Be offended..
Some men can’t handle rejection well as it is so if I’m polite or a bitch it wouldn’t make a difference. I always tell them I’m not uninterested or I will say Thankyou if they compliment and keep it pushing. But if you give them an inch they’ll take a mile. That simple Thankyou would open the door for a whole conversation 🙄
I'll rather be straight forward and honest.
I don't like to lead people on.
I also don't like over affectionate attention.
So for me to see someone that I don't fancy shooting their shot beyond normal levels they would be shut down quickly.
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I tried ignoring one once. It was back in high school.
He didn't get the hint and told everyone we were dating, confessed his love and how I was the "goddess of all women" to his substitute teacher - my cousin - over multiple lunch hours, and would follow me around anytime we were together.
We never dated.
We exchanged numbers because we were both group leaders for a school trip and needed to be able to coordinate where we'd get our groups to meet up for bus pick up.
Again.
We never even dated. I never liked him. Not even as a person, let alone as a prospective date.
So now it's very solidly "I'm not interested and I do not see you as a dating partner. I'm sorry, we are just not compatible".
And now it's also "sorry, I'm not into men" if they're w guy because, well, I'm not into men.
I pretend that I'm gay or that I don't understand. For example after humming and singing the song, "Let'sGet Drunk and Screw" this big girl asked me.
I replied, "You don't mean it."
"Yes if do."
"You are just being silly." That is all it took. She didn't do much flirting with me after that.
Another time, when this older woman tried to kiss me, I avoided it.
"What's the matter with you, are you gay?"
I replied, "Yes."
"Are you bi?' but I didn't reply and she directed her attention to others.
Depends on what is unattractive about them? Let me explain. At 64 I have been with a lot of women over the years, this is not a brag, but what happens after living 40+ years as a single man. Some of the best bedroom fun I ever had was with a female that some would call physically unattractive. I have to define unattractive in my way of thinking as a woman with a lot of visible tats, a woman that smells like an ashtray, and a female whose every other word is profanity. I will take an unattractive female over a bitchy attitude EVEN if that female is a 10! Again, I am 64 I outgrew that pettiness years ago.
To be honest I don’t like it but I’d try my best to reject them nicely. Unfortunately, whether I am being direct or indirect, I am gonna get insulted anyway. Plus, I am always honest about my relationship status. They don’t take no for an answer. Most of them who claim they are okay with rejection are liars. They either act cool and try to get back for a revenge (passive aggressive), or throw insult right away. I rarely meet the ones who handle it well.
s Depends on the environment. Have to be careful face to face as some people can become abusive when faced with rejection. But if it’s online then I politely say I’m not interested and if they then become violent or manipulative as a reaction, I block them.
Physically unattractive? It usually doesn't bother me even if I'm not attracted to them. Even ugly people like someone and have to have confidence too.
Unattractive in character? Arrogant about her looks? Acts like a snob to who she wants and when she wants, but now I'm someone she wants to flirt with? Nah, those are the ones I will ignore, and I like to see them get burned by it.
Act uninterested and wait for them to move on, but I do that to girls I am attracted to too and they always give up, it's not even a difficult situation when people give up so easy.. you don't even have to reject them, jus continue living your life like they don't exist and they will give up
Treat them with respect and let them know I'm not interested in them that way. That is the initial response if they can't take that, then elevate it to the point of leave me the F alone if they keep pushing.
I let them flirt. I see it as practice. It enables me to be better prepared when someone I do find attractive starts to flirt with me.
PLUS, others will see you having fun. It makes you appear fun, interesting, and APPROACHABLE.
Nobody flirts with me, and if they do, it's too subtle and I don't realize it lol. But like if someone tries to talk with you and you're not interested in talking, I just don't "feed" into it. Act "busy" or disinterested (but not "mean" to them). It's usually enough for them to "get the hint" I'm not interested. If it didn't, then I'd just politely tell them I'm not interested.
I feel like there is a boy at school interested in me and I am not gay. I don’t already talk to him much but since he’s in my PE class I keep distance from him. We already don’t talk too much but when we talk I don’t ignore him, though I try to keep my responses short and uninteresting. Too bad we are partners in PE all the time…
In high school a presumably tipsy girl I sorta knew actually came up and kissed me on the lips before I could react. I didn't find her attractive, and even though it seemed like she was offering to go to an isolated place and hook up possibly also with her friend, I just stood there shocked, but also emotionlessly still. Needless to say, especially since I was around my classmates, she left quickly, taking the rejection.
I guess I be kinda friendly but cold as well. If they're asking questions I'll just answer them and not ask any back. Then look for a way out
If he does that thing in the picture I'll grab him by the nose and chuck him away! ATTRACTIVE OR NO, YOU WILL GET NOSE CHUCKED IF YOU PULL THAT STUFF!!
otherwise I will just tell you I'm not interested.
Ignoring them, being mean to them can have exactly unintended opposite effect.
Better tell them that you are not interested. That way, they will respectfully withdraw, or at least I will that.
Flirting is just fun banter, there's absolutely nothing in it.
I will flirt back but if they want to escalate, I politely excuse myself and leave.
I politely thank them for their interest but also tell them (in a nice way of course) that I’m not interested
there's this thing called being nice. even though you might not be interested from a romantic stance, it doesn't mean you can't make a friend. friends can get you far
I play flirt back but make the tone one of friends/acquaintances only. After a few laughs, "Well it was nice talking to you. Have a great one! Gotta get going."
s once someone approaches me in that manner they automatically become unattractive in my eyes lol… so what I always do is “thanks but no thanks” with a polite smile, keep it short and move on with life
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