How does one improve on being comfortable approaching women?

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I always over think and and imagine to much put way to much pressure on it I just want to be more comfortable. Specially because I like this one girl I work with but doing something about it freaks me out

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

1. Say hi to every woman you come close enough to. Just go to the mall and say hi to 20 women before you leave. Just hi.

2. Now say hi but follow it with a compliment or question about the girl. Hi, i really like your hair (maybe its dyed blonde or red). Hi i really like your shoes. (Maybe they are unique looking). Hi, (i see you're waiting to get pizza), meatlovers or veggie lovers? Dont worry about closing. Now just keep doing this go out and plan to do it 5x before you go home or leave college or wherever it is you are trying to be social.

3. Now you focus on closing. Do your little conversation and if she seems engaged and smiling, ask for her phone number. Its that simple. Just say at the end "i liked talking to you but have to run. Let me get your number" and she will say sure or just no thanks or i have a boyfriend. She won't bite your face off like a flesh eating monster... or so we hope.

Good luck.

Кураж · Accepted Answer

Hard to give advice on that without knowing what makes you feel uncomfortable about approaching someone in the first place.

Personally, I just have the mindset that if someone doesn't find me attractive for whatever reason, they simply aren't a good match for me.
I'm out there to find the person who is into me, so someone who isn't into me doesn't have what I'm looking for- that mutual attraction that I want to find.

I guess my best advice is getting over the fear of being rejected, and then you can work on honing your approach to make yourself seem more attractive.

NotYourCinderella · Accepted Answer

Be yourself, just be genuine, warm, kind, approachable and friendly. Make good conversation and smile, try get some good eye contact if you can but that's not really a must lol I know I struggle with eye contact personally because I'm awkward so I don't know if you are too lol. Don't be forceful and just try to enjoy yourself and have a good time.

Subarugirl · Accepted Answer

Just be yourself, be sincere, practice makes perfect. The thing is that socilizing is a learned skill. You won’t learn it if you don’t practice it. Imagine you had a daughter, think about how you would want men to approach her, and do that.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically you have to become numb to being rejected. It took me most of my life to learn to be OK with it. Problem is it's like looking behind the curtain (wizard of Oz reference). Once you realize what truly drives women's attraction to men it's really hard to respect them. Because it's rooted in their feelings. Women aren't attracted to YOU most the time. Most the time they're attracted to their PERCEPTION of who you are. And most the time they're completely wrong. This is why so many women have failed relationships. The never really knew the person they were with.
My advice to you is relax, enjoy life, work hard and be friendly. The right woman WILL take notice. And don't compromise who you are at your core for ANYONE.
GOOD LUCK man!

DaveJord · Answer

Date or trying to date is just like anything else you only get better with lots of practice... so relax, take a deep breath and get after it. Just know that rejection and failure is par for the course and it and ingrained and essential part of dating. So you should expect to meet with rejection and failure 10 times to 1... that's why you have to be resilient and persistent.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

It's because you're telling yourself you like her and you don't even know her. Stop being desperate, talk to her and see if you like her. Stop approaching like she's the girl of your dreams. You freaking out because of it and you have no facts to base that logic on since you ain't talked to her

HighlyVolatile · Answer

You have to risk losing the girl in order to have a good chance to win as I see it. It's like in Poker, if you are scared of losing your chips and fold every hand when faced with a bet, you'll end up losing all your chips anyway.

It helps not to become too fixated on a woman until you get them on a date and find strong signs that they like you back. Then it doesn't feel like a huge gamble to talk to her and ask her out.

Slartybartfast · Answer

The day I'm comfortable working high in the air on live voltages , I'll probably get myself killed.
Approaching women in this misandurus witch hunt culture is probably the single most dangerous thing a man can do. Most men would risk their lives before their reputation.

jshm2 · Answer

Firstly, never date work colleagues. It's usually against company policy and both of you will be under watch anyway.

Secondly it's about having confidence to talk to anyone, be they girl, boss, billionaire, groupie, it's largely irreverent. If you can talk to people you need to without fatering and with a clear mind, then you're halfway there.

People are people everywhere you go, and the sky is the sky.

Kaamraj · Answer

Okay think about this, what did this woman that you're approaching do that makes her different than a man? Would think twice about approaching a man on the street for directions or the time? So what apart from being beautiful (genes) did the woman do to make her special from a man, or even you?- The moment you make someone special, you give them power.

megabamse · Answer

To put it simply.

Never brag, never try and be cool, never try and impress.

Be yourself, but be polite and respectful.
Be natural, don't force anything in anyway. Let things just fall as it may.
Just be a friend and don't expect anything.

Logan_V96 · Answer

Understand that women aren’t special. Never put a woman on a pedestal merely because she’s a woman. Women are simply people, so treat them like you would treat anyone else.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Practice everywhere being your best self and don’t care about the result. Gradual success will build your confidence. Keep track of how you feel. Put yourself in uncomfortable scenarios and find a way to overcome the emotion.

Wilhelmstrasse · Answer

You can date women but realize this one harsh truth. women do NOT love men for who they are. they only love what men can provide 💯

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Try with other girls first. Get confident, secure in yourself then make a move.

Anonymous · Answer

Be yourself. She should like you for you not for anything else

TheFlak38 · Answer

she can easily accuse you of rape if you dare it

rabbitzzz · Answer

Cold approach?

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