How is my game or does it need work?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Very smooth!

This is cheesy!

[Anonymous]

The real question is why try and spit game at someone who has a “partner”. Unless she’s unfaithful then obviously she isn’t going to flirt back. But to answer your question specifically, your lines were pretty cheesy. Not being rude, just honest.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

She doesn’t. That was a hypothetical.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s fine, I was only going by what was in the screenshot, I don’t know the background or what context you were referring to a partner in. With that aside, I don’t think these were the best lines. It just came off as cheesy, like the reference to buying pizza and such, I wouldn’t think you were trying to flirt or be enticed. You mag want to try other methods of spitting your game.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Thank you for your honesty. I flirt with a balance of friendly/flirting. I want her to guess if I’m into her or not as opposed to giving my feelings away

[Opinion Owner]

I feel like that logic will keep you in the friend zone. If you have feelings for her, then you should be direct and let her know. What you’re doing by having her guess is just playing games, and honestly who wants to go through the headache of trying to decipher someone’s feelings? No offense, but not only is that childish but frustrating. I don't know maybe you’re afraid of what she would say, or possibly ruining a friendship if she’s not into you. But if she’s worth it then she’s worth the risk, rather than this.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I don’t know her too well. I would rather be friends first and then move on from there. I have to figure out if we have chemistry via texts and feel it out

[Opinion Owner]

Moving slow is totally fine. I’m more referring to you want her to guess if you’re into her or not. There’s just no need to create a game of your feelings.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Most people get turned off if you show too much interest too soon?

[Opinion Owner]

True, you don’t want to overdue it, but still, you should be straightforward with relaying your interest. For instance, if you two are having regular conversation back and forth to where you think she may be into you, then ask her out to do something. It doesn’t have to be a full blown date, even just something with friends or casual. But small gestures like that give you the opportunity to see where her head is at without playing any games.

[Opinion Owner]

@part2603 just now coming back onto this site and seeing what you’ve said. For starters, I do agree with your initial statement about women generally disliking (hate is a strong word, and not every woman feels so strongly about this as you may assume) when guys get imaginative about hypothetical future states. Some women get really caught up in the future they are mentally creating with someone that they want to date, marry, etc; but personally, I don’t fall into that. As for what you said about not acting on the assumption that the girl you’re interested in is single, I don’t think that’s wise at all. Is it the woman’s responsibility to let a guy know she’s taken? Absolutely. But the thing with that is, many of us don’t want to automatically assume we are being hit on, and risk being lashed out on for making our statuses known. Personally I’ve been in that position more than once in my life, thinking I was being hit on by a guy because of the blatant flirting, suggestive nature of his questions and even trying for physical touch beyond just a hug. When I’d mention I’m taken, it’s either destroyed what I thought was a blossoming friendship, or I got my head taken off because the guy is offended that I got the “wrong impression”. To me, that’s them trying to save face and lick their wounded ego, but still it’s not fair for us to fear rejecting a guy, and for this reason, many of us rarely want to assume you’re interested. All this to say, there’s no need for him to dance around asking if she’s single — that is a quick way to set himself up and likely destroy what could have at least been a friendship. Asking the right questions and finding out her status in a way that won’t shatter his confidence or ruin their relationship is the best way.

[Opinion Owner]

If I’m in a relationship, then it’s my responsibility to tell someone that I believe is hitting on me. All that I’m saying is that women can be leery of doing that because of the response we may get. Fortunately I’ve never been stalked, but in my own experience, that “healthy” no is always met with a “why?”. I mean how often can someone flat out say no without the person wondering why?

[Opinion Owner]

And where exactly do you think those responses lead 9/10? Because not every guy accepts rejection humbly and walks away, which circles right back around to what I said in the first place. Clearly YOU can’t use the good common sense god have you, or you’re just being purposely oblivious. Captain is far too respectable and wise to even consider DMing someone like you with such poor advice. Stop comment under here with your nonsensical, unhelpful ramblings.

[sythe_crimsonstar]

I don’t even see how you’re flirting lol

[NathanDavis]

you can actually order two different toppings in the same pizza... lol

they just do it half and half... ask for that option next time

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

The pizza would be ruined. You’d have the flavor of pineapples on your side that doesn’t have pineapples

[NathanDavis]

that has never happened to me... maybe is just your local pizza spot that sucks

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

It depends on the other half also I guess

[CalmMind]

I feel that was a whole conversation that could have just stopped at her saying yes and then moving on to another topic. But that's just my opinion.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't really understand what the game was supposed to be in this case? It just felt like a normal non-flirty conversation about pizza toppings.

[MCheetah]

I walked into a pizza shop and asked for the 9/11 special:
Two large plains.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Damn lol 😭

[Adam1978]

No you always order one pizza per person even if they share toping. It's not like you require less food if you share same opinions.

[TheMajesticKing777]

This made me hungry for pizza

[Texaskid1]

What you have there is anti-game.

[Anonymous]

Is your game on Steam yet? where is it?