Girls, how do you keep chat interesting with a guy you just started talking to and how do you prolong it?

[Anonymous]

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Send emojis and avoid one word replies.
My girlfriend is the most boring texter in the world. Don't be like her lol

[Asker]

Lol. How did your relationship begin if she wasn’t good at communication? Please tell me because I met a guy recently who likes me back but we haven’t expressed directly. I don’t want to ruin the chances.

I try to keep chat interesting with jokes and emojis but after 5 mins I struggle to keep it going. Then I think of a question and ask that.. then conversation moves quick and then after 10 mins, I struggle and constantly wonder about what to write next :-(
I wish I didn’t spend all these years only studying and working hard. I’m learning from YouTube and some websites so hopefully I can teach myself to be better.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

My girl was never good at it, from day 1. Luckily I am or it wouldn't have gone anywhere lol. We click a lot better in person than over text. So that probably has a lot to do with it.
But it sounds like you're doing just fine.
Honestly, you don't have to talk for hours on end.
Don't be afraid to let him decide what to talk about to. It's a 2 way street.
As long as you seem interested in what he's saying and don't say anything rude, you'll be fine

I wouldn't stress it too much

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If you ever want to message me his texts, I can give you some replies to shoot back at him to get things started for you if you want lol
Any time

[Asker]

I will surely DM you the next time I’m texting with him.
That’s really nice to know that you kept things moving and your girlfriend kept moving along!
Trouble in my case is he and I work in same company. I met him about a month ago and it was he who clearly caught feelings for me. I like him back and want to know him more.
Another issue is we are in different cities but we will meet in person every 2-3 months when the whole team comes together for a social gathering. Otherwise we work remotely.
Few days ago, I used an excuse to ping him. He was super quick to respond like in seconds. I made some jokes and used emojis. He responded well to those and also made jokes and used 1-2 smiling/laughing emojis.
At two points, the conversation stopped. He didn’t try to prolong it but I did. Then after a while, I ended the conversation on a good note and wished him a good evening and he replied “thanks! You too!”
When he and I had met, he was giving me deep eye looks and I could totally tell he likes me. I gave subtle responses. I kind of held myself back because I thought distance would be a problem and now I just keep thinking of him and waiting to see him next.
I am hesitating to send me a message again but that would mean showing my interest to him overtly.
I don’t know what to do :(
Do you have any suggestions for me?

[Asker]

He had also asked me several personal questions when we had met. We work in same team so I’m sure he hesitates to initiate anything directly because it’s corporate environment and there are crazy anti harassment laws. So it’s like we are stuck!

[Asker]

I try to find ways to show interest but it’s limited, given we only meet in video meetings with rest of the team

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It's ok, I work with my girlfriend too. The best thing is to communicate outside of work. Over text or messaging is best.
You're already into eachother it sounds like, so the hard part is out of the way

But yeah, feel free to message me any time you want.
I've actually gotten girls to fall in love with me over text 😂. Its definitely one of my greatest skills and I'm happy to help you

[Asker]

Thanks! I really will need your help. Let me DM you.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Of course, any time

[serious]

I mean it depends on the common interests in terms of topics. If there such topics then you can talk on that.

[Asker]

That’s good point. Thanks

[melanieeeB]

I'm just me and if we can't talk, he ain't the one lol

[Asker]

you must be very good at conversations to have that kind of confidence! Good !

[melanieeeB]

No I'm just confident and talk about everything I wanna talk about

[Asker]

That’s great! I keep thinking if what I’m saying is appropriate. Working on my social skills :)

[melanieeeB]

Just be you, stay polite and kind, and say what you want without overthinking it much and everything will be fine.
Like I said if the other person doesn't agree with you, there are not a person to hang out with

[Asker]

That makes so much sense! The right person will stay with who I genuinely am. I took a mental note of all your words. Thanks so much!

[melanieeeB]

Sure you're welcome!
But just to be clear, someone that you do get along very well most of the time, sure can also respectfully disagree with your opinion here and there. I meant more someone who generally doesn't get along with you or that you do not vibe with lol

[Asker]

Okk got it! :) etched that in my brain too :)

[Wise4myage]

By having interesting things to talk about and discuss.

[Asker]

Thanks! Point noted

[gag36627]

If it is not going naturally, he is not the one for you. You don't have to think if things are matched

[Asker]

Actually my situation is different where there are limitation to how freely I can talk or this guy can. If it was social environment then I totally agree that things go more naturally

[Autumn_Dancer]

what things you like while chatting?