Girls, Do you think Shy Guys Deserve to get Ignored by Girls as much as they do and why or why not?

[Anonymous]

[Cutegirl06]

No, I think shy guys are kinda cute. Why should they be ignored?

[Asker]

Because they usually are ignored by Most Women that's all.

[Nikki1989]

It is not like it happens on purpose.

[Asker]

How does it happen then?

[Anonymous]

It depends on whether being shy is an excuse to run away from issues

[Opinion Owner]

If so, then that’s not being shy, that’s cowardice. If they’re just a bit self conscious and reserved, then no.

[Asker]

That's fair enough, But who is more likely to get support if they are Shy a Girl or a Guy?

[Opinion Owner]

In my opinion, neither one of them. Everyone has to earn respect from people. I got dumped by a friend and no one really talks to her or mentions her. She’s shy and expected that because I have lots of friends, that she’d make more, too. I like her, but she’s not a very likeable person.

[Opinion Owner]

But the thing is, I have lots of friends, because I care about and show interest in people.

[Opinion Owner]

My point being, you have to go for what you want in life and earn it to keep it

[HappyWoman34]

What are your thoughts?

[Asker]

@HappyWoman34 But the fact is the Shy Girl is going to get more support and be liked more by the opposite Sex aren't they.

A Shy Guy is lonely, A Shy Girl would at least have one Friend to Support Her.

Shy Guys don't get that even if they have Friends, A Shy Guy is looked down upon not just by Girls but by Society, Most Guys will find a Shy Girl Cute and Attractive as long as She is reasonably Physically Attractive.

You Girls want someone Confident, That is only about 20 to 30% of Guys the other 70 or 80% are ignored by Women.

[Asker]

@HappyWoman34 https://youtu.be/C9ONWHXCsrk?feature=shared

[Opinion Owner]

I tend not to personally like guys who are too confident. However, guys who fear intimacy and are afraid to kiss me, but obviously want me, are wasting my time and every other woman’s time.

[Opinion Owner]

I just watched your movie. It was interesting, especially the bit about guys waiting for the right moment and coming across as being creepy.

[Opinion Owner]

So then, how does a woman ‘not make the first move and not be easy, but be easy to approach?’

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve met some really cautious guys, two of them refusing to kiss me, one of them refusing sex and treating me like a friend. I gave them a Very Obvious Green Light. Surely men can’t expect us to hold their hands and lead them through everything?

[Asker]

In that Video he explains exactly how it is for us Guys.

Most of Guys are terrified of Girls thinking we are Creepy or Weird.

Most of you Girls are only dealing with the Confident Guys, That's the top 20 to 30% of Men.

Best thing to do to approach a Guy is act like you need help and act Shy.

Even a reasonably Confident Guy is gonna be afraid to ask out his Crush, So just make it easy for him and don't make him jump through hoops.

This is another good one from where explains a first date... https://youtu. be/71o3hq6iSPM? feature=shared

[Opinion Owner]

Ben? If someone gives you the green light to approach, then they can’t do more than that in my opinion, without potentially making fools of themselves.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t see that I made you, or that other guy jump through hoops. I made all the moves, asked you out, made it clear that I wanted intimacy. In my opinion, I made it easy for both of you. You just chose not to accept and I respected your wishes. I can’t be expected to then know when you won’t even speak to me on Facebook, that you’re ‘shy.’ In my mind, if a woman makes it obvious to a man and he still doesn’t take the shot, he’s not that interested. The other guy just saw me as a friend, I’m pretty sure. It gets embarrassing repeatedly asking a guy for intimacy and having them frequently reject you.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not ignoring what you’ve said, I’m just clarifying women’s perspectives.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll watch this second YouTube one tonight and comment on it.

[Opinion Owner]

I couldn’t get to the link about first dates, so I can’t comment on it 😊

[Opinion Owner]

On the contrary, I don’t think nerves are a valid reason not to go out with someone. But that was your choice. How do I feel about it? I thought it was worth a shot at the time. It’s not going to end my world that you weren’t interested enough to be more than acquaintances 😊. I say whatever your reasons, they’re fair enough. It’s only when you lead people on that it’s wrong.

[Asker]

True, But I also don't think that not being Confident enough is a valid reason to be rejected by someone.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll just have my coffee and wake up, then I’ll answer you 😊

[Opinion Owner]

What would you suggest, rather than rejecting someone for not being confident enough?

[Opinion Owner]

I found I couldn’t just be your friend. Not when I thought we’d never get together. My feelings for you at the time were too strong.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m just trying to understand; and I realise now that it was wrong of me to call you creepy and weird. I had trouble understanding some of the things you did. But I now don’t think you’re creepy or weird. You were just doing the best you can when you’ve got Asperger’s syndrome, like I have; and the world is a confusing place. I’ll wait for your reply, then I have another question 😊

[Opinion Owner]

Heck, I’ll ask now. What is it that you’re seeking from explaining all of this? Are you asking why we’re not friends, or are you asking why I’m not more persistent now?

[Asker]

I'm just trying to see if a Girl on here can understand my point, I just think it's rude that Girls just Reject or Ignore this fact and think those Videos I shown you are just propaganda or just bullshit and it makes me Angry and Upset that I will never get a Girlfriend simply because I'm too Shy.

[Opinion Owner]

So, you’re trying your best to explain to me and to other women why some guys are too fearful to have relationships? I do get it, now. You are trying to explain why you couldn’t date me; and also to other women why some men struggle with romantic relationships?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably your Asperger’s didn’t help. You mean it causes really big issues for you socially and you can’t cope, but you’d like to and it’s frustrating and upsetting?

[Opinion Owner]

Thirdly, who’s to say you’ll never get a girlfriend? If it’s too much for you to cope with but you want to, I feel for you and I’m sorry you’re going through hardship.

[Opinion Owner]

Others will understand. They just may not know how to respond.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry for not understanding sooner, Ben. The fact is it’s hard to understand, both because of my own Asperger’s and because we have different symptoms and are at different autism spectrum ends.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m assuming you are this guy I know? Because you’ve quoted some stuff that’s relevant to us and stuff I’ve said in the past.

[Asker]

I'm not Autistic and I don't have Aspbergers so I don't know who you think I am.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I understand, anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

Be at peace, knowing I understand and that now, you have my respect and can be assured of my secrecy about the rest of this, Ben.