My friend stole my crush and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

My friend knows I have the biggest crush on this guy and I think he liked me too. But now she started talking to him way more. Gets touchy with him and really close with him. They laugh a lot. I feel like he is starting to like her back now from the way he response back to her actions. He teases her and she tease him. She flirts with him in front of my face as if I’m not there. She knows I liked him for months and now it’s him and her. I was wondering what should I do. I’m not as outgoing as she is. I don’t have that much experience in talking to guys and she knows that too. I feel betrayed and defeated.

[caring__1]

It is impossible to lose something that was never yours to start with, and no one can steal that which isn't yours.

You wanted him to like you, yet his preference of personality was hers, not yours. It's better we discover people's preferences early on, so we don't invest in something that won't lead anywhere.

If you believe your friend went after him just to push your buttons, then she's not much of a friend, and you probably don't want to put forth much effort to maintain that "friendship." If they just drew together like magnets, and it had nothing to do with you, then be happy for her happiness and find someone who appreciates you as you are, not for what you could or should be.

There are many differences between what draws people together. Find people who value your uniqueness rather than expect people to conform to what works for you or expect yourself to conform to what works for them. Though opposites tend to attract, compatibility is key to enduring relationships. Expecting others to fill your voids, thinking their assets will rub off on you, and you will grow, doesn't lead to positive results. Since they are so competent, you'll just rely on their expertise and never develop your own.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, I am mad for you right now! That friend of yours is NOT a real one, I can't believe she would do that.

Don't let this get you down though, you are amazing and don't need a dude who'd rather flirt with a snake like her anyway. Drop both of them from your life - you'll feel so much lighter without all that drama weighing you down.

And don't think for a second she's better than you just cause she's flirty. Confidence comes from loving yourself, not from chasing after some lame boy. I say focus on surrounding yourself with real friends who respect you, join a new club or activity, start doing your own thing.

Pretty soon you'll be glowing up so much those clowns will be begging to be your fan again! But you'll see how wack they are and keep it pushing. You got this sis, your shine is natural - don't need no boy's validation. He wasn't the one for you and you'll find way better, believe that!

In the meantime, do your skin routine, throw on yourfav upbeat jam and dance it out girl! Let your glow outshine those haters any day. You're a Queen, don't ever forget it 👑

[Staximus]

It wasn't nice of your friend but she didn't steal your boyfriend. Have you even tried to hang out with the guy and told him or made it obvious that you are attracted to him? He's not psychic. You can't just sit there and do nothing and hope he reads your mind. If you do nothing, some other girl is just going to come along and take him.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just have a talk with her and tell her how you feel, like it's kind of hurtful and if she were a friend she wouldn't do that.

[boggboss]

How do u know she didn't like him also?

[Anonymous]

Tbh she can't steel him if he like you