Why is it when romantic movies always have the guy pursuing the woman but she don't like him at first until later in the movie?

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I feel like people want to see the guy chase the girl in movies to see if he will have her in the end.

If they ever make a movie about a woman liking a man but he wasn't interested at first, so after she was pursuing him he starts to gain an attraction and they become an item, would the audience like that film, would you watch it?

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I have kind of a theory about how rom-coms lead to stalker-ish behavior from dudes, haha. In real life, if the chick isn’t into you pretty much from the rip, you gotta move on and leave her alone. These movies promote this idea that “if she just got to know me, then she’d see what a great guy I am, even if she’s clearly out of my league!”, and as a result, I feel like some men have this mentality of “with some time and persistence, I can show her all my great qualities, and she’ll fall for me!” But I think in reality, most women are like “uhhh…I told this guy ‘no’ already, why is he still harassing me?” It’s all gotta come organically. “This guy doesn’t necessarily fit my physical profile, but I know he’s a great dude, and that attracts me to him.” There’s a difference between that and “Hi, ma’am, are you physically attracted to me? No? That’s cool, but don’t go anywhere, I still want to try to sell you on my personality!” Not saying there’s ZERO chance, but you gotta take that road REAL slow, and it’s something that just has to come to her, you can’t forcefully influence it.

Anyway, personal rants aside…you could probably make that movie. Might’ve even been done already, by someone, and it just hasn’t gotten recognition. I guess maybe something like a “She’s All That”, lmao, except maybe don’t take a clearly attractive girl and just throw her in unflattering glasses and baggy overalls to disguise her😂 But yeah, reversal of an old Hollywood trope could sell, if done correctly.

MuddyMole · Accepted Answer

Do they though?
Usually they both hate each other to begin with.
Or the central guy/girl is pursuing the hot girl/guy for most of the movie, but then at the end realizes they were in love with the nice girl/guy best friend all along.
Or they both like each other from the start, and it's just other obstacles that keep getting in the way.
It's pretty rare to just have a straight up guy-pursues-girl movie.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it’s the same. Maybe it’s a societal thing, maybe it’s wrong, but if the movie was about a woman going after a guy who wasn’t interested, she would seem desperate and sad! It CAN be done in television, having a female character interested in a guy who doesn’t even know she exists, but again it’s usually a situation where the woman grows emotionally and learns to respect herself, and she invariably gives up any hope of being with that guy. Well, either that or the guy does something that SHOWS her how much of an a-hole he is, and she looses interest. It may not be right, it’s DEF not realistic, but that’s entertainment today “we need to tell them what they want”! The American entertainment industry is just awful, and hasn’t had an original idea in a very long time! Just my opinion.

TwinkleLily5 · Accepted Answer

I love this movie lol

Babygirl_S · Answer

I think it would seem more hurtful since girls are more sensitive and emotional. The character would have to be a very strong person to keep chasing because as a woman I would never if a guy is not interested at all. Men are more resilient when it comes to rejection. Such a movie would be too painful to watch especially if it doesn't end well for her.

Anonymous · Answer

Dude--that's just how attraction works between men and women. It's possible for a dude to "win a girl over." Guys don't get more attracted to women the harder they try. If you wanted to have a movie that worked the other way, all you'd see is the girl working out and getting hotter to win the guy over. Not the best movie in the world.

peterpete10205 · Answer

Because most women are heteroromantic bisexual.
Most women are emotionally attracted to men and that's why they prefer dating men but they want the men to pursue them. But they are also sexually attracted to the female body and that's why most women like watching lesbian porn and looking at naked women.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Sounds like "10 Things I Hate About You". How many movies have you seen where the guy didn't get the girl?

horatiohornblower · Answer

Lots of old movies from the 30's through 50's have the woman trying to win the man over. One of the best is, "Bringing Up Baby" (1938).

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Because mostly women watch it and it fulfills their fantasy. The same reason why porn is more focused on its male audience

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Because how else would they make a movie last for 1 hour and 53 minutes?

Vegasrunner · Answer

It wouldn't be much of a movie w/out the drama. Hollywood movies are usually written by nerds who never got laid in H. S and are trying to capitalize off womans emotional fairytales

Slartybartfast · Answer

Target audience, they are giving women what they want to see even if it's absurd and unrealistic.

AviatorTom · Answer

That's a classic plot line that's been around for centuries.

anylolone · Answer

Because movies are mostly made for women and women want to be pursued by a desirable guy and to virtue signal that they have better sexual market value.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Some men have this retarded fantasy of convincing a woman to like them.

Anonymous · Answer

Itll seem desperate... I dont think I'd be interested in a film like that

jasco · Answer

It's just a stereotype that a lot of people like. It doesn't work in real life most of the time

Anonymous · Answer

stereotypical stupid scenarios. what were you waiting? 😄🤷🏾‍♀️

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Firstly, romance movies suck. Secondly, that would suck.

Anonymous · Answer

No one would watch it because that's not what they see in life. It's unrealistic.

Anonymous · Answer

There are many chick flicks where she is the one going after the guy.

Киттйлинк · Answer

There’s many movies like that I think

robocop666 · Answer

dont watch this garbage its unhealthy

Why is it when romantic movies always have the guy pursuing the woman but she don't like him at first until later in the movie?

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