Do you check if someone your interested in is seeing someone first before attempting to get to know them etc?

[Monalisa77]

Surely this is basic common sense?

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Of course. If they’re single I’ll try to get to know them better with the intent of it turning romantic and if they’re taken then I’d just befriend both with the intent of just making new friends. Just got to turn the romantic aspect off and if you can’t just move on.

[DizzyDesii]

No and that is a bad habit because the bastards are almost always taken but acting single. Its sad

[Monalisa77]

How can u say its a bad habit then if they're acting single?

[DizzyDesii]

Im saying its a bad habit that i didn't ask because they probably would have at least admitted that they were taken, although i dont think it would have stopped them from flirting because they “act” single. But asking would have at least saved me from flirting in return because i would have left them alone immediately

[Monalisa77]

yeh im in that situation atm, im trying to find out if he's single cos this flirting has come outa nowhere

[DizzyDesii]

Just ask or try to find his social media

[Monalisa77]

he's a dr so has none😭

[Malwi93]

yeah i mean gaze locking is already flirty enough or?

[Monalisa77]

Did u read my previous qs? I mean weve known each other a while now and there was no hint of attraction from either of us

[MikeTheBartender]

Yes, but these days I assume most women are seeing multiple men when I first meet them. I do live in a party City so it's different Dynamics from smaller cities. Answer mine if you have a sec

What is your vision of heaven?

[LiamJHayden]

Not really, because I expect her to let me know if she is taken.

[Monalisa77]

So if u started flirting with someone randomly and they never said, u would assume theyre single?

[Biancam13]

Yes, I do if I am truly interested. I don't want any messy situations or to disrespect someone else by flirting with someone who's taken. If they're taken, I will just be friends with them and keep a safe distance. If they're single, I will show interest.

[Malwi93]

yeah but if this asshole is saying he is single its him thats at fault, rgiht?

[Malwi93]

or lying about his status

[Biancam13]

@Malwi93 Yes.

[justkoala]

Yes, I usually like to find out if someone I'm interested in is already in a relationship before trying to get to know them better. It's important to respect their current situation and boundaries while also being open and honest about my intentions. Communication is key, and it helps establish a foundation of trust and respect in any potential relationship.

[KBird]

Typically yes, because if theyre being flirty and are committed to someone else, it leaves a bad taste. But, there's no harm in going for coffee and getting to know someone platonically. I think thats how you find out if theyre single.

[Finfin1981]

Yes it’s not worth the heartbreak if someone isn’t single

[Nikki1989]

Just because they are with someone doesn't mean you can't get to know them.

[Monalisa77]

It would hurt A lot knowing u couldnt be with them though?

[Radiate143]

Also, would you loke some broad getting to know your man. That's so selfish.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Why? Aside from the fact you've little self respect & less for their relationship. Can't make it anymore obvious you're desperate except for stripping naked in front of the guy.

[Monalisa77]

? I don't think it looks desperate lol this current guy i like is flirting with me and staring, i dont even look back when he stares, i just wanna know if he's single so i dont get too into him then making myself heart broken

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@Monalisa77 - obviously you do feel desperate otherwise why else did you respond to my response to Nikki's comment

[Monalisa77]

I reply most of the time out of boredom and also sometimes its not clear whos responding to who, but I've never dated n im 35 so can you blame me if i was, i dont go after guys unless they show something first

[BoopBoopBeep]

Normally I just ask her, yeah, but if we're coworkers then I'd like to get to know her regardless, so I may ask later.

[ArrowheadSW]

It just depends on what level I am interested in her. If she is a romantic interest, then yes I might check on social media.

[Billlewis]

No, because if she has a boyfriend, I actually consider that a positive, because I can simply spoil them both, if he's okay with that.

[AydenHazor]

I put no as I get to know them as a friend first, regardless of whether they're seeing someone, and if they are seeing someone, it won't progress past that friendship

[Monalisa77]

Sometime s u meet someone who ur attracted to fairly soon, it doesn't always work out u would b friends first

[AydenHazor]

Absolutely. Just because I find someone physically attractive, which can be determined immediately upon seeing them, doesn't mean we would be compatible romantically. I've got several great friends who I got to know as friends after finding them physically attractive to find that we make great friends but wouldn't be compatible in a relationship due to differing expectations, confrontation styles, etc. Some friendships may not last, but sometimes you wind up with a great friend with no burned bridges that you wouldn't have had if you just jumped into trying to get to know them romantically or sexually

[Monalisa77]

True, i just make friends with people i dont find attractive 😂

[AydenHazor]

I'm absolutely friends with some people I don't find attractive, but I have many attractive friends as well. I'd have missed out on some of the best friendships of my life otherwise. I also try to live by the rule of not saying anyone I can't or am not friends with. I want to know that I like someone as a person, and love them as a friend, before deciding to spend excessive time with them and let myself love them romantically only to find that I didn't actually like them.

[ManOnFire]

I usually try to find that out in one way or another, yeah.

[Adaeva]

No, of course not. It would not be long before I change boyfriends anyway.

[AmeerX]

Yes sadly it's always in the process of talks that I find oh yeah so you are taken. Yay congratulations 🎉.

[Pop777]

That would be wise and classy

[clampfan101]

It’s not the first thing I ask, but yes. lol

[Starrrboy]

Yeah always do your detective work lol

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yes i do my home work

[strateguy632]

2nd,,

[exitseven]

I just go in hot.

[ManOnFire]

Lol.

[eastcoastgirlie]

Bold. I like it.

[exitseven]

@eastcoastgirlie Bold? , Maybe. Stupid? , absolutely.

[roy_ricky09]

Never

[DreamLife7]

No..

[riverrat3]

They should tell you

[cocoblah]

Do your research

[eagle1951]

yeah