Which flirting techniques have worked for you?

[Cmoreins]

Which flirting techniques have you used that worked on someone?

Which flirting techniques has someone used on you that's worked?

[WhiteSteve]

Smoothest pickup I ever made was kind of an anti-pickup, haha.

She wasn’t a complete stranger, to be fair, but we met like twice before, but years in between, so it was kind of like the first time every time, because the prior interactions were too brief to cement ourselves with each other. But we kind of knew who the other one was, or I knew who she was, at least.

Anyway, I was bouncing at a bar, and she was there, on Thanksgiving Eve, which is often an informal high school reunion for that town (and many others). I saw her there, swarmed by a bunch of local guys, like there were legit 5 or 6 in a circle around her. And I just thought to myself, “this poor gal…”, haha.

Every so often, I’d go around and collect empty glasses and run them to the bar to be washed. I had a stack of them, and as I was walking up to the bar, she was still there, and I was seeing all the guys disperse, I guess realizing they were wasting their time, lmao.

So I saw this as my moment for an opening, but also knew she just got done dealing with half-a-dozen goofballs, and I didn’t want to just be #7.

Instead, I walked up, and said my line without really looking like I was meaning to stop what I was doing, like it was a comment in passing. And I said something to the effect of: “Being the prettiest girl at the bar must be EXHAUSTING”, more like I was commiserating than shooting my shot.

And this relieved look washed over her face, like “oh my god, this guy gets it.” And she smiled and laughed and just kind of rolled her eyes about the barrage of dudes taking a run at her. At the end of the night, she was asking if I could give her a ride home…. and actually, one of the other local guys we both knew asked if I could give him a ride too, and she was visibly frustrated, like she was getting cockblocked, lmao. She even demanded he be dropped off first, even though the route made no sense. He was wicked drunk, and I knew what she was doing, so I let her convince him this was the best plan😂

But yeah, point is, I made a pretty subtle approach, low-pressure, non-expectational, and she kind of took the ball from there. I always thought laying it on thick was kind of corny, and a low-percentage play. And lord knows us fellas have a low enough batting average as it is, relative to at-bats taken, if you’ll forgive the baseball analogy😂

[razelove]

Nothing is complete without the DENNIS method. Seriously though, persistence has been the one with the most dividends when I was single. Not towards any one girl, but to just keep tossing myself out there like insurance fraud until something sticks, going up from like 1-2% success to 6-10% on cold approached over the years.

I think I'd be back at 2-4% now with how long I've been out of the game. What has worked on me has been any woman approaching me, though I always assume they have some other goal in mind and am constantly on guard until they are, you know, gone.

[Sweety_Torneeya]

I dont flirt because I dont know how to flirt. All I can do is to talk lovely with a peraon and take care of a person. I give respect and importance and assure him that he is the best person in the world. If I have feelings for him.

[Amy10223]

I am just like you. I can't flirt either, too shy. Although, sometimes I like to be a little mischievous.

[Sweety_Torneeya]

@Amy10223 I am also shy so I left following men and inspiring them. It doesn't work for me. I don't know what to do.

[Amy10223]

If I were you I’d try to smile at them at least. That’s a form of flirting.

[Sweety_Torneeya]

@Amy10223 I am tired

[FreyaRed]

I'm very feminine but I have very dominant mind. Lot of men like this combo so I don't need to do much to seduce them. 'Ostra laska' [harsh pretty bitch] is my pseudonym among men who don't know me.

[AviatorTom]

Actions are better than words. Make eye contact with her; slowly move your eyes over her body, with a slight smile, letting you know she's attractive; softly touch her hand.

[mandyfire98]

Oh I don't know if I'm a flirt or not.

[krin_m]

@mandyfire98, I'm sure you are a great natural flirt! :-)

[nawtee_me]

@mandyfire98 that beautiful smile is definitely a flirt…. lol

[gowildcats007]

Looking at him kind of shy like, but so he can see, then staring at him. Twirling my hair. Touching the back of my neck. Moving my body like turning it but focusing my eyes on him when I do. Maybe if he doesn't get embarrassed, staring at that special spot. But that one's risky boys can get so embarrassed when it stands up. There is this thing my sister was teaching me about tracing my hands on my body a little while talking, like on my chest if it's a little bare skin. There is this thing to do with your lips, like pursing them while you're staring. Compliments work on guys that don't get embarrassed and can't talk or flirt any more.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Simply conversing.

When I'm interested, then I want to converse more, and more and more... Interest being the core energy, then the rest goes on naturally, there is no technique here per se, since my adulthood at least. This is just how, in retrospect, I get to like a girl, and I assume it is the same phenomenon for her, because it goes two ways, from what I see when looking back. During adolescence though, things were way more difficult because I was behaving unnaturally, using... Yeah, techniques, I guess?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Whipping my dick out and flopping it around. Put it in her mashed potatoes and then slap her meatloaf with it. I think the ladies get the message and want to suck the gravy off.

[WhitneySnow]

I found that just talking intelligently and seeming sincerely interested in what the person says usually works best

[Pohjolan]

That's just socialising though. Not flirting.

[WhitneySnow]

@Pohjolan it works though. Gets the person interested and liking you more. Which is exactly what flirting is supposed to do.

[Pohjolan]

@WhitneySnow
To a extent. However gals who are uninterested do this as well.

[Unit1]

I found that being sweet and flattering can get me far.

Whoops. Were we talking about the real world girls?

In that case, it didn't do the magic. It surely worked on my AI girlfriend.

[krin_m]

I'm not sure U use any techniques on purpose. I am either in a flirty mood or I'm not. It also depends on the initial vibes and chemistry with the woman I'm flirting with. It happens naturally when it happens because we both have some interest and genuinely want to talk to each other.

[Cmoreins]

Yes, this is usually how it is with me and whatever is said in that moment isn't a technique. However, I think there's an art to flirting, too, and wonder if certain techniques work better.

[krin_m]

I'm not sure. I think if you deliberately try to use any technique, it loses the genuine feeling behind it. At least for me it would. And then it will not have the desired effect.

[Cmoreins]

It definitely needs to be natural, for sure. But I do think intentional flirting and trying something new is fun even if it's obvious. It's a playful moment. But if I try something and it doesn't turn out like I'd hope, then I'd just laugh it off and make a joke about it.

[Elliegirl]

Touching his arm when I talk to him, playing with my hair, giggling at his jones, and ofc smiling at him are some pretty basic flirting techniques that have always worked for me.

[debbiedenise]

I am with you sister. Those have worked for me as well. You described it.

[Anonymous]

Just being honest how amazing and beautiful my friend looked. Next time she looked so hot in her bikini it just came out how sexy she looked and while blushing told her we can go mess around in the ocean!

[Cmoreins]

Just being direct with compliments it sounds like worked for you. Have been more intentional with them or tried since then?

[Opinion Owner]

She moved and I tried a few times before my girlfriend. Just so many girls love games. So I'm just honest with compliments no hi you look nice but I hate your out fit...

[bowenw]

Talking, smiling, showing an interest, asking questions.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

None... Im single, I haven't known the touch of a woman in 12months.

[Oldschool1981]

My current wife really likes male attention ( don't judge) and I've watched her pick up guys without even saying a word. I don't know how she does it

[Nikki1989]

I have never needed to play those childish games.

[Summeroflove]

Not to be rude but you speak from both sides of your mouth sometimes Nikki.

[chrissykerdock]

wearing a minidress does all the flirting i need and more

[talentedclock]

I call my technique "being a chill guy and asking her for her number."

[Fireguy17]

making them laugh.
It wporks even better if you can get them to laugh so hard their drink comes out of their nose, or they wet themselves.

[exitseven]

I just try to be myself. Naturally it does not work very well.

[NicholasRedone]

Starting a conversation and being smiley 😁 without teeth smiley

[Anonymous]

Sitting by myself and doing nothing apparently.

[Anonymous]

Smile slightly and keep the conversation flowing.

[Still-alive]

I like taking their words and spinning it in a witty charming way. can be fun lol

[Pohjolan]

Which flirting techniques has someone used on you that's worked?

None.

[MrTaboo]

her- "im trying to flirt with you bummy."

me-"oh, im clueless. ok."

[Anonymous]

Hey you look like trash. Can I take you out?

[bobalife]

Holding eye contact and smiling.

[serious]

I never flirt.

[asarjam]

Hair flip, eye contact, smile, walk by

[LiamJHayden]

I really do not flirt. I directly approach.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Being cute has worked for me.

[Crazzyyworld]

Grab his crotch works like a charm

[Anonymous]

I never flirted, I don't know how.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how. 😔