What makes a guy develop feelings for a girl?

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What can a girl do?

Joshua_blackmon · Accepted Answer

its a bitch and a half , but its ultimately sleeping with him.. and one of 2 things will happen.. He will stay or he will leave., but in regards to that.. there are other ways. His hobbies are not the gate way to his heart.. AS screwed as it sounds. Charming... if you can be charming , the dudes suppose to be charming most of the time.. BUT women who are charming.. are the best.. not come off too strong.. but touch him , when you talk to him. if you got nothing to talk about , talk with your body. he may not be interested in what you got to say anyways.. men connect physically with women.. so don't make the mistake of creating a bunch of shit test topics. the first time I hear "I'm a feminist " I run for the hills and far away, because i'm not gonna be beholden to a sexist.. IT is sexist.. most men are dominate, if you aren't submissive.. then its gonna be hard for you to intrigue a man.. Submissive to the right man that is.. if you are a "strong" type of women.. well just remember.. if you like strong men.. you want them to be a wall to the world, but be soft at times with you. so if your a strong women you have to make an exception for him.. Contrary to what some women believe on the bullshitnet.. i mean internet.. MEN do not look for independent women , its only a perk. "well I don't need you" okay bye. sorry you don't need a man in your life.. fuck you too. is the way I feel about it. I do need a women in my life.. and IT has nothing to do with my God Damn independence.. because a man is not gonna sit around someone who thinks he's worth no value to her.. He wants a women who has value, but more importantly to reassure his own value. the wrong idea is thinking that if some men you were chasing treated you like shit, than a man who likes you will keep chasing you if you treat him like shit.. POLAR opposite hormones., will not happen.. unless he is a creep.
men and women of exploits can benefit society in immeasurable ways with products and skills, but this paradigm doesn't hold as well in relationships, Men with exploits benefit more than women with exploits, because while men like things and shit , and making things and shit.. a women who creates something cool to sell or owns a business has the same value to him sexually as a women who looks just as good as she does, and if she is also persuasive than the persuasive women gets more attention. just facts. you helped society , I thank you for that.. but it doesn't help me want to fuck you , and have kids. except unless it was because of intelligence.. and very rarely are men attracted to intelligence.. i like smart women.. not overpowered High IQ smart.. but it might be because I am a programmer. so the average intelligence for me isn't 100 , its higher. so the trope isn't that smart men , like smart girls, its that men in general like women who are in the average tier of intelligence and smart women or are still slightly less smart than him are attractive to him.. why Aye rand got cheated on.. she ultimately had to accept the fact that in order to be attractive, she had to play dumb (which is not happening) or find someone who was smarter than her.. its fucked like that.. and the reason is very simple. women for ages , with held sex from dozens of men.. so only a man cleaver enough could get in her , an thats also the next trope , smart dudes end up getting more wealthy than the average , which is a signal for some women who are attracted to resources. Ultimately.. if you want to attract him , men are , well 50% of of them, are pretty intelligent.. the more intelligent he is , the more easy you can be with your signals.. the more dense he is.. the more obvious you have to be.. which is a common complaint.. she's always running into stupid dudes. men are simple.. they love the women that attract them , and can set them off, they can kinda read them , and kindness never hurts. If he doesn't love you.. given months.. or a year, than he's just not into you.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

There is nothing that's true of ALL guys, but I'll give you what I can about the majority of men, and this will help you with most of them.

In order for a guy to have feelings for you, he must first find you physically attractive. This doesn't mean you have to be a 10/10 or anything - most guys would be happy with a girl he considers a 5/10 - but for a sizable chunk of guys, you do have to be his type. Some guys only like tall or short girls. Some only like blondes, or brunettes. Some only like thick girls, and some only like skinny girls. Some only like certain ethnicities (and it's not necessarily the same as his). The point being: if for whatever reason you fall outside of a guy's type (or the types or range of types) that he is attracted to, there's not a lot you can do for THAT guy. This is why you shouldn't invest yourself in any guy until you know he's attracted to you as well (I give the same advice to men about women).

But let's say he finds you physically attractive - he's made it known to you in some way. By default, a man finding a woman physically attractive only means that he'd have sex with her - it doesn't mean that he has romantic feelings for her. Still, nearly no man is going to have romantic feelings for a woman he wouldn't sleep with, so wanting to bang her is a minimum requirement for a man developing feelings for a woman. For most men, feelings require some other things as well.

Again, this won't apply to every man, but it applies to most: most men are looking for a woman who is:

friendly
fit
feminine
cooperative
submissive
positive (as in: attitude)
sweet
appreciative (of the things he does for her)

And these are all within a woman's ability to become if she isn't these things already. Most men are turned off when women do masculine things or have a masculine attitude or energy. We're looking for a partner, not a competitor. Unfortunately, most women are taught to be the exact opposite of these things, by radical feminists or by society that's been heavily influenced by radical feminists for the last 60 years, so most women today are full of masculine energy and attitudes and goals, and most men simply aren't interested. But you'll notice the feminine women get snapped right up.

If you want to be alone, you can be however you like, but if you want to be with a man, you have to be attractive to men - you have to have things to offer than a man needs and appreciates and values and can't do or be himself. In a word: feminine. Feminine women get noticed by men, even if they're not the prettiest woman in the room. And the more natural they are (minimal makeup, no tattoos, no extraneous piercings, looking fresh and fit) the more they're going to be noticed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it is best to be yourself so you get to be with someone that fits your personality, and show that you like and care about him.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

All you have to do is be yourself, a decent human being and talk and listen a Lot

t-8900 · Answer

For me she needs to be genuinely sweet, welcoming, warm, heck even a bit timid can be fine. I'm not really totally Introverted or Extroverted. I kinda dance along the knife's edge between the two. But depending on the TYPE of extrovert she'll either really draw me in or scare me away. I dont like too much in your face energy when I'm getting to know you. I need to settle and ease into it with her first. If she starts to touch me, not sexually even but just use her hands where and as needed she can really draw me in. If I'm feeling sad or down and she puts her hand on my shoulder, sits next to me with a sweet and gentle voice I'll love it.

If she wants to sit or lay next to me and stay in close proximity and touch me, cuddle with the little spoon sometimes. I love big spoon too but really if I'm just laying down and she comes over to me that draws me in. Holding hands with locked fingers and eye contact. Is she willing to have deep and meaningful conversations? I remember one girl was with me holding hands and we sat on the roof of her car watching the sun rise was we talked. Things like this really work well for me but maybe not every guy is like this? I'm told I'm different in a good way... whatever that means in the end XD

FTnWo · Answer

Okay so looks are not as important as most think, at least not for me anyway because I been around a fale or two that I didn't consider very attractive but after hanging out and she was cool as fuck and she became more attractive, she gotta have a good personality.
A female that is kind, funny , preferably likes to smoke herb, laid back and chill, has some common sense and not dumb, a pretty smile, shares at least a couple of same interests, honesty is a big one , prefer a female that doesn't spend several hours a day on her phone talking to other guy friends, she can't be shallow and fake I prefer her to be the same person around everybody and just be herself, also a plus if she knows how to cook at least a few meals, a woman that isn't afraid to get dirty like outside in the dirt kind of dirty and dirty in the bedroom is also a plus lol, likes being outdoors in nature as that is what I love to do, caring, loving, not jealous of everthing and everybody, and just a good woman and not a loud mouthed druggie bad bitchand basically a woman that like she as much as I like her

crazy8000 · Answer

About the same thing's as female's.

Creating deep connection.
Trustworthiness.
Effort of the right kind.
Shows the right kind of interest and that you have feelings for im for the right reasons.
Go outside your ways to get him.
Trigger many different feelings.
Connection.
Be yourself.
If you shall play games or not depends on each person, a small group are into games majority aren't.
How you treat other's no matter how their importance are.
Bonding.
Showing vulnerability and that you aren't perfect.
Everything isn't about sex.
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Here are some.

ElvenMr · Answer

I can say what made me rapidly develop feelings for this one girl...

Act like a girl, by that i mean be a little submissive, but not shy to not express yourself at all. Be open with him, talk to him. If he asks something, reply, don't ignore him. This shows you are interested. Talk to him about you.
In text use girly emojis, that show your feelings/emotions. Use sexual innuendoes with him both IRL and over text.
Be reciprocative of the jokes he makes. Be a little mischevious/naughty, if something comes to your mind, then tell it the guy. Tell him some fun things that happened to you, it can be whatever.
Some of these things won't work out too well tho, if he is bad at texting/talking to you and you somehow don't "click" and he is not replying to you in a useful way, same goes to you by the way, so one word answers for example are the worst.

AviatorTom · Answer

Guy's brain #1 and brain #2 get together and agree that she is nice, and that the guy should get to know her better.

For those who don't know...

Brain #1 is in the head... it deals with logic and emotion
Brain #2 is in the penis... it deals with sex and lust

ZackBan · Answer

I'll give you the answer most people are too nice to give
You have to work on your self image.
You have the privilege that we live in a society where men have to chase so you are not expected to even try but you have to give him a reason to chase.

It means taking care of your body as well as your sense of style and overall presentation once you catch his eye the rest will be on him

normalice · Answer

This is the equivalent question to "what makes a girl want to have random annonymous sex with a guy?" There is no answer or everyone would do it until it stopped working. Only thing to do is to increase your chances. And the only way to increase your odds that is in your control is through self improvement. Hit the gym. Become smart and accepting. Worry less. Stand up for yourself when appropriate. These are all things everyone can improve on.

exitseven · Answer

lots of things. Sometimes it is a pretty one-sided thing. The guy just feels like he wants to be in a relationship. Or maybe the girl checks a lot of boxes. Or maybe she has magic pheronomes. He just can't resist her. She creates some kind of chemical reaction in him and he just needs to have her on some kind of different level.

genericname85 · Answer

if you're trying to make a guy like you, you're doing it wrong. if he doesn't naturally like you for how you naturally are, move on. don't waste your time being someone you aren't just to please someone and convince them to get with you. cause that will only go well short term if at all.

Twalli · Answer

Well he has to find her attractive for any of the following to work.
1) Be able to have the same interests
2) Make him laugh and laugh when he jokes
3) Be happy with him, and make him happy with you
4) Be willing to have sex in the way he wants
5) Do homemaking tasks such as dishes, making meals, or his laundry
6) If he wants to do something without you, let him
None of these will ensure a guy will develop feelings for you, but it will increase the likelihood a guy will.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Easiest answer is her happy upbeat bubbly attitude.
Men are are biologically wired to women who smile and laugh and Are easy-going.

Of course if she wants to get a higher standard better guy she needs to also be attractive young and fit.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I develop feelings when the girl makes herself vulnerable... I become someone she confides in, someone to protect and defend her. Her man. This creates an emotional bond which, naturally, means feelings are involved.

HighValue · Answer

If she matches me morally and we share some common interests. Finding someone that matches morally and has an acceptable past is what makes it nearly impossible though.

Jersey2 · Answer

When I feel we are compatible, easy to get along with, puts up with my shit, a supporter, good mother potential. Pretty much all the things feminazis tell you not to be. Don’t worry, the guy changes too but more slowly, a lot more slowly.

MrCommodore · Answer

Obviously being attractive helps, but any girl I ever really liked stoodout for being genuinely kind to people around her and reserved/modest, very attractive qualities.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

In this social media, superficial age we live in. Be genuine, be authentic, smile. I think those are important traits to have when a guy develops feelings for a girl. Because there are many guys/girls, men/women who act the same way in society.

The_Maphio · Answer

Sharing the same interests, being open about what she says, being honest, not being a burden but a support, great sex partner.

HellGeist · Answer

Honestly, they just have to be hot (to him), nice and genuinely interested in him. Other good qualities are a bonus. I don't think most men are that complicated.

boggboss · Answer

Has to be some level of intrest in the first place then basic stuff being attentive showing feelings talking pretty simple stuff

slatyb · Answer

It's different for every guy. If you are emotionally healthy and have a life, you will meet a guy who thinks you are it.

randomize8 · Answer

You know, one of the easiest things for me to fall for a girl is a smile that is part sincere, part mischievous, part sexy; and the right amount of physical contact in the right places and settings.

gangster123 · Answer

Depends on individual to individual.. I like someone who loves me a lot more than anything or anyone else.

bean2k21 · Answer

Feelings? Are those those things the dentist puts in your mouth?

Clarke498 · Answer

Just feel head over heels over a girl now. Aside for being the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, I also find her to be incredibly supportive and kind.

Brendan824 · Answer

Spending time together should work if there is a connection genuine complements are nice especially for guys as we don't get much it also shows that your interested as guys don't usually get them

Anonymous · Answer

Men do not have feelings, they just have their dick. It gives some opinions to them. Their brain and heart are out of order.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

A pretty face, a sweet personality, nice hair, a great body,, the usual stuff.

TallAnon · Answer

"A guy" is way too broad. There's billions of us and we're all unique.

f_ckjoebiden · Answer

You cook and clean and do everything in between, that works every time.

House89 · Answer

1st attraction  2nd sex 3rd personality  4th compatability with ways of life.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

no such thing as "just friends" I GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT that's all i can say

Better_off_here · Answer

being a man it won't take much for me to like her, as long as she is funny, nice and kind, and attractive.

noohair · Answer

With me, it is sort of instant, there or not there.

Anonymous · Answer

Be very sexy yet sweet, caring and have a loving voice. Give him a lot of eye contact. If you like the guy make sure you seem interested in what he says

ohshee · Answer

She has to be herself

Toldol2 · Answer

His emotional availability and personal timing

invalid1 · Answer

Like when he sees her compassion. her very core

ODC2112 · Answer

Dopamine, ossitocine basically.

Hulk30 · Answer

nothin and good looks

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Chemistry

Anonymous · Answer

Mainly boobs and vagina

MrJMM · Answer

Emotions.

Grubhub · Answer

Bonding

Anonymous · Answer

Masculity hormones

JohntheUnk · Answer

Character

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