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Dealing with attach avoiding person what to do?

Kokoroho

I (30) used to like this girl (26) but we always get into it over simple requests of spending time and bit of bonding. Which we lack. ( face time, watch k drama together, chat about nothing) or her not accepting criticism when she is in her own way and being stubborn.

Through all that she admit we was little more than friends. That's when took it upon myself to do little more. We now say good morning, goodnight, chat every now and then. But since we started flirting bit more she pulls back. Or when we chat and we get happy point she pulls back. So a week ago. I did the same thing. Haven't been on her instagram, I don't initiate texts as I normally do, I'm currently doing my own work in filming, we dont flirt as much, just down hill. Now it's been a week and gave her space. She slowly trying get my attention.

●showing the food she eats, asking about my film work, saying she really miss me, she voice chat me goodmorning and how she doesn't want to get out of bed.

●Then she at night she show me her food, tells me she watching kdrama show. But sends me video clip of a couple lying bed and she kisses him, and nother clip of the couple watching pink painting. My response was surface level. "Aww, sweet scene, looks cozy. Lovely floral paintings. I'd wouldn't mind hanging that on a wall."

●And when she went to sleep, she sent video message of her saying good night with big smile, then closed her eyes then open them with bigger smile. She then said she miss me.

Yes she's emotionally immature, I feel she's attach avoidant, and is guided by her emotions or mood. But when I pull back. She puts in effort. Not sure what do in this situation. My mind tells she needs to learn to communicate feelings more directly. But honestly not going to force her.

Dealing with attach avoiding person what to do?
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