For me, it really depends on a lot of things though.
But the most important thing I’d say is reading their feedback.
How do they respond to me when I interact with them?
How good is our chemistry in normal platonic interactions?
Now, if I add a tiny (super subtle) bit of spice to our interactions, how do they react?
Here’s the intuitive part. This is where you need to tune into your inner psychic.
Do they like the spice, are they unresponsive to the spice, or are they creating distance because of the spice?
If they like the spice, good. You can linger here a little longer or you can add a little more.
If they’re unresponsive to the spice, then this can mean a couple things. Either, your spice is too subtle (often the case for many shy people) and they can’t detect it. Or, they are being unresponsive because they don’t want to encourage you to go further, but neither do they want to discourage you (because they may kinda low key like it). If this is the case, you can cruise here until you sense them liking it or disliking it.
If they are creating distance because of the spice. Okay, here’s when you gotta take a step back. This means they are uninterested in you, or for some other reason they don’t want to begin anything at this time. If you get this response, dial things back to how things were before, chill out, and accept that there is a HIGH likelihood that they just aren’t interested. Because, if there’s even a chance, often you’ll at least get a neutral reaction. If you’re getting a negative reaction, it’s disinterest like 80% of the time (the percentage isn’t exact by the way, I’m just trying to make an illustration here). The other 20% could be them purposely sending you mixed signals because they like you but don’t want you to know, or they like you but feel conflicted, or some other complicated reason.
So yeah, I’d say for me, flirting is a lot of back and forth and sensing things. A lot of sensing things. It’s a dance. And with different people, you’re dancing to a different tune. 🎶
Honestly.. I just talk to her like an adult and treat her like a human being.. I'm sure most girls are sick of all the cheesy pick up lines and being stared at.
I just try and be cheeky. In work i ask for help with a post box as my hands get sore n he laughed about it so i said unless u want to do it for me, then last night he kept giving work to the other guy n walking past me everytime as they sat opposite me, i said u no work for me to do and he did something to annoy me (he had been giving me the work on Monday to do) n i said to his colleague im too easy ain't i when he could hear, another time he said he were going to keep distracting me i said but if i can't do my work u can't do urs, he's been banging on about being healthy so i thought he smoked as saw him come in from outside so i go over n say smoking isn't healthy he said i dont smoke (me looking relieved at this pt) n he goes u gonna give me a load of abuse 😂😂😂😂
Now i don't know if any of this is flirting or just banter which is why i started thinking it was just banter as there hadn't been any looks or anything but he was pretty much staring as he walked past to the other guy
I try to stand up for myself as dont want to be a pushover
I forgot how tbh. Typically I just have normal conversations and if I can drop in some jokes, then some suggestive jokes. Somewhere in there some teasing or challenging. Excuses to touch, stuff like that. All of this only happens if I get a good feeling and reception by the other person. If I can't read them or they're not reciprocating interest, it stays a normal conversation.
Wana try flirting with me? I bet deep down you're a cute dork
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Just tell the guy how to feel about him. I dont do the hot and cold or bait and switch—none of those pick-up lines or anything. I just walk up to her and say, "Hey, I am just looking for something casual." and most of the time they say "yeah, me too" it is better to just be straightforward.
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