Is being liked by the opposite sex as an adult more important than being liked by the opposite sex when you’re in middle/high school?

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Boys didn’t like me when I was in high school and junior high. But other people are liked by the opposite sex both in middle/high school AND as an adult, but I will be liked only as an adult. But other people besides me seem to believe that “being liked by the opposite sex” as an adult is more important than “being liked by the opposite sex” when you’re in middle/high school. But why?

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Haha, I found it a strange question. But only because I haven't really ever thought of it before. I don't know if people who weren't attractive as a teen but are as an adult feel the same way (or wonder about this) or not.

I would say it's more important to be attractive to the opposite sex, at the point in you're life you're looking for a long-term partner. So if you're a girl who marries her highschool sweetheart at 21... then I'd say that girl is definitely better to have been attractive in her teens.

But if you're SINGLE as an adult, then it's sure as fuck most important to be attactive as an adult! Who the hell cares if someone USED to be attractive. That is of zero help for a single adult. In fact... it's worse! Your remember your faded glory-years.

You're definitely better to be attractive as an adult if you had to choose between the two.

People who were attractive as a teen probably had an easier time of it at that time... but that's all in the past now... so... you got the good-end-of the deal. Somewhere there's a very sad ugly girl crying at her faded beauty while a tear drops onto her high school yearbook photo. Think of that poor chick when you wonder about this. No... you want to be the hot 30 year old. Not the hot 16 year old. 🙂

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

It's more significant when you're in school. Because it has a greater impact on your psychology.

But it's more relevant when you're an adult. Because that's the time when you can actually get into serious relationships.

Guccigabbana18 · Accepted Answer

Definitely. I wasn't really ready for a relationship in high school. Dating in adulthood is definitely better.

LeeannaDD · Accepted Answer

Yes because high school is 4 years. You spend most of your life as an adult

Guy13 · Answer

It is more important as an adult.

molonski2 · Answer

I don't think its a strange question at all , far more important as an Adult because you can have far more influence , middle school , pretty much pointless , and high school who cares? What happened to me was same , I a Segg , cutsie and blonde , but this attracted all these young girls , which was painful when you are 16/17 / 18 and this buggered me up with all the girls I wanted as they went for older guys , I remember being devastated when a girl I liked ( 17 ) started going out with a school teacher ( 25 ) How could I compete with that? Lost 2 girls to young school teachers , seemed horrendous , however it all worked in reverse later on and that was great , my cheer squad got a bit holder that was good..

But really I didn't have the " manly " look whereas heaps of the guys did , they were men , I looked like a cute little young boy. It all turned around when at 18 , I was seduced by my 27 year old neighbor , who gave me a great start sexually with experience etc. , so all worked out really well.

Itsok2behapp-e · Answer

No, not really.

Doesn't matter the timeline whether you're a child, a teenager or an adult.

The global population increases day by day so naturally so does the potential number of the opposite sex that may/may not like you.

None of that matters no matter what your age. What's more important is:

"Do I, me, like myself?"

If the answer is "No" then simply put, you're fucked! If you can't like yourself how can you expect others to like you?

At the end of it all, as long you like yourself that's all that matters. If someone else/others like you too then great! That's a bonus.

ManOnFire · Answer

Not sure I'd say more important, but it matters more in adulthood because adults are more serious about relationships and sex and being with someone. When we're young we're just fascinated with each other and full of a lot of cutesy feelings that we think is the whole meaning of life.

Alex8736 · Answer

in middle or high school you have the most popular boys and most popular girls who had the hottest s/o's but then fast forward 10 years and the majority are either divorced, a drug addict where after graduation everything just stops and people either go off to college, move away etc but like you were saying when I was in high school i was captain of sports teams, an honor student and worked part time. as an adult relationship's are much better as people mature and have goals in life

kellytheman · Answer

Well when people are adults they are more mature and responsible. I feel like in highschool guys just want one thing and they want if from the most beautiful or popular girls in school. It just a different stages of life for women and en and also highschool sweethearts don't always work out so that why it not that important.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say it depends on the person. I would say when you're young it generally has a lot less substance than as an adult. But some people never grow up. This is generally why I don't care whether the opposite gender likes me or not. Because typically it has little to do with me and a lot to do with her.

serious · Answer

I think high school teenagers care about the opposite gender liking them. Adults don't tend to care so much about this because adults are more mature than teenagers.

loveslongnails · Answer

Middle and high schools are mostly "cliques", and how many of those people are meaningful to your life now? Hardly any, I'd bet, opposite OR same sex. Your adult friendships are more important, no matter what.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Yes, I didn't care much in high school, mainly cos I went to an all girls school.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I would rather have female friends and girlfriends than having more guy friends.

anon1903 · Answer

Being popular with opposite gender in highschool is just lame because you're mostly ruling hormones

Chipballer1987 · Answer

I think it depends on your single/taken status. I’m married and could care less about what the opposite sex thinks about me or at least I don’t care anymore than I do if they were men. If I were single though, I’m sure I’d feel differently.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think it is because you both feel more Mature.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I think so. You have to keep in mind that being an adult is much longer than high school.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

No it isn't. If u were well liked in middle school and high school u will have built up the confidence that's so attractive anyway

peedy · Answer

Try being unlikely by the opposite sex in both age groups than you wouldn't give a rats ass

SpudSteer · Answer

Yes because women in HS aren’t as Manitpulaive are they are now

Pterodon · Answer

Because you’re forgettable?

Twalli · Answer

As an adult people are looking for life partners.

Is being liked by the opposite sex as an adult more important than being liked by the opposite sex when you’re in middle/high school?

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