality.
A female that is kind, funny , preferably likes to smoke herb, laid back and chill, has some common sense and not dumb, a pretty smile, shares at least a couple of same interests, honesty is a big one , prefer a female that doesn't spend several hours a day on her phone talking to other guy friends, she can't be shallow and fake I prefer her to be the same person around everybody and just be herself, also a plus if she knows how to cook at least a few meals, a woman that isn't afraid to get dirty like outside in the dirt kind of dirty and dirty in the bedroom is also a plus lol, likes being outdoors in nature as that is what I love to do, caring, loving, not jealous of everthing and everybody, and just a good woman and not a loud mouthed druggie bad bitchand basically a woman that like she as much as I like her

[HellGeist]

You have good taste, man.

Yeah, I know what you mean about women becoming more attractive to you once you get to know them.

Attraction also skyrockets for me when I fall in love with a woman. Funny how that works.

When you truly love a woman, your favorite porn star could come onto you, and you'd still choose the woman you love over her.

I don't care how hot the porn star is, lol.

[FTnWo]

@HellGeist yes a woman seen through the eyes of love is the most beautiful woman in the world... for real bro

[crazy8000]

About the same thing's as female's.

Creating deep connection.
Trustworthiness.
Effort of the right kind.
Shows the right kind of interest and that you have feelings for im for the right reasons.
Go outside your ways to get him.
Trigger many different feelings.
Connection.
Be yourself.
If you shall play games or not depends on each person, a small group are into games majority aren't.
How you treat other's no matter how their importance are.
Bonding.
Showing vulnerability and that you aren't perfect.
Everything isn't about sex.
...

Here are some.

[ElvenMr]

I can say what made me rapidly develop feelings for this one girl...

Act like a girl, by that i mean be a little submissive, but not shy to not express yourself at all. Be open with him, talk to him. If he asks something, reply, don't ignore him. This shows you are interested. Talk to him about you.
In text use girly emojis, that show your feelings/emotions. Use sexual innuendoes with him both IRL and over text.
Be reciprocative of the jokes he makes. Be a little mischevious/naughty, if something comes to your mind, then tell it the guy. Tell him some fun things that happened to you, it can be whatever.
Some of these things won't work out too well tho, if he is bad at texting/talking to you and you somehow don't "click" and he is not replying to you in a useful way, same goes to you by the way, so one word answers for example are the worst.

[AviatorTom]

Guy's brain #1 and brain #2 get together and agree that she is nice, and that the guy should get to know her better.

For those who don't know...

Brain #1 is in the head... it deals with logic and emotion
Brain #2 is in the penis... it deals with sex and lust

[ZackBan]

I'll give you the answer most people are too nice to give
You have to work on your self image.
You have the privilege that we live in a society where men have to chase so you are not expected to even try but you have to give him a reason to chase.

It means taking care of your body as well as your sense of style and overall presentation once you catch his eye the rest will be on him

[ad_237]

Also, intellect and knowledge to keep the conversation going.

[normalice]

This is the equivalent question to "what makes a girl want to have random annonymous sex with a guy?" There is no answer or everyone would do it until it stopped working. Only thing to do is to increase your chances. And the only way to increase your odds that is in your control is through self improvement. Hit the gym. Become smart and accepting. Worry less. Stand up for yourself when appropriate. These are all things everyone can improve on.

[exitseven]

lots of things. Sometimes it is a pretty one-sided thing. The guy just feels like he wants to be in a relationship. Or maybe the girl checks a lot of boxes. Or maybe she has magic pheronomes. He just can't resist her. She creates some kind of chemical reaction in him and he just needs to have her on some kind of different level.

[genericname85]

if you're trying to make a guy like you, you're doing it wrong. if he doesn't naturally like you for how you naturally are, move on. don't waste your time being someone you aren't just to please someone and convince them to get with you. cause that will only go well short term if at all.

[Twalli]

Well he has to find her attractive for any of the following to work.
1) Be able to have the same interests
2) Make him laugh and laugh when he jokes
3) Be happy with him, and make him happy with you
4) Be willing to have sex in the way he wants
5) Do homemaking tasks such as dishes, making meals, or his laundry
6) If he wants to do something without you, let him
None of these will ensure a guy will develop feelings for you, but it will increase the likelihood a guy will.

[MJtheCoach]

Easiest answer is her happy upbeat bubbly attitude.
Men are are biologically wired to women who smile and laugh and Are easy-going.


Of course if she wants to get a higher standard better guy she needs to also be attractive young and fit.

[mobiusforniner]

I develop feelings when the girl makes herself vulnerable... I become someone she confides in, someone to protect and defend her. Her man. This creates an emotional bond which, naturally, means feelings are involved.

[sage2021]

What if she is an alpha female but only because she had to be. Not tough, but sticks up for what she believes in and says so. Sweet as pie though. Intelligent, street smart as well. Nice to everyone unless they mess with her first.

[mobiusforniner]

@sage2021 even an alpha female wants to feel loved. This happened to me and when i realized it, she almost seemed like she had a split personality

[sage2021]

Being alpha female when necessary could be brought on by having a childhood with an or both absent parents so there was no one to support. She had to be the responsible one. She had to learn to protect herself, fix things without any help, she had to cook, get the car fixed, and the list. She wasn't two different personalities. She was probably born very sweet and loving and giving. But she also had to survive everyday on her own. It's only when she does have a man in her life that can help do all of those things that she can relax and be what she was born to be.

[HighValue]

If she matches me morally and we share some common interests. Finding someone that matches morally and has an acceptable past is what makes it nearly impossible though.

[sage2021]

Would you please define what you mean by an acceptable past?

[HellGeist]

What type of morals? Like standard conservatism?

Have you tried dating women who go to Church regularly? A few of them might match up morally and have a past that isn't too bad, in terms of body count.

Probably depends on the church, though.

Maybe you could also try a Christian dating site, but there are probably a lot of single mothers on those.

[Jersey2]

When I feel we are compatible, easy to get along with, puts up with my shit, a supporter, good mother potential. Pretty much all the things feminazis tell you not to be. Don’t worry, the guy changes too but more slowly, a lot more slowly.

[MrCommodore]

Obviously being attractive helps, but any girl I ever really liked stoodout for being genuinely kind to people around her and reserved/modest, very attractive qualities.

[The_Maphio]

Sharing the same interests, being open about what she says, being honest, not being a burden but a support, great sex partner.

[HellGeist]

Honestly, they just have to be hot (to him), nice and genuinely interested in him. Other good qualities are a bonus. I don't think most men are that complicated.

[t-8900]

this changes a lot with a near death experience or a life changing event, believe me. at least in a certain context it does. She doesn't have to be "hot" to me. When I was 16 that might have been my thoughts lol. But nowhere near that way of thinking now

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 So you almost died and now you're willing to be with a woman you don't find physically attractive at all?

I guess that really opens up your dating pool, then.

[t-8900]

@HellGeist you said "hot". Hot is BEYOND just finding them attractive. They just have to be "aight" for me. A high 5 is enough if she brings personality and loyalty, yeah. When I think "hot" I'm thinking like high 8's to 10's which honestly tens done even exist.

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 I think we just have different conceptions on what constitutes "hot."

To me hot just means attractive. It doesn't have to be porn star level attractive. To me a 6 is hot enough. I myself feel like a 5 most of the time.

I think my on/off girlfriend is quite hot, even though she is on the chubby side, she is hot to me. I think she is very beautiful.

I agree with what you're saying about someone average being enough. I too would rather be with an average-looking girl over an 8,9 or 10 if she has the right qualities because you cannot put a price on loyalty and a kind soul/heart.

I think there ARE 10's, though. But even if I were rich and a 10 myself I wouldn't want a serious relationship with a 10, because I feel a woman who is a 10 would be really difficult to invest in long term because they have so many options, literally billions. They can have almost any man they want whenever they want, so you would always be in competition with every man on Earth and that would get exhausting.

But that's the thing about us men, we're not hypergamous, so we will usually gladly date "down," lol.

Sorry you nearly died. What happened?

[t-8900]

Nice I like what I just read. I would say that a 10 is literal perfection and I've never seen that in my life. I believe in personal 10's if you will. But beauty is so subjective and it appears my preferences in women is actually not the norm. I typically like tan, brown, and caramel skin best. I love Raven black hair too. Like REALLY love it. Even though I'm white though lol. Most white girls imho are just average and I love Latina women, Desi women, Persian women, Arab women, Ethiopian women so like I'm not normal in preference I guess haha. But I still like all races or women but those stand out ahead of the rest physically for me. I'd still date white girls obviously and in fact all my GFS have been. I almost died from a nut allergy. I'm deathly allergic and I realized I needed to get right with God but also realized what is and is not important in this world. Getting hung up on a girl's looks is not a priority lol.

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 I hear you man. You're a really good dude. Stay safe from now on!

I like all races of women, too. However like you all of my girlfriends have been white, which is ironic, since I'm obviously not, lol.

That isn't by design, though. They come to me, lmao.

For some reason I just never had much luck with black or latina girls even though I'm Dominican and dark-skinned.

I think Asian women are REALLY beautiful, but I just don't see many here in FL.

Brazilian women are gorgeous! Honestly some of the hottest women on the planet. They are a perfectly blended subset of people.

Eastern European women also drive me nuts, I would jump at that if I got the chance, lol.

I also love black women with curves.

If I weren't strictly monogomous, ideally I'd want to bang every race of woman on the planet, because reasons, lmao.

But really, heart and soul is where it is at.

I love traditional, maternal kind-hearted women. But honestly I'm not too picky in the end. All my ex's have been good people.

You cannot put a price on a kind, loyal woman. You really cannot.

Be well, friend.

[t-8900]

Thanks man. We're all men, we all got urges and fantasies. But not acting on them, thats what seperates us from well tbh... pigs. and I'm not trying to sound like an ass or something. But when you just do that stuff to do it and you have no feelings or emotions or anything and it's just for sheer hedonism and nothing more there's just something not right about all that to me. It doesn't sit well. I do like Romanian, Russian, Spanish, Italian, and Greek women too. Here in Maryland in my area it's basically all white and a little black. It is what it is but Latin women drive me up a wall and make my Italian blood boil with lust lol. I grew up are a lot of Mexican and Puerto Rican families in my early formative years. Good gravy are Dominican women gorgeous too!

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 Lmao. No offense taken. I was being piggish, lol. But I was also talking in theory.

I'm with you 100%. Even If I had the opportunity to have as much sex as a porn star, I've come to the same conclusion as you that it would really mess me up and cheapen sex and intimacy for me. It would be hollow, and I would become robotic and unable to form close relationships anymore with a woman. That's the exact OPPOSITE of what I want.

Women who have tons of casual sex diminish their ability to pair bond.

I hazard to guess it's not too great in the long run for men either, but men and women are built differently.

Still, that being said, I know myself enough to know that as a diehard romantic, I do not want to cheapen my sexuality. I sort of view it like economic inflation. The more you have lots of meaningless sex, the more meaningless connections you make.

I only feel comfortable having sex with women I love, and when I fall in love I fall HARD.

Some things are better left in fantasy. Or maybe VR in the near future. I dunno, lol.

Yes, Dominican women are very pretty! I'm disappointed that I've never been with my own kind, lmao. But hey. Who knows.

If it were up to me, I really would love for things to work out with my on/off girlfriend, but I suspect she might be at least somewhat Borderline so I don't know if that's possible or if it's even a healthy thing.

I want to be fully committed to her, but she's always bailing. I care about her, and want her to be happy, but it's a lot to take.

I want to be with her, but right now I'm not discounting other women if a connection arises at some point, but honestly I just want to be with her.

[t-8900]

Wow no wonder we click you sound a lot like myself lol. Men and women both have scientific limits to pair bonding. It's scary but women really lose that ability s lot after 4. The studies show their life long contentment just drops off crazy and the likelihood for infidelity and divorce has a 30-44% chance to increase once they exceed that number and if they've had more than 6 the numbers show they have only about a 15-20% chance to stay married. mens pair bonding caps at 8-10 women. Beyond that their marriage tends to fail in them 2/3 of the time with 11+ partners. Men seemed most happy in marriage with either 2 or less or 8 or less depending on their levels of promiscuity. Wen with 3 or less consistently were the happiest married.

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 I am not at all surprised to read any of that.

Correlates very well to the state of society and the recent marriage and divorce rates.

As I said to another man last night on here, I think one of the last dwindling ways to have a successful marriage these days is to either find a chaste, small-c conservative minded (preferably religious) traditional Western woman (can be very hard to find) or more likely live abroad in the developing world more or less, in certain parts of Africa, Eastern Europe, Latin America, Asia and so on.

But the influence of the West is slowly corrupting those places, too.

I think eventually marriage will really decline worldwide and stagnate given enough time.

Sad, but perhaps inevitable and necessary.

You're cool bro. Glad I met you. There are some really solid guys here, which I honestly really did not expect to find.

So many other parts of the internet are so... Censorious and an echo chamber of cancel culture and groupthink.

I think there are some elements of that here, but it's not nearly as bad as some spaces online, now.

[t-8900]

The USA is The Whore Of Babylon imho. That's why she's corrupting everything she touches

[ItsMeElliana]

@HellGeist so you'd only develop feelings for a girl, only if she's physically attractive first?

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 Oh, Absolutelty!

The USA, Saudi Arabia and Israel cause most of the problems, instability and violence across the world.

[HellGeist]

@ItsMeElliana Men are visual creatures.

But here is the simple part and the kicker: Men (at least men like me and @t-8900) only have to be around 60% attracted to a woman physically to want to be in a relationship with them, provided they are also decent people.

Then, love makes up for the "gap."

I think men on average are FAR less picky than women are about who we date long term.

[t-8900]

@HellGeist even maybe like 53% tbh. Just a slight tip for me. As long as she's got hygiene and either a nice body or face (doesn't have to have both actually) I can work around it. It's just to get a foot in the door. HOWEVER once and only ONCE have I fallen for a girl that i was not attracted to BUT that was like after knowing her and seeing her 4 days a week for 6 months. That's not likely to happen and develop in someone you just pass by on the street that you aren't that attracted to.

[ItsMeElliana]

this is why some women usually wear makeup to hide their insecurities, to look more beautiful to men. but not saying all women do that, some just do things for themselves, not for other men but like "other good qualities are a bonus" so to you if a girl is just physically attractive, but doesn't really have a good personality, is a slut, disrespects, doesn't respect her parents, etc etc, anything worse, I mean, honestly, its your life and I'm not gonna go tell you to not do all this, tbh, do whatever makes you happy. its what matters. But I'll be completely honest here. I'd rather know their goods, and bads first, and then if we do catch feelings, I'm gonna be automatically attracted to him, and find him cute in everything he does. and i kid you not. I'm telling this from my experience. also not saying hot guys are bad because they break hearts, or other guys are good they'll respect you, because no matter how the guy looks, if his intentions are wrong, he's instantly unattractive. not tryna say that the people who are bad, won't get love, they most probably will, if they both love each other, they'd care enough to not hurt the other ones feelings. love isn't about looks. its about your heart and theirs, joining wanting to become each others, caring for each other, not wanting anyone else (unless they wanna have an open relationship I don't know), because you know they're enough for you. you wouldn't need someone else, thats when you marry them, to have kids maybe, knowing your marriage life isn't gonna be completely happy, there will be hardships, but that love, if only its strong enough, it will fight for it. I dont know what I've just said, I'm just 17 but I do think hard like this, and just get super emotional over this kinda stuff, because I've experienced love. have hopes for future of it, still do. dont come at me, i was just telling you how i felt, but then again its just your opinion, you decide what you want so yeah, hope you have an amazing time.

[ItsMeElliana]

damn I literally had to cut out some lines because my reply was too long.. lmao got me all up in my feels

[ItsMeElliana]

@t-8900

[ItsMeElliana]

WTF im so sorry i didn't mean to mention you this frickin thing is messing with me I apologise

[t-8900]

@ItsMeElliana lol dont apologize its fine. I think you are reading it wrong in his intentions. There is some truth to it that guys care about looks. But make up became a trend because of women and now men are totally enamored with that style/look. Guys also work hard to attract women. I mean I'm hitting the weights 4-5 days a week. I'm giving up all the food I love mostly. Like ALL of it and am on a strict diet hoping I'll be more attractive for a girl tbh. I'm trying to be the best i can be for other reasons as far as personality/heart/soul because honestly? I simply couldnt live with myself if i was a bad person or hurting or using women. I'm a Christian and maybe that's mocked and laughed at in 2021. But you know what? I know that when I almost died my life changed, my perspective changed, and I feel like God *IS* real and I need to be a good person. I think people who show discipline are the strongest people. Also there is a science to "sluts" and I dont consider just women to fall into that category because I believe in equality. But the science shows that women who've had 4 or more sex partners before a first marriage are more likely to divorce and be the ones to initiate it. Where as its the same with men with over 7 sex partners. In other words I believe we as humans are meant to be monogamous and LOYAL. Otherwise we find only misery in life and the sad part is we take our children down with us if we do. I know I've been waiting for the right one. Someone I can give EVERYTHING to. My heart, soul, protection, honesty, loyalty, and best effort. So I follow the behaviors of a demisexual and maybe I am one. But it is what it is. Ultimately I go to bed at night knowing that the girl that ends up with me will NEVER have a better partner than me. I can say that with the utmost confidence because of who/what I am. Also I am willing to hear her our and make compromises for her when needed. I just dont want someone who cheats or disrespects me.

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 It's fantastic that you're a Christian. My faith is always fluctuating. But I pray to Christ.

I want SO badly for God to be real. I hope Christians are right.

Can you share something that strengthens your faith? What makes you believe in God?

[t-8900]

the near death experiences, the fact I've heard things when I was a child, also watch some of the Russian Orthodox stuff man. Omg those guys have so much resolve its inspiring! Also love the Eastern Orthodox too. The ones coming out of Georgia and Armenia are also truly inspiring.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LtAexVHRVBA&t=3s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ClGKmklPHns

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PkDVw080-k0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AdPiRWIam0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0CJxM3hm58

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xaj8QSJZ0E&t=871s

[HellGeist]

@t-8900 Thank you man. I'll check that stuff out soon.

What did you experience during your NDE? If you're comfortable talking about it.

[t-8900]

@HellGeist it was honestly a feel straight to the soul. I didn't see or hear anything special. But I had been in a relationship with someone who wasn't really... following the scriptures and we were on a dark path together. I felt my soul was in jeopardy so I eventually broke it off. I loved her, I really, really loved her. But she and i were on different paths and it completely diverged that night. I needed a girl with more self discipline and dedication to God. It was ironic because she wanted me in church every Sunday but I was living to the scriptures far more than she was. that said she had taken some great strides after the break up to improve herself. I don't know where she is mentally and spiritually atm but we talk on and off. We last talked 3 days ago but only like 4 messages back and forth. Its the holidays too and she went to Hawaii to be with her family. So I mean it's just one of those things. We'll see but God won't lead me wrong.

[ItsMeElliana]

and by the way the huge essay that i just wrote above, was for @HellGeist , not you t-8900

[t-8900]

@ItsMeElliana I understand. I just hope my perspective gave clarity or helped in some small way is all. Best wishes to you! ^^

[HellGeist]

@ItsMeElliana I appreciate your well-thought-out reply.

I largely agree with what you wrote, especially about love being about the HEART over looks

Have you read all my comments in this thread? I made it clear that I am not all that picky when it comes to looks, and that as long as the bare minimum threshold of attractiveness is reached to me, I can easily fall in love with a woman and I fall HARD, as I said earlier.

I treat women I'm with as though they were my wife. I become fully invested, but I think that is often a flaw of mine because it leads me personally towards co-dependence and I am trying to learn to detach to protect my psyche and health.

That being said, my ex's are largely good people and I wish them ALL the best.

If you scroll through my replies above, you will see that I put a lot of emphasis on a woman's heart and soul.

Any woman I'm with needs to be a small light in this dark world, ideally. Although I do not expect them to be this holy or divinely in-tune being. But some spirituality and maternal qualities are highly appreciated.

I tend to date older women. I find that I click better with them as opposed to women who are my exact age or younger.

Also, I wrote earlier here that I usually consider myself a 5/10 in terms of sexual market value.

I would love to date an average-looking woman I click with of my similar SMV.

I wrote that even if I were 10/10 and wealthy, I would not really want to date longterm anyone above an 8/10. I explained why in an earlier post.

You cannot put in price on loyalty. A loyal, loving girlfriend or SO are worth their weight in gold

Eh, I'm kind of rambling. Didn't sleep at all last night and had intense nightmares the night before.

You sound like a really sweet girl. I wish you the best!

[slatyb]

It's different for every guy. If you are emotionally healthy and have a life, you will meet a guy who thinks you are it.

[pass_the_celery98]

In this social media, superficial age we live in. Be genuine, be authentic, smile. I think those are important traits to have when a guy develops feelings for a girl. Because there are many guys/girls, men/women who act the same way in society.

[boggboss]

Has to be some level of intrest in the first place then basic stuff being attentive showing feelings talking pretty simple stuff