Questions to ask a guy you work with on a walk?

[Anonymous]

So I like this guy at work I've literally only just met him so don't know much about him, he's not married but think he might be seeing someone as overheard him talking about a girl but he didn't seem keen, we work nights and my mum goes to the theatre round the corner and i can't walk on my own in the dark and i knew he parked in town so i goes to say/ask ill need to walk that way so id walk half way with him then walk the rest my own but he offered to take me all the way now i need to know how to get to know him better but i suck at it? I don't like asking guys i like if they have a girlfriend cos i think it looks obvious id like them

[tzdc21]

Well why not tell him that you like him? What's so wrong with that? Why keep it a secret? Just ask him questions about himself, like if he has a girlfriend already. If he does, and you're not okay with that, then you don't have to waste your time anymore.

[Asker]

Fear of rejection, im not a pretty girl and there's tones more he'd probably get with over me

[tzdc21]

Better to ask and know the answer than saying nothing and being like, "What if..." later on.

[JustADudePlayinADude]

A good one is "What hobbies do you have?" And then follow it up with "Anyone you do that with?" If he doesn't mention anyone he is in a romantic relationship with, then he probably isn't seeing anyone.

[Asker]

We did talk about the cinema

[JustADudePlayinADude]

You can basically ask "Do you usually go see movies with anyone?" Which he should mention his partner if he has one.

[MrCommodore]

There are indirect ways to find out what you need to know and maybe test the water on how he feels indirectly. Likewise asking him to walk can be done indirectly.

[Asker]

I doubt he likes me like that atm as im not like other girls but i think he likes chatting to me. Yeah thats why i asked him cos it wasn't done so obviously, he was joking hed be my knight in shining armour and it made me laugh 😂😂 but im getting a sense he could be a player but ill reserve judgement lol

[MrCommodore]

You got me curious when you say you're not like other girls, what do you mean by that?
He may like you.

[Asker]

dont wear make up, lots of health issues, inexpierenced, shy around people i like. basically im the type of person guys can take advantage off to show off infront of their mates. i wouldn't be the type to have a fairytale romance lol always just sit back and admire guys now..

[Asker]

when im not well i dont make an effort to talkto him as dont want to embarrasse myself. last night i needed help with a heavy box so id asked this other guy (whos not my type by the way lol) and he didn't come over intime for the post box to be sent and so i called him and the guy i like was sitting inbetween desks so asked what i wanted and laughed i try to cheekily /flirt n said unless u want to do it for me but he didn't turn or anything. im gonna ask this girl im friendly with i think i can trust her not to blab

[Asker]

i meet loads of different people at work as the office is massive and one day i had moved to the bottom of the room and he was sitting beside me we were chatting loads like cos id only just met him and he was really nice and sensitive i didn't see him the next day but when i went round to name check people im like what you sit here and he put legend next to his name loool now everytime i see his name in my work im like urgh

[MrCommodore]

You sound like a nice girl, lots of people are a wee bit shy, not all guys are assholes or seeking to use women.