"Hey babe. Have you (insert sexual act here) today?" How many guys here actually realise that an introduction like this is creepy and lame?

[Cassie88]

In my case it's the 'GirlsAskGuys' DM's that I get. To me, an introduction like this is, at best, not very creative or original, and at worst compels me to instantly block them. Come on fellas, you can do much better than this :D

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Now, before anyone asks, "Well, what can we do, what do you want?", here's a tip (or two). Try being nice, civil and respectful. You could even open with a pun, or a joke, or an anecdote. You could offer a compliment (ex. "Hey, I saw your post about such-and-such, and I thought it was really interesting and insightful"). There are just SO many ways to approach this.

[Trekv22]

2 sides to this -

1) A lot of guys are awkward and dumb or have major anxiety these days and have no game... thus they resort to spamming on dating apps. (some are just lazy too and don't want to put in effort in real life)

2) Girls benefit from dating apps to the point where some of them feel entitled to attention and can't handle any rejection at all. My friend opens her apps when we hang out sometime and can see messages literally coming into her inbox in real time from guys. She just scrolls through 100s of thirsty guys chasing her but then gets super pissed and butt hurt if 1 guy she likes doesn't respond.

End of the day apps are toxic to both guys and girls and people need to learn to be humans again in real life.

[OfMiceandMen]

It's no wonder there's any girls on here if those are the kinds of messages guys send them...

It'll just become guys ask guys and we will have no clue what the hell we are suppose to do?🤯

For example:

Guys: What do you think I should do about my girlfriend, she seems to be screwing around on me with every guy?

Douche28: Duuuude, can I have her number?

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks.

[Sisters_Of_Time]

Maybe the men who haven't told you that. or maybe they haven't done it yet! Sorry for bringing your hopes down

[Nikki1989]

I received a message like that about 2 hours ago.

[Cassie88]

Oh dear! So sorry :(

[AviatorTom]

Most guys know that's a bad introduction, but in the moment, that's the best they can think of.

[NamerOfStars]

All of them- but if they try an indirect approach, and it fails, they get told "Why don't you say what you mean?". If they can't get what they want either way, it behooves them to at least get rejected quickly.

[Cassie88]

I actually want people, male and female, to say what they mean. I get frustrated when I have to decypher some gibberish that makes no literal sense, because the one spouting it thinks that being "indirect" is the proper way to communicate. It isn't.

[NamerOfStars]

If it's what you want, then why complain about guys who do it?

[Cassie88]

I don't.

[NamerOfStars]

Ahem: "Hey babe. Have you (insert sexual act here) today?" How many guys here actually realise that an introduction like this is creepy and lame? ↗

[Cassie88]

What?

[NamerOfStars]

The entire premise of your question is that you're complaining about guys being direct about what they want; it's rather disingenuous of you to claim you don't complain about guys being direct in response to that question.

[Cassie88]

There's a difference between being direct and being disrespectful.

[NamerOfStars]

Only to the recipient.

[slatyb]

What do you expect from guys who are so clueless and desperate that they are trying to get attention by spamming women on random websites?

[boggboss]

They tend to start convos like that because they are creeps

[Still-alive]

o rlly?

unfortunately this advice will not reach the type of guys you hope it will reach. sorry :(

[JPresidente]

I would (and have) at least started out with a funny joke instead of the bland stuff.

[CuriousMufuxka]

(Twats that you licked) In response to your update, you could just turn off dm's..

[Cassie88]

I could, but I might miss out on meeting someone that I actually like.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Sounds like you haven't and are just trying to tell others how to behave.. My opinion is if you keep them on, expect the negative along with the positive. You're not going to be able to change their behavior.

[Cassie88]

I've changed my settings. Now only people I follow can contact me.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Nice! Well filter anyway.

[Paulychicagoluv]

Shoot, my bad. Didn't need to put me on blast this way. 😪😪😪😪

[CharlieDMX]

I'm old fashioned and do have a working brain, so I'd never open a DM conversation like that

[Jerre]

I thought it was a good introduction. And yes , I had sex yesterday.

[Blackcupcake]

lmao, I didn't even get the "hey"

[Jennz6]

Yes I have received lots of lame messages

[LavLavLuv]

Same lol

[BlawnDeee]

0-60 in a second straight

[joeldalton]

Hey babe, have you eaten lunch today?

[Cassie88]

Slightly better. Just slightly. :D

[joeldalton]

was it a big dick? heyooooo

[Alex8736]

have you SMILED today?

[Cassie88]

I just got out of bed. I'll need time for that.

[Alex8736]

😁😊😇

[LiamJHayden]

That is classless and ignorant.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

I've seen girls ask much worse

[CubaPirate]

Absofuckinglutley

[Anonymous]

I get that a ton

[LavLavLuv]

Lolll🤣💀

[Guardian45]

Good point!