How to deal with touchy coworkers?

[tasqueen]

I have coworker who keep touching us.
How should be deal with them?

[Summeroflove]

It depends on how they’re touching you. If it’s making you uncomfortable then directly say it is. Don’t be a weirdo who allows someone to violate you. Because they will start thinking it’s okay until they do it to the wrong person. If it’s innocent enough and doesn't bother you then that’s one thing.

[Unicornrose]

HR. I'm comfortable with all my male coworkers. I'm even sleeping with the boyfriend of o e of my bosses. And I work with all men. If you are not okay with attention you are getting take time and dates. If you have never been close to this person make it clear to HR. If your environment is close and hold family safe hugs and fat pinching like mine does let then know. Tell them this dude touched you sexually. I had a guy come from another shift a play with my hands and play with the small of my neck on job. Take all notes. If you don't have time and date go to HR anyway. They can't do anything but they have awareness. Keep a nite book. Document anyone creepy. Your request will make a punishment happen

[IslaTheWitch]

I never thought much... unwanted touch always meant my immediate reaction like slap on face or kick between legs - depends on the situation

But I grew up in the area where maintaining my reputation was crucial... so I learned to keep everyone on distance and I didn't let anyone to have stupid thoughts...

[tasqueen]

I can't kick him that's the problem

[IslaTheWitch]

of course you can... it was defense... but at workplace I would rather slap him in the face and firmly said "keep your hands away from me". Briefing HR is always a good idea.

[tasqueen]

Can't do that he will spoil my career

[TonyMetal___86]

@IslaTheWitch you're an aggressive woman, so if a woman comes and touches me, should i punch her in the face and give her a free plastic surgery but without a surgery? 😏

Chill out woman, you can always warn them or sue them!

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 touching WITHOUT consent is against the law. The first time always goes with verbal firm communication. I'm a polite person and let people make ONE mistake. I assume that as human beings they will learn on their mistakes. But if it's not the case I will teach them myself. And if defending my dignity and integrity is an aggression in your language, let's it be.

[IslaTheWitch]

@tasqueen it's your decision. I would never let anyone degrade me that way and I never have

[TonyMetal___86]

Now you're making some sense in your opinion, ofc if you tell the person politely to not touch you again and he did it again on purpose than you have the right to defend yourself and sue them because it means that this person is crossing the red lines and had some bad intentions!

Now i agree with you, unlike the 1st comment where you appeared as if you're going into a wrestling match 🤣🤣

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 did you read the main question? The Asker mentioned it's repeating situation. My answer was for the question

[TonyMetal___86]

Did you read what the asker is replying to all the comments? It seems that it's just a troll question who is just bored!

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 maybe, but still my answer was for the question and in created context

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay wrestler isla 😄

[SolivagantRises]

If you don't care about him so much, then call him out in front of everybody (in a sly way) the next time he touches you. It will embarrass him and he will probably not do it again.

[tasqueen]

I tried to move away in a way that he understands that I don't like but still it doesn't stop them

[SolivagantRises]

Then just call him out in front of everybody the next time he does it. Say something sly like, "how many more times are you gonna touch me so I know for sure!" and then laugh about it.

[HelpfulWoman]

moving away isn't clear enough. you have to be vocal.

[Siri137]

If that happened to me, I'd get super-flirty with that person and touch him/her back; try to embarrass them.

[tasqueen]

That's good idea

[JustinTheGreat]

It’s crazy that out of all the opinions on this question, THIS is the one that OP thinks is a good idea.
Like what lol

[Summeroflove]

Even if they’re ugly? And stinky?

[Siri137]

@Summeroflove No, only if they're reasonably attractive, and don't stink. Then I'd have to come up with some other plan.

[Summeroflove]

But you also have to understand that, if you allow someone to do something like this to you. They will think this type of behavior is acceptable until they do it to the wrong person. Attractive or not.

They may do it to someone whose married, someone who would feel violated regardless of how attractive they are.

It can also encourage people who aren’t attractive to see someone else is getting swag with it and try doing it themselves.

This is why some people get brazen sexually assaulting people until they get caught. Because… Frankly they get away with it.

[lightbulb27]

go to HR and possibly get moved.

companies don't like such lawsuits and women often win those huge paydays.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You gotta straight up tell em to not touch You, being assertive will help

[tasqueen]

I can't do that

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why not

[tasqueen]

Bcoz he will spoil my career

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think they can legally do that

[OtterMan68]

1) politely ask him you are not a touchy person, and you would appreciate if he respected that.

2) If he does not respect that, go to his boss and complain

[firenine909]

What have your coworkers been doing with you and do you hate it?

[Anonymous]

You just take a stapler
Open the bit where the paper goes in and then staple their hand

Then say you touch me again it won't be your hand

[boobliker]

do the same back in publick so every one can see, it pissed you off.

[Alex-Snow]

If ignoring them does not work just casually tell them that you do not like to be touched

[Sharkstealth]

That would get me fired in my field of work.

[Sharkstealth]

Oh I think you should tie him to your bed post and invite all of the girls in the office he touches over and strip him naked. You should then reciprocate his touching back on him.
If you think this to be to good for him then I would be a willing participant for you to unveil your anger on.

[dolemite58]

Like grabbing ur ass or just doing like creepy hugs?

[tasqueen]

Grabbing ass

[dolemite58]

Report him to your boss and hr

[tasqueen]

He is biss

[tasqueen]

Boss

[dolemite58]

Get a witness and sue his ass

[KrakenAttackin]

"Them"? More than one or are you "respecting pronouns"?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You have to be serious and ask for them to keep their hands off you.

[moneymagnet24]

Even I would do that if I'm your coworker
It's not his fault you're so fucking hot 🔥

[BLP11520]

That picture is definitely should get somebody fired😡

[slatyb]

Call him out loudly when it happens.

[tasqueen]

I can't do that
I have to be polite with him bcoz of career growth

[slatyb]

Do you work for him? With him? He is sexually assaulting you. Is he doing this to other women as well?

[tasqueen]

I work for him

[slatyb]

Find another job, then report him.

[slatyb]

How large is the company you work for?

[tasqueen]

I am model so work in various projects

[JosyJosy]

Report him and get him fired.

[PeachyPie93]

Report him to HR

[Nikki1989]

I am used to it at this point.

[tasqueen]

Me too but sometimes it becomes soon irritating

[Anastasia_543]

Slap him right there.

[JustinTheGreat]

Go to management or HR