If your crush described their type and it was the complete opposite of you, would you still shoot your shot?

[DizzyDesii]

Lol the moment I hear their type and im nothing like it, i fall back. I dont have time to waste. And i haaaate when they’re like “my type could change.” Yea well it didn't. Bye 🤣 Just know, y'all be setting y'all self up listing y'all types 😂 I list my type because its often what I want at the end of the day. Sure i could try to date someone whos the opposite but i’d be wasting his mf time cause he is not what I want in the long run. So its best to just let em know ahead of time, you’re not what I prefer to go for and end it at that.
#FeelFreeToList #ThatsMyType

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+1 y

Im not just referring to personality type. Im talking physical type like you may be a totally different height, race, hair color, body type, etc. Like nahh I’d move on

[NathanDavis]

of course I would.. why? because many times, someone's type is just actually a preference but NOT a must have and also... many people do have a type but they are not closed to other types, they also find other types quite attractive but is just not their "top preference" and then, a lot of people do care more about other things and not JUST your physical appearance

and the best proof I got about this was my relationships...

my first girlfriend "had a type" she liked someone that was more of an extrovert, and also someone more "artsy" as well as someone that is more lean, or slender and she also liked them good looking, handsome... really attractive and this wasn't me at all, I was more reserved, I was a lot less into the arts and expression and being the center of attention and I am not a slim person either, yet... we fell for each other and lasted years

my second girlfriend also kind of "had a type" and that type was, muscular... muscular and really built, like the Vin Diesel type or, she also really liked someone really really handsome, and although she really liked these kind of guys, for her it was just a preference but not a priority she actually went out with other "types" of dudes, including me, I am not that kind of gym massive muscle mass... I'm just athletic because of sports and well, my natural size and built... and, we also fell for each other and lasted years

then my third girlfriend, she really liked one type of guy and that was the "surfer type" lol, and I say that because he exes were all surfers, and looked similar, and that was blond guys, light eyes, slim or slender and you know... all those vibes, I'm not like that one bit and well, still happened that we fell for each other and lasted years

my fourth and last girlfriend, same story... she was into this very "masculine" type, she REALLY likes a guy with a beard, shorter hair... and the muscular working type, her preferences were more into fantasy territories, very idealized but also... it was not her priority, we still ended up together for years because for her, and for all other of my exes and many people that I know, including myself... personality is much more important

and there were a couple more women and girls that I met but we did not end together for, reasons... and they even said it clearly... "you're not exactly my type but... I really like you" and they did, we did give it a try and it worked well for what it was, which is giving it a chance

in short, lol... if we had not "shoot our shot" with each other, I would have missed out on the 14 FULL years (more or less) and the absolute best and most extraordinary years of my life, which was next to them

[DizzyDesii]

That part makes sense. But i usually make it known whats a must have vs preference for me after i say it lol. Plus when i say “my type” im usually referring to looks not must haves. The personality is often where musthaves come in for me.

[De_La_BakedBeans]

Hell yeah. Take myself for example, an introvert who hates having company over, isn't outgoing in the least bit, and is super hard to try and be friends with. Only two people have actually be successful at it, one of them being my girlfriend. I shot my shot with my girlfriend, who is super extroverted and outgoing and loves being around a whole bunch of people and going to crazy parties. Complete opposite. Yet, here I am, 7 years later, happy as could be.

[DizzyDesii]

Well im glad to hear that lol

[Lliam]

If someone told me their "type" and I wasn't a fit, I wouldn't waste any more time. I've gone on plenty of dates and realized that we just didn't fit.

I will say this, though. I learned not to be too rigid about my "type". Yeah, some things are non starters. But sticking to one's imagined ideal is extremely limiting. I've seen plenty of questions asking "describe your perfect woman", for example. You wind up describing you ideal. But, in reality, there is no ideal. So, I'm open minded when it comes to people. Sometimes a person who is different can turn out to be surprisingly amazing. They can open your eyes to new possibilities.

I had one particular girlfriend who truly did match my ideal. We virtually lived together for over a year. I loved her with my heart and soul and she loved me. I couldn't have been happier. But, alas, spending the rest of our lives together wasn't meant to be.

Later, I met my future wife through a pre-computerized dating service. I dated a few women through that service. Some of them definitely did match my physical ideals. But we didn't click. When I first met my future wife at a restaurant, I have to say that her appearance didn't fit the ideal that I had in my imagination. She was cute and pretty but was taller, had different colored eyes and different hair, and dressed differently than my mental ideal. Even aspects of her personality were different from what I preferred. But somehow we clicked. She was super sweet and our conversations flowed more effortlessly than with anyone I had ever met.

The two of us are very different in some ways. But we've learned a great deal from each other. I'll say, of course, that we have similar basic values.

[DizzyDesii]

I've met plenty of my ideal physical type and plenty of my ideal personality type. But whats rare is finding someone who has both and is not taken lol

[God_of_Thunder]

I'd still go for it, but maybe not as strongly.

I've fallen for girls that weren't my type before, so I do know that it is at least possible, so I wouldn't just peace out. I'd maintain the friendship, or whatever we have, and just sort of see if things evolve naturally from there.

I may not be as... driven about it as I was, prior to learning that I wasn't their type, but I wouldn't just abandon the idea, either. If everyone was sitting around waiting for their type to appear, while at the same time hoping that they were their type, then there would be a lot more lonely people in the world.

Besides, it's kinda like a certain food that you've never been willing to try before. Once you do, you realize you love it, and you've been missing out. We all have preferences, when it comes to dating, but until you've dated every genetic combination out there, how do you really know what your type is? Maybe you can learn something new about yourself, if you take the chance?

[DizzyDesii]

I know WHATS NOT my type just by looking at it or hearing what they’re into lol. I dont need to date them to know. And I've never been a “try something new kinda girl”. Im quite routine and set in my ways lol

[God_of_Thunder]

Hahs, fair enough. Maybe that's just how I justify being too much of a pussy to give up. 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Lol no its brave to still give it a go. But its crazy if she says NO and you’re like “girl let me change your mind.” I've seen crazies who go that far 😂

[God_of_Thunder]

Oh, well if they just straight up say "no," then fuck 'em, lol.

[DizzyDesii]

Now a days, rejection doesn't phase me as much cause its like... welp Too many fish in the sea to be the only one i seeee. But when im taken, im like, what fish? *looks at the dude* Baby you’re shrimp, lobster, crab, salmon, the whole she-bang. I be sprung 😍😭🤣😂

[Rab1901]

I think most people would fall back including myself if it seems like there are no exceptions but I know that many people envision that they want a certain kind of person yet one person can completely make you feel unexpectedly different about a situation. Think about Beauty and the Beast. I know it's Disney and this is an extreme example but people can really surprise you and be surprised. If I thought there was no chance, I'd probably lose interest so that's easy for me but otherwise, I'd at least try.

[DizzyDesii]

Makes sense

[RobT312]

I think everyone has an ideal type but they don’t necessarily end up falling for their ideal type.
so no, I have never worried about it.
at first I considered not even asking my girlfriend out on a date because she wasn’t my perfect type... 5 years later we’re getting married...

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but anytime i fell for a non-type, i ended up feeling like i settled once times got hard. So its best i just go for what i initially want

[RobT312]

Huh... I guess for me the ideal in my mind isn’t really my ideal in reality. When something clicks it just clicks, that’s how I know. I don’t think about it too hard

[DizzyDesii]

I have to think about it hard because i date to marry and hate wasting time on “could have beens”

[RobT312]

Don’t most people date to marry?

[DizzyDesii]

Unfortunately no. So many date for temporary fun and needs they need fulfilled

[RobT312]

Huh, yeah u are probably right. I guess I always had the marriage goal in mind and it never changed.
Sure I had my fun, but it was always a goal

[ohshee]

No me being me I'm not going to walk away because I want to experience even with this person if it's the complete opposite there has to be a reason for it it's because I either want to learn something or I want to share something teach something or just explore and become one with something different you have to grow you can't just walk away there's an experience and everything we do if we allow it to happen and that's something that I really enjoy like they say opposites attract

[DizzyDesii]

Check update

[ohshee]

color doesn't matter I've always wanted to date a girl that is taller than me and bigger than me LOL I'm never going to say never because it all depends on a lot of different things and I really don't care what other people think if they were to see us together that's between me and that person if I can feel their energy if I can feel their heart I want to know more

[SmokyOne]

I still go for it. Reason being is say I describe my type and it's petite blonde white girl, that's just one example. My type is also Latinas and anime girls, all ethnicities of goth girls, hood rats, juggalettes etc.

The one I said is just the one that popped into my head at that moment. Next time it'll be something else. Same goes for personality traits and morals etc

[DizzyDesii]

So why not list out all your types at once. I know i do 😂

[SmokyOne]

Because ain't nobody got time for that.
Shit by the time I finish naming out every variation I'm into we could've been married already.

Might honestly be easier to just look at my porn history

[Loveisgirthy]

I try not to focus on types as much, I believe everyone changes who they are, or should all through life. But I guess vibes in person is what I mainly get off on. Online dating kinda things are so subpar to me and never worth it. It's like constantly playing pretend, for half a glass of water, weeks at a time. To me it's part of the puzzle pieces, if your life doesn't fit together for what you want then reassess.

[DizzyDesii]

I do not change lmao. I repeat. I mean i may chance once every 10 years if that. But im extremely set in my ways and i always keep a clear goal of what i want in a relationship. I haven't dated online in a bit but i dont see it as playing pretend. Our phone conversations, experiences and goals in life is what gets us by until we can travel to see eachother. But we need to see eachother within like 3 months or less. Those days of waitin longer than that are so over

[MCheetah]

Not at all. I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want me. Also, I've had this this happen more than once to me. Tall, white, super fit and athletic with a muscular ("skater boi") body, huge dick, rich, and so on.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn the man didn't stand a chance

[Cherry234]

No. I'm not going to try to force someone to be attracted to me. It doesn't work like that. If someone isn't attracted to me for whatever reason, I can accept that. I'm not that insecure that I would take it personally.

[DizzyDesii]

In this case, its not so much that theyre not into you. But its the fact that if you go for them and they go for u in return, they’re likely just keeping you around as a sidepiece for if things dont work with their main

[Cherry234]

Oh ok. I don't want to be anyone's sidepiece.

[Raindnz]

I would but be a bit more subtle. After all love is blind and illogical and more often than not the list of criteria goes out the window when there is a spark.. plus am a big believer in personality and character over physical traits!

[Кураж]

You mean when she says she "prefers" dudes who are 6'2" but you are just 5'9"?
Hell yeah lol.
I mean she may have her preferences but it's me we are talking about.

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂👏👏

[Alyssa_11]

Yeah I would cause a) I’m confident in who I am and b) sometimes I’ve liked people who aren’t my conventional type for other reasons.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but in this case, you’re not their type. So why not take your confidence elsewhere lmao

[Alyssa_11]

I’ve dated people who weren’t my type at first because their personalities were nice. Could be the same way.

[DizzyDesii]

But check update

[Alyssa_11]

Yeah still dated someone who’s not physically my type but ended up liking them lol.

[exitseven]

Sometimes when you start down a path you have to follow it through to the end. If I was really attracted to her I would go for it and sort ot the details later.

[DizzyDesii]

Ooooo mr brave

[exitseven]

no, MR Stupid.

[DizzyDesii]

Its not stupid if you come Out successful

[exitseven]

I actually did this once and it was fun for a while but it got crazy after a while.

[AndrésC64]

It would depend on whether they said it directly to me or not. If they said it directly to me, then I'd take that as a hint and not go for it. If I just heard it, then I might go for it anyway, figuring what the hell?

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[Valso]

It depends on how deep I am with my crush. If by any whim of the Universe I get the chance to meet Melissa Benoist in person and she tells me that about her type, I'll keep trying despite of her answer bc she's perfect. :) <3

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao she's aight but as long as u like haha

[Abc12356]

Yep... not gonna waste my energy and efforts. And also I wouldn't want them to compromise on their preferences.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea cause i end up regretting anytime i compromise on my preferences

[Abc12356]

Exactly... everyone should be able date their dream person

[Aqueeld]

Obviously walk away 🤣🤣

Y would i want to waste my time and invest my time on some one with who it won't workout at all 😶😶

[DizzyDesii]

Exaaaaactly

[Aqueeld]

If we still invest on them and keep hopes even after we know we are not there type...

That would b sooo dumb...

It's just pointless 🤣🤣

YOU KNOW BUT STILL LOT OF PEOPLE DO THIS EVEN AFTER KNOWING THAT THEY ARE THERE TYPE 😶😶😶

[DizzyDesii]

I guess everyone has a different tactic. But I know what works for me and what doesn't

[Anonymous]

I would normally say no, cause my confidence would be on the floor and i'd lowkey be crying BUT the loml is the opposite of what i thought my type was and he shot his shot and won so :)

[DizzyDesii]

Well thats good that he won

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on how far I am from their type. Similar body type but different hair colour is fine but something completely different than me is not.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea im talkin completely different race and all lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. That's why I never answer those types of questions. Because it's a trap.

[DizzyDesii]

You are so smart 😂 My ex crush failed and still hasn't realized. He think he still my crush. Nope 🤣