What do you do when someone you see as unattractive tries to flirt with you?

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Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

Be offended..
Some men can’t handle rejection well as it is so if I’m polite or a bitch it wouldn’t make a difference. I always tell them I’m not uninterested or I will say Thankyou if they compliment and keep it pushing. But if you give them an inch they’ll take a mile. That simple Thankyou would open the door for a whole conversation 🙄

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I'll rather be straight forward and honest.
I don't like to lead people on.
I also don't like over affectionate attention.
So for me to see someone that I don't fancy shooting their shot beyond normal levels they would be shut down quickly.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I tried ignoring one once. It was back in high school.

He didn't get the hint and told everyone we were dating, confessed his love and how I was the "goddess of all women" to his substitute teacher - my cousin - over multiple lunch hours, and would follow me around anytime we were together.

We never dated.

We exchanged numbers because we were both group leaders for a school trip and needed to be able to coordinate where we'd get our groups to meet up for bus pick up.

Again.
We never even dated. I never liked him. Not even as a person, let alone as a prospective date.

So now it's very solidly "I'm not interested and I do not see you as a dating partner. I'm sorry, we are just not compatible".

And now it's also "sorry, I'm not into men" if they're w guy because, well, I'm not into men.

DWornock · Answer

I pretend that I'm gay or that I don't understand. For example after humming and singing the song, "Let'sGet Drunk and Screw" this big girl asked me.
I replied, "You don't mean it."
"Yes if do."
"You are just being silly." That is all it took. She didn't do much flirting with me after that.

Another time, when this older woman tried to kiss me, I avoided it.
"What's the matter with you, are you gay?"
I replied, "Yes."
"Are you bi?' but I didn't reply and she directed her attention to others.

Moose304 · Answer

Depends on what is unattractive about them? Let me explain. At 64 I have been with a lot of women over the years, this is not a brag, but what happens after living 40+ years as a single man. Some of the best bedroom fun I ever had was with a female that some would call physically unattractive. I have to define unattractive in my way of thinking as a woman with a lot of visible tats, a woman that smells like an ashtray, and a female whose every other word is profanity. I will take an unattractive female over a bitchy attitude EVEN if that female is a 10! Again, I am 64 I outgrew that pettiness years ago.

ManOnFire · Answer

Physically unattractive?  It usually doesn't bother me even if I'm not attracted to them. Even ugly people like someone and have to have confidence too. Unattractive in character?  Arrogant about her looks? Acts like a snob to who she wants and when she wants, but now I'm someone she wants to flirt with? Nah, those are the ones I will ignore, and I like to see them get burned by it.

desidoll · Answer

To be honest I don’t like it but I’d try my best to reject them nicely. Unfortunately, whether I am being direct or indirect, I am gonna get insulted anyway. Plus, I am always honest about my relationship status. They don’t take no for an answer. Most of them who claim they are okay with rejection are liars. They either act cool and try to get back for a revenge (passive aggressive), or throw insult right away. I rarely meet the ones who handle it well.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Depends on the environment. Have to be careful face to face as some people can become abusive when faced with rejection. But if it’s online then I politely say I’m not interested and if they then become violent or manipulative as a reaction, I block them.

PortraitOfTerd · Answer

Act uninterested and wait for them to move on, but I do that to girls I am attracted to too and they always give up, it's not even a difficult situation when people give up so easy.. you don't even have to reject them, jus continue living your life like they don't exist and they will give up

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Treat them with respect and let them know I'm not interested in them that way. That is the initial response if they can't take that, then elevate it to the point of leave me the F alone if they keep pushing.

Kiss_Me · Answer

I let them flirt. I see it as practice. It enables me to be better prepared when someone I do find attractive starts to flirt with me.

PLUS, others will see you having fun. It makes you appear fun, interesting, and APPROACHABLE.

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody flirts with me, and if they do, it's too subtle and I don't realize it lol. But like if someone tries to talk with you and you're not interested in talking, I just don't "feed" into it. Act "busy" or disinterested (but not "mean" to them). It's usually enough for them to "get the hint" I'm not interested. If it didn't, then I'd just politely tell them I'm not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like there is a boy at school interested in me and I am not gay. I don’t already talk to him much but since he’s in my PE class I keep distance from him. We already don’t talk too much but when we talk I don’t ignore him, though I try to keep my responses short and uninteresting. Too bad we are partners in PE all the time…

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I guess I be kinda friendly but cold as well. If they're asking questions I'll just answer them and not ask any back. Then look for a way out

Xoirwinkan · Answer

In high school a presumably tipsy girl I sorta knew actually came up and kissed me on the lips before I could react. I didn't find her attractive, and even though it seemed like she was offering to go to an isolated place and hook up possibly also with her friend, I just stood there shocked, but also emotionlessly still. Needless to say, especially since I was around my classmates, she left quickly, taking the rejection.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

If he does that thing in the picture I'll grab him by the nose and chuck him away! ATTRACTIVE OR NO, YOU WILL GET NOSE CHUCKED IF YOU PULL THAT STUFF!!

otherwise I will just tell you I'm not interested.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Ignoring them, being mean to them can have exactly unintended opposite effect. Better tell them that you are not interested. That way, they will respectfully withdraw, or at least I will that.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

Flirting is just fun banter, there's absolutely nothing in it.  I will flirt back but if they want to escalate, I politely excuse myself and leave.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I politely thank them for their interest but also tell them (in a nice way of course) that I’m not interested

Sevenpointfive · Answer

there's this thing called being nice. even though you might not be interested from a romantic stance, it doesn't mean you can't make a friend. friends can get you far

t-8900 · Answer

I play flirt back but make the tone one of friends/acquaintances only. After a few laughs, "Well it was nice talking to you. Have a great one! Gotta get going."

Blackcupcake · Answer

once someone approaches me in that manner they automatically become unattractive in my eyes lol… so what I always do is “thanks but no thanks” with a polite smile, keep it short and move on with life

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

I kindly tell them that I am uninterested, I don't have to be rude and I don't have to just ignore the person because that only makes an individual be more persistent

theunicornjp · Answer

No need to be rude and there's nothing wrong with meeting someone new and having a good conversation. You might find something about them fun.
If not.. and they're just a complete dud... Then you just take a quick phone call outside and relocate.

NovaCourier · Answer

Assuming that I actually notice that they are flirting, I'd just pretend not to notice that they are.

MysticDevice · Answer

Very very rarely do people flirt with me. But when it does happen and its unwanted, just a simple "I'm not interested" will do and I leave it at that. If they persist then I get cranky.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I will engage with them, but will politely let them know I am taken.

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore their flirting and keep it friendly on my part. Sometimes if they'd flirt now and then for a longer period I had a conversation saying directly I am not interested in that way.

Bluemax · Answer

Tell her I'm not interested. I am not mean, but I am unambiguous and to the point.

DiegoO · Answer

I wouldn't even notice. I honestly never developed my senses around romantic relationships. I'm numb to it. The only time I ever felt something in that sphere, was trough a LDR.

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Make them think I am interested, and see how far they will go. If I'm horny enough, I'll see what she might do about it? Maybe I'll enjoy the night anyway?

Slartybartfast · Answer

I usually only realize someone's flirting with me about ten minutes after the conversation ended.

aided_ · Answer

awkwardly laugh and hope to god they can take a hint

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

This question assumes that I notice their flirting in the first place. I just figure it as them being nice.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I'd be kind to them but will sign that I'm not into them. I did the mean thing before and no it's not the way to go

Ragingwhisper · Answer

Flirt back and lower your standards. Could be the universe doesn't care about your pathetic list of qualifications and is just introducing you to your soulmate.

Anonymous · Answer

I act polite but dry with them and if they don’t get the hint then I turn rude. No means no.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I just nip it in the bud and politely tell them I’m not interested.

Crankor · Answer

Just let it happen but don't reciprocate. The reactions are going to be different from when it's done to a girl vs done to a guy though

serious_miss419 · Answer

I asked them why they’re talking to me. But it really depends on how their approaches when they flirt with me that can dictate how I respond

douride2 · Answer

Usually I tell them I'm not interested or simply ignore them.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'd politely turn them down. If they still don't stop either ignore them or tell them back off.

Grond21 · Answer

There's no reason to be anything other than kind. And I just also tell them that I am not interested

MatteBlaxk · Answer

Reject. It's that simple, it don't matter if you hurt their feelings. It's better that way then to play with them.

chulo1992 · Answer

OMG this happens all the time and it is so annoying!!!

AimeeKyle · Answer

Just be nice and then go on about my way (without being an ass…the best I can).

IsoUser · Answer

I try and always be polite and act as a friend lol I'm not going to be a jerk.

imfreeze95 · Answer

I tell them off  Attractiveness to me is more than skin deep though

TheAfrikan · Answer

I behave in a way that shows that am not interested. If they smart enough they can knw it.

Deserter · Answer

Be nice, if they ask me out I'll decline in the nicest way possible

hassanalisyed · Answer

The mean way was my way... but after reading all the opinions... I should I guess try telling them first... thanks GAG peeps.

thunder_bolt · Answer

I consider flirting as fun act. I flirt.. be it with attractive or unattractive person. I'm always welcome to it.

michael1469 · Answer

I think to myself... this one is gonna be a. double bagger butter face...

Jltakk · Answer

Never had that happen, but I'd tell them I wasn't interested simple as that.

Unfortunateguy27 · Answer

I chose A because as a boy that is my experience with every women I’ve met

DizzyDesii · Answer

Say i have a boyfriend lmao

Kaytiee · Answer

I tell them I have a boyfriend.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I'll update if I'm ever flirted with.

Darcia · Answer

Give them the time of day

slatyb · Answer

I thank them and decline as nicely as possible.

glennos89 · Answer

Just pretend I don't understand her signals😂

Xrrdftgyhuji · Answer

Tell them I already have a boyfriend

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